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Controlling behavior- decides where you will go, who you
are "allowed" to see, is bossy. gives orders and expects them to be
followed, makes all the decisions in the relationship, does not
respect your opinions, wants and needs, tells you how to dress,
accuses you of things you didn't do, everything has to be his/her
way.
Isolation- through behaviors or words tries to have you all to
him/herself. Does not like you to be around anyone but him/her. Sees
friends and family as competition. Expects you to stay home alone if
you are not with him/her.
Blames others for problems- does not accept responsibility for
his/her behavior, always thinks others or the world are out to get
him/her, sees everything as anyone and everyone else's fault but
his/her own, will not hold him/herself accountable for words or
actions, always has an excuse.
2006-09-13 08:01:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am glad you found your freedom, but more than anything sounds like you found yourself. I am in a great marriage, however I am aware that there are people out there that can't say the same. To them my heart, hand, and ear go out and I think it was very strong and brave of you to get you and your children to a better place in life. I think the fact that you are trying to help others get to that place makes you a beautiful human being!
Here's to you! Best wishes for you and your family!
2006-09-13 08:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't really get what all that mumbo-jumbo is, but honey, so man should tell you how to act, what to wear or order/demand things from you. You are his housewife, he should love you, and one big word you should have learned before marriage "COMPROMISE". Talk with him and tell him how you are feeling, no need to take excess crap from him that makes you feel like sh!t, that's not a good husband, find one that treats you right, like a princess and one that doesn't take advantage of all that you give him. You are a working woman helping to support the two of you, whether you stay at home or work for a business, either way, you are keeping things stable for the two of you.
2006-09-13 15:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not good! Ur lad is to controlling, and it can only get worse! Either take a stand and show him YOU do have a opinion, You aren't a child, and You do not take orders when they are barked at you!! Also leave his sorry*** You'll find someone who treats you much better, and with more respect. If you really love him then explain to him that a relationship is a partnership not a one man show. Personaly I would leave.
2006-09-13 15:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the heck out of there!!!!! Wives are to be submissive to their husbands, HOWEVER and I mean a BIG HOWEVER - we are not rugs. We are not there for them to abuse, use and rule and to be walked on. Your situation scares me. Please seek help at a domestic violence shelter or somewhere he can't find you. Although you didn't mention if he's ever hit you, there are other ways one can be abusive. And you are definately being abused.
2006-09-13 15:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and done that, what i did was pray about the situation and then i put my foot down and he didnt like it very much so he tried putting his hands on me so i put the police on him. Now he respects me more even though we ended up divorced he wish he had to treated me better and we would still be together. God bless you
2006-09-13 15:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by fiveft_fine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the funny answer to your question......
A couple of newleyweds are in their bedroom, and the man takes off his trousers and throws them over to his wife and says "Put these on". The wife tries to put them on, but they are much too large. The wife says " I can't wear your pants, they are too large for me" The husband replies " That's right. You just remember who wears the pants in this family." The wife then takes off her panties and throws them to her husband and says "here, put these on." The husband take the panties and tries to put them on. They are much too small and no matter how hard he tries, he cannot even get one leg in her panties. Finally, he turns to his wife and says "There is no way that I can get into your panties." The wife turns to him and says "That's right, and it is going to stay that way until you change that attitude."
2006-09-13 15:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by whidd2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is an abusive relationship.
2006-09-13 15:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical. that's not how it should be but i sometimes is. stand your ground and tell them! it's not how it should be something's not right
2006-09-13 15:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm....What are you doing wasting your time on the computer when you should be in the KITCHEN!!!
2006-09-13 15:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋