Is 22 really young to get married, I have had a lot of grief!?

Question

I got married at 22 to my boyfriend of 3 years.

We are now 25 and are hoping to start a family soon.

I live in California in the city and people constantly ask me if my husband is in the military or if I was pregnant when we married.

They think only military wives and knocked up women get married in their early 20's.

I still don't think 22 is too young to marry when you got your stuff together, and I was always mature I had a college degree, a career and a house when I married.

Why do people think 22 is SO young to be married?

Some people marry for love even when they are "young"!

Answer 1

I married at 21 and we have our 5th year anniversary this month! People can get married at 40 and it still be too soon, it depends on your situation and your husband and your comitment to the relationship. We dont have any kids...I get grief about that one all the time..."what are you waiting for?" LOL. Take things at your pace.

Answer 2

B/C most people not all change before they hit 30 and want different things then when they were in there 20's. I hope it last but most dont. I think a good age is in you late 20's or early 30's. I settled down when I was 20. I am 32 now and divorced. But I did get to great kids out of it. I didnt get married b/c of kids or the military. We got married b/c we loved each other or thought we did. We both changed over the years and we both want something different and she acted on it and I didnt b/c I was commited to the marriage. Not sure why, maybe for my kids I guess. Anyway, people change and they mostly change in there early and late 20's. I hope the best for you 2. I hope everything works out. As long as you both think you did the right thing then dont worry about what others say. It will only drag you guys down.

Answer 3

You may have your stuff together but does he?

22 is still young yes, and at 21 I was married (for three years) to my guy of 6 1/2 years with one child. I am now 26 (in 2 1/2 weeks) and divorced after having 2 kids.

I am just now learning to live life as it should have been when I got married. Too many headaches and heartaches to deal with. I wish I would have finished school (you did- congrats) but I also want to travel more. And I intend to do so without being told what I can and cannot do or have anyone to answer to.

Answer 4

Good for you!! 22 isn't young if, as you say, you have your stuff together...some 26 year olds are more immature than 22 year olds...I'd simply state, in a nice way...well, I had my degree, my house and I guess I figured it was time to go for a husband"

It's really no one's business and some people put their noses where they really aren't suppose to be. You hang in their...you know you have it all together, so you have nothing to prove to anyone.

22 will be young to some, those who had a bad experience perhaps, while others with good experiences it won't be young at all...you just can't stop the responses from people so live the best you can...enjoy and know that it's all right with you :)

Good luck

Answer 5

I don't think that is young. At least you have your degree before you did all of that. I had just turned 24 when I got married. We had a quick wedding and I planned it in three months. EVERYONE thought I was pregnant because I planed it so fast. I guess people don't understand that we really just wanted to be married! When we told people nobody said congradulations, they first asked if I was preg! Now I am 25 and we are starting to plan on having a family. I think its normal. Don't listen to other people, thats why they are just living with their boyfriends and wondering why they are not getting any bling bling!

Answer 6

I think 22 is not to young to get married at all I live in California were 13 year olds are having kids and 17 and 18 year olds are getting married, so i think your doing really good. I am 18 and my b/f is 20 and everyone we know keeps trying to push us to get married, but i dont have enough money. I think if you loved each other and its still working out than it was worth it so who cares about everyone else

Answer 7

i think it's because now a days..women are getting married in their 30's and starting their married life later on in there lives. I'm 23 yrs old and i can remember being in highschool thinking i would marry my highschool sweetheart right out of highschool and have babies by the tim i was 21..no later....but i decided to break it off my high school sweetheart and "explore" other options..and other men...now i'm 23 have a great boy friend..don't know how close i am to getting married. the point is, when i look back i'm so glad i didn't marry at 19 yrs old...i've learned so much in the last few years...i have my whole life to get married and have children...i'm still young...i want to party and have some fun for now...but hey it worked for you...thats great!! :)

Answer 8

I got married at 19 had my first kid at 21. I don't think you're too young at all. If you want to start a family, do so. It's your life and if you're happy with it who cares what other people think. We live in a cruel judgmental world. People don't know when the foot has gone in their mouths way too far. Just take what they say with a grain of salt and move on. Some people just aren't ready to be married at a young age so they think no one else should be either. Don't worry about it, if you're happy that's all that matters!!

Answer 9

Unfortunately its one of those things that you wont see until your older. 22 is too young to be married but if its working for you then good. But I hope you dont have regrets in the years to come. I couldn't even imagine looking back and being married at 22. So much I would have missed out on.

Answer 10

I married at 21, got pregnant at 24, and got divorced at 28. Yes, 22 is way young for a lifetime commitment. However, with most marriages ending in divorce anyway, age may not have anything to do with it.