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Controlling behavior- decides where you will go, who you
are "allowed" to see, is bossy. gives orders and expects them to be
followed, makes all the decisions in the relationship, does not
respect your opinions, wants and needs, tells you how to dress,
accuses you of things you didn't do, everything has to be his/her
way.
Isolation- through behaviors or words tries to have you all to
him/herself. Does not like you to be around anyone but him/her. Sees
friends and family as competition. Expects you to stay home alone if
you are not with him/her.
Blames others for problems- does not accept responsibility for
his/her behavior, always thinks others or the world are out to get
him/her, sees everything as anyone and everyone else's fault but
his/her own, will not hold him/herself accountable for words or
actions, always has an excuse.
2006-09-13 08:02:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not. It's a 50-50 deal. He is controlling and that is how an abuser starts out. First they isolate you from family and friends. They they break down your self confidence. The next steps are mental and even physical abuse. Get away from him immediately. He will make your life miserable. This is a text book case of mental abuse.
2006-09-13 08:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women say the husband should do what ever she says. Or they won't say that but they will act out that part, and the man suffers. It's wrong, a relationship should be equal in power. If I was with a woman that acts the way your guy is, I'd have a deep talk with her about it, and if she didn't change, dump her in a second and throw away my feelings for her.
I'm assuming your being honest and haven't done any of the above you mentioned yourself. From what I experience, a lot of women have a way of making it sound like the man is at fault, and she is innocent, when she acutally played a negative role as well. I hope your being honest.
2006-09-13 08:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the old days this used to be very true. I think to a certain degree, it still should be, but not to that point at all. Not when you feel like nothing you have to say matters or your opinion doesn't count. I know a lot of women say it should be equal, and maybe in some relationships it can be, but in some one partner is more of the rock than the other, and it could be the female who is that person. I think you should change things or leave since you don't like the way he is making things be for you.
2006-09-13 08:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think anyone should be in a relationship like that. Both people will need professional help. But it sounds as if needs to be ended.
2006-09-14 05:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by staxi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking about George Bush or Tony Blair?
2006-09-13 08:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIAGE IS 50/50, GIVE AND TAKE, COMMUNICATION, RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER, AND A LOT OF HARD WORK. WE ARE NOT CAVEMEN AND THIS IS NOT THE 16 CENTURY, THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY AND LIKE MALES WOMEN TOO HAVE EVOLVED BEYOND THESE MALE IGNORANT TRAITS.
2006-09-13 08:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no that's not the issue i've been married 3yrs and i love it. my hubbie is a lil bossy but in a good way. just remember your hubbie is your king and you are the queen. and as you know the queeen doesn't make major decisions.
2006-09-13 08:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by hiallthatyme2004 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not. You are treated the way you allow others to treat you! I think you better grow a backbone, and fast!
2006-09-13 08:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are describing my possessive and insecure ex-husband. I finally divorced him and although I had years of struggle, I am now much happier and much better off!
2006-09-13 08:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that does sound terrible. It is abuse to be treated this way!! Very serious !!Not healthy!! physical abuse may soon follow. Don't let that happen to you!!
2006-09-13 08:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋