Not that I'm the most perfect wife in the world, but I sure did try 10000% to ensure that he was the happiest guy in the world and satisfied and proud. Apparently, I wasn't enough because he proceeded to go right out in pursuit of naked woman and came home with lots of reasons to lie...which eventually (not sure if all) caught up with him. Add to this, his list of never ending criticisms concernig women's body parts on a regular basis and you get one miserable, depressed, insecure wife.
So, now I'm seeking anti-depressants, just like his last wife (who I seem to be turning into) and am going CRAZY because I want to get away from this guy who is making me feel TERRIBLE, but due to the usual circumstances, including a 4 year old...I'm afraid. So I'm stressing on both ends.....
What do you do??? I feel like I'm losing it here!! It's getting harder and harder to be "happy" around my son.
2006-09-13 07:43:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you have a job? If you do, please move out. Its not fair what is going on with you. You have every reason to divorce this man, and he allready has a bad rep for driving women crazy. Think about this: Do you really expect him not to do this to you again? I am sure he will. Your child is too young to understand so dont expect him to, but I think children respect thier parents more when parents take control of the situation. My real father was a dead beat and a bad dad, so my mom decided to move out with me and my little sister and moved in with her brothers and sisters. She got a job and about 2 years later she married a wonderful man. Thank God, we lived him almost our entire lifes. You dont have to be under his control. Women are so strong and so capable, you dont need men, but its good to have a good one at your side, not one that will bring you down.
2006-09-13 07:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
expensive CA, It has taken me 4 yrs and counting to recover from the undeniable fact that my now ex abandoned the kin abode precisely as quickly as I had lost my interest that replaced into basicly the breadwinning interest the only examine that paid various the charges. sometime while i replaced into searching for yet another interest, I got here back and he had taken all of his stuff and left a be conscious and the abode key on good of the letter. are you able to suspect that he did no longer even had the odacity to tell me he replaced into leaving us (2 daughters) I felt destroyed hurting for my females and my abode. I lost each little thing different than the main needed issues. God bless my 2 little females. So, i comprehend what you're speaking approximately. i does not have the flexibility to furnish very stable advice considering which you notice I went by a irritating breakdown, melancholy that i does not have the flexibility to circulate any the place with every person. Now i'm lots extra appropriate than till now, to this present day they strengthen that memory and that i start to tear,it rather is nevertheless very painful My daughters love their dad and omit him lots he does not come around frequently. the sweetness why we divorced yet they're to youthful to comprehend we basically tell that we stopped love eachother. purely time and distance is what heals a broken heart and in some circumstances no longer even that. i don't comprehend if it replaced into with the aid of fact he's the daddy of my babies that I enjoyed him lots that i individually by no skill have been in a position to forget approximately or provide up loving him. I were married earlier than this marriage and had no difficulty shifting on yet this one replaced into stressful. God is conscious why. so which you notice CA basically remember which you're no longer on my own there are some people out right here that have long previous by what you have long previous by or worse. basically attempt to stay focussed and be around kin or acquaintances those which you prefer to be around with that often enables. I wish you the perfect. Bless you the place ever you're, keep your chin those issues finally make us more suitable. stable luck
2016-11-07 06:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing your kid any good staying in a unhappy relationship Just me I did it for 11 yrs until I left with four kids and had only had a part time job that paid me 9.50 hr But I didnt care I went found a full time job got us a town house and it was hard but The feeling of being my own person no B**** N any more and never having to answer to someone I was so happy and you only have one child you can do it just be stronge I know the words can make you feel like you can do anything but thats why alot of men do that to make your self esteam so low you think you need them but you dont and My favorite part dont laugh was my bed all to myself no snoreing or fighting for blankets I would come home from a hard day at work cook spend time with my kids and just love to spread out in my bed well sometimes had some little one in my bed. YOU CAN GET OUT dont stay for stupid reasons you deserve so much more from life than taking emotional abuse from him and your son will grow up doing the same thing if you dont put a stop to it now i was abused for to long before I woke up even though he still herrassed me for 4 yrs but I didnt let him get to anymore and that killed him because he new he lost control of me YAY. Sorry so long hope i helped you
2006-09-13 07:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you didnt waste a question on asking us how you can make things better. If you realize you've done everything you can and its still not working I'm a strong believer in letting it go.
It will be harder on your son to watch an unhealthy relationship between his parents his entire lifetime rather than just see his mother happy and single or happy and with another man. I'd suggest getting yourself finacially and emotionally independent and on your feet and when the timing is right. Get the hell out of there.
It wont be easy but you sound like an intelligent woman. You can do it!
2006-09-13 07:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rainey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the exact same thing. Your son is old enough that he sees through even your best attempt at "acting" happy. You're only going to be happy after you stand up for yourself and LEAVE. Believe me, you can move on and feel great about yourself. The hardest step is the first one. You'll feel insecure to begin with, but once you make the first step, you'll wonder why it took you so long. A word of warning, he's most likely going to beg you to come home, and that's really hard to steel yourself against, but it's worth it in the long run.
2006-09-13 07:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jan S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must first ask yourself do you still love him and do you still want to be with him. If so, you must forgive him and put everything in the past and move forward. If you can't forgive him and you don't love him you need to let him go. God will make a way for you to survive with your little one. By all means get him for child support. I know how you feel I've been there. I chose to stay with my now ex-husband and everyday it took a little more of my life away I had to let it go after 3 years, the best thing ever happened to me, I now have a loving husband who does not cheat and adores me. God will show you the way. Good luck and God Bless you!
2006-09-13 07:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by delta s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that! Its not your fault that he cant be honest with you if his feelings have changed for whatever reason. Ive found some men can be COWARDS and it is easier for them to demean their partner instead of communicating in an adult manner! Your self asteem has taken a BIG hit! Pull yourself up, many woman face this issue. Dont let him treat you like that! Your child needs you and thats more important than being with a partner who doesnt appreciate you, move on!
2006-09-13 07:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by happy to be me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your sake and more important, your son's sake, find an apartment and move out. Get a divorce and make sure your son grows up knowing that women should not be treated like this. This guy sounds like a real piece of sh** run before it gets worse.
2006-09-13 07:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump his lousy ***, take your son and split. I was in a situation just like this and I didn't run....now I am paying the price with a horrible divorce, custody battle and miserably low self esteem and major trust issues. But there are good guys out there!!! I finally met one...don't stay just because you have a child....get out now while you still have your sanity!
2006-09-13 07:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by christine a 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you have two choices your first responsibility should be the happiness of your young son and if that means saying good by to your hubby because of his action then it's time to go , 2nd if you are taking any kind of pills to keep sain then you really need to think is he worth all of this and the happiness of your son what ever the circumstance. there are shelters for Domestic violence or just to leave you can make it but think of your child that's your first priority
2006-09-13 07:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋