Meth in your family?

Question

Anyone have any problems with Meth running in their families? My sister...who is 28, smart, pretty, funny, loving, has been addicted to meth for the past 9 years. She has two small boys ages 8 and 3. My mom and dad raise the oldest one and the youngest one lives with his father...We hardly get to see him and the boys were tore apart. It breaks my heart. We came from a wonderful loving background. Always had the "good" family. Active in church and activities. I just cant believe the turn her life has taken. Ive cried hours over her. Today has been a year since her children were removed from her house. Exactly a year. She completed 30 days of treatment. YUP only 30 days, we worked so hard to have her commited and they let her go after 30 days. She moved in with me and my family, for 3 months she lived with us. We took care of her and her and i became the best of friends like we use to be. I havent talked to her in well over a month. I miss her i love her i need her shes my sister.

My nephews need her and miss her. Meth is afecting everyone in some way or another. Its a horrible drug. What can we do for her? I know the first step is making sure she wants the help, and trust me she does. She has destroyed herself and shes so far gone she doesnt know where to start.....Someone?

Answer 1

I kinda of know how you feel , my son who is 24 yrs old had been addicted to different drugs started with pot at 15 and continued with worse drugs, since then has stolen off of us a lot I couldn't even tell you how many nights I cried , has been in jail . Now has a pretty nice girlfriend for several yrs. they have a 2 yr old beautiful girl and a 1 yr old son, she is going to get this have a set of twins nov. 1. He doesn't work says he can't ,they stay with us , its constant turmoil.I also have a 27 yr old daughter with 2 babies who is very responsible lives on her own works does very well and is also hearing impared! They were both raised in a christian home , this breaks my heart I stay upset all the time and am never really happy. After so many years I don't know how to be. we still go to church the only thing I can say is, God is in control, let him be, somethimes it gets hard and we get scared but imagine he loves your sister more than you and I could ever begin to imagine his love is unconditional and he loves you too!!! just keep praying for God to put a hedge around her for protection and bring her to her senses like he did the prodigal son (read it) he came to his senses we have to believe that they will come to their senses and come home. keep praying and trust in GOD!!

Answer 2

I personally have no experience with meth in my family or anyone that i know, but I have watched a few episodes of Intervention on A&E and they deal with a lot of meth users. The A&E website lists some treatment centers and other information that might be useful. I'm sorry to hear about everything that you're family is going through, hope something works out.

Answer 3

I feel for you. We are dealing with a cocaine addict in my family. Only he doesn't want the help. He'd just rather mooch off of everyone else and use his drug habit as an exuse to not have to get a job (cause they drug test, so he can't apply) He has two sons who are watching him tear his and their lives apart along with hurting the rest of the family. I am very sorry to hear about your sister. But if she knows she needs help, that is a very good sign. She is hitting bottom. Meth is a very very hard drug to get off of. They say that if a person has tried it once, they are addicted for life. It never completely gets out of their system.

She needs your unconditional love and support. It's going to be a long hard road. Be there for her, never give up on her or she will give up on herself. Remind her when she is sober of her boys who need her. They need her to stay clean. If she goes to rehab and gets out too early, get her back in there until she can be clean for good.

meth will tear the best of families apart. It doesn't matter how good a background they come from. It only takes one hit. I am very sorry about your sister. I know it's tough, but there is hope knowing that she wants to stop. Keep that hope in her, never let her give up.

Best of luck to you and yours!!!

Answer 4

i don't know what to tell you. she has to want to quit in order for it to work. my x b/f was a hard core meth user. i left him when our daughter was 3 months old. b/c he became violent. since i was out of his life, he became clean and straightened up his life. but there is no way i can go back to him, cuz of what i fear. i used to do it too. really bad. even while i was pregnant. but i quit when i hit 5 months. and i started up again when my daughter was 1 month. i have now been sober for 3 and a half months. b/c my daughter is most important to me, and i realized that. my daughter is now 14 months old. i have been doing meth for about 1 year before i quit. so i guess that is a different story. my ex on the other hand, has been an addict since he was 17years old and now he is 27. so i guess that is on the same page.

the only advice i have, that seemingly worked for me and my ex. is to move to another STATE and start over. my ex and i lived in Texas. now, he is in Louisiana with his family and i am in California and i have been living here for 10 months and i still don't have any friends. it worked for me and it worked for my ex.

move to another STATE and drag her with you.

Answer 5

Honestly, I've done almost every drug imaginable in my life and I still to this day don't understand why people cannot stop using drugs on their own. I started using drugs when I was 14 and I quit when I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I did not use drug when I was pregnant or nursing either of my two kids.

I began to use meth in 1999 and had been using coke and xtc before and after starting to use meth. I did not use meth everyday at first. Only a few times a week. In fact, I moved to another state for exactly one year and did not use any meth for that year. When I moved back to my home state in 2004 I ended up being in a situation where I could use daily and for two years that's what I did.

Here we are in 2006, and I decided to quit. I got into some legal trouble but all I was charged with was marijuana. I only go once a month to report and I know when they are gonna piss test me, so I could still use if I wanted and actually did use up until I made up my mind to quit. I didn't go to rehab, I haven't joined N.A. and I have no miracle cure for not using. It's called willpower and wanting to quit.

I look at all the people I used to sell to and/or hang out with. I look at my fellow users/dealers. What a bunch of wimps and losers! I took a challenge with myself to beat what everyone else has called addiction and guess what.....I'm winning....by myself.

They say that most addicts don't make it past 90 days on their own without a some type of sponsor but I've made bet with myself that I can make it for as long as I want to. This is my friggin body and my friggin mind and I AM IN CONTROL of this damn party....NOT METH, NOT COKE, NOT CRACK, NOT XTC, NOT PILLS!!!

Meth was my drug of choice! I used to keep my pipe loaded in the bedside table so when I finally did go to sleep, I could wake up and hit it before I got on with my day. I had limitless access so large amounts were nothing to me...running out was virtually unheard of, but when I did I slept for days. I only woke long enough to piss and stuff my face with the food my body had been missing out on.

If your sister isn't quitting then she needs to know that somewhere deep in her mind she doesn't believe she can quit or she doesn't want to. If she can't quit on her own, then her best bet is to take her butt to an N.A. meeting and get a sponsor. I know what she's going through...she can't sleep at night without dreaming about it and it invades her thoughts several times a day. I'm human, so I know, but tell your sister to think about what is really important...like her kids. Tell her to learn some friggin self-control!

I may sound mean, but the truth is, you can't be mambie-pambie with drug addiction. The drug world is a cold, hard place, so don't be afraid to tell your sister that I said she's a wimp. She needs to suck it up and if she can't do it alone then she needs to get to a meeting where a group of other addicts can help her!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

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