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Help please
Controlling behavior- decides where you will go, who you
are "allowed" to see, is bossy. gives orders and expects them to be
followed, makes all the decisions in the relationship, does not
respect your opinions, wants and needs, tells you how to dress,
accuses you of things you didn't do, everything has to be his/her
way.
Isolation- through behaviors or words tries to have you all to
him/herself. Does not like you to be around anyone but him/her. Sees
friends and family as competition. Expects you to stay home alone if
you are not with him/her.
Blames others for problems- does not accept responsibility for
his/her behavior, always thinks others or the world are out to get
him/her, sees everything as anyone and everyone else's fault but
his/her own, will not hold him/herself accountable for words or
actions, always has an excuse.
2006-09-13 08:05:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
hes an idiot...get away from him like he has the plague...actually he sounds worsethan the plague...at least with the plague you would be dead in few hours.....he sounds like very slow death. he jealous controlling and insecure. you can try changing him if ya want but from the sound of it its waste of time
2006-09-13 08:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by brotherwolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have children together keep in mind that they are seeing how he treats you and they in turn will think this is normal behavior and create this same grief for their future spouses. The children are always what must come first. Do what is best for them. You can find a good man and if your husband is not willing to get any professional help then he really does not care about keeping the marriage together. If no children involved say "See Ya" got better things to do with my time
2006-09-13 15:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sharonator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know that abusive behavior tends to escalate. While he may not be hurting you physically, he is emotionally abusive and there's every reason to believe that he'll cross the line someday. I've been divorced for nearly seven years and nobody's rejected me as "used up" yet. Take a stand for yourself; if you treat yourself like a worthwhile person, others will see you that way (just not this loser... he needs professional help!)
2006-09-13 08:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 100% wrong. Every person is a valuable treasure, and that includes YOU. You deserve to be treated much better.
Sometimes it's hard to define abuse when you are at the receiving end. I just want to confirm that what you described is nothing short of abuse. You have legitimate concerns and should find someone who will take them seriously and help you.
2006-09-13 08:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have responded to your questions about your husband before. You continue to stay with him so I don't have any sympathy for you. If you really think that what he says, that he hits you, tells you you are worthless and a **ore is right and true then no one here can help you. You must like the way he treats you.
2006-09-13 08:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I would've left his *** a long time ago. There are tons of women out there that have been married before that get remarried and remarried and remarried. Just because you were once married does not mean that no one is going to want you. If he didn't get a prenup when you got married, I'd hire a good lawyer and screw his *** over!
2006-09-13 08:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by maddogkcsgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have posted this exact same post about 8 times. What are you looking for. Everyone so far has answered you the same. The answer is no, he is a control freak and leave him.
Enough said
2006-09-13 08:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAM, you need to get out of that cituation. There is help out there IF you can manage to get out of the house.
I really feel for you and have seen the out comes of such events. I truly hope there is no children involved.
If he's that contolling I suppose he knows your e-mail and looks at it. Put a new one that he don't know about.
E-MAIL me then and I'LL tell you how to escape this
For now do all you can to keep him calm.
MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU SAFE
2006-09-13 08:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by volleyball55morrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eek! it sounds like he needs professional help! I would recommend saving divorce as a last resort though. Look into marriage counseling or something. But if he gets physically abusive, get out of there immediately!
2006-09-13 08:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! I'm newly divorced. I have a son and i'm 22 and i will tell you that i have more glances my way than ever before. if you carry yourself with confidence people will notice it. so hold your head high girl their are meany divorced girls out there who are a walking example that you can find love after divorce or atleast a good lay!!! lol
2006-09-13 08:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Melody M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋