and we have a 2 year old daugther together. Weve been in a on agian off agian relationship for 3 years and while we were broken up he dated some pretty stick thin girls so Im a lil intamadated you know? Anyways Ive always covered up while doing the deed and last night I was kinda drunk and we had sex and I didnt rember to cove myself up I know he saw me and I cant stop obessing about it. he ALWAYS tells me that I look good and thats a big turn off but I cant help it. should I be worried? I weigh 130 lbs and I am 5 foot 3
2006-09-13 07:32:58 · 22 answers · asked by moodymouse54 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can relate.
Remember, though, 9 times out of 10 your partner thinks your body is beautiful.
2006-09-13 08:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't be worried. I was ashamed of my body, too, for the longest time but I got over it finally. It just takes a good relationship, with alot of trust. If he tells you all the time that you don't look bad - and this has been going on for a LONG time, maybe you just need to get some help from a doctor, or get more possative comments about your body from people that care about you. You say he slept with some pretty stick thin girls? Well, perhaps, have you thought about this? he may be a bit superficial. It may be time to dump him for sure if you feel that bad when you are with him in an intamate way.
2006-09-13 14:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U know- I met my huby in 10th grade in highschool and we have been together 22 years now! I STILL hate him seeing me naked! Im only 5 ft 4 and weigh 103 lbs so Im not fat- I just totally feel insecure about the way i look naked and I have no idea why! Im with you on this one! I think in 22 years my hubby has seen me stark naked maybe 4 times? That was accidental too! I dont even want him in the bathroom when Im taking a bath! Its definetely a self image and inseucirty problem we BOTH have! My hubby has grown to accept it and still loves me! He can stilll FEEL IN THE DARK! lol
2006-09-13 14:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
130lbs at 5'03" sounds actually perfect to me!
I wouldn't worry so much about trivial things like what others think of your outside appearance. We all are self-concious about our bodies and how we appear in the eyes of others in this image-obsessed society. Especially since the 90s, which promoted the "ideal" woman to be anorexically thin.
If I were you, I wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone that makes you feel any less than who you trully are, and what you are worth. But love is an emotion that cannot be reasoned with, so you must follow your heart if you feel true. But to myself, I can't understand the concept of being in love with someone in whom you do not trust fully to be 100% comfortable with.
My wife and I are far from being the standards imposed by society. My wife used to be so self concious due to her weight & size but learned to appreciate herself more when I showed her just how much I don't care that she isn't a 6 foot tall 85 lbs stick woman whom I could break in half if I shook her hand. We trust each other implicidly (is that how you write that word?) and love each other no matter what we look like.
My boss is hounding me and so I must log off. JUst be confident in yourself because you seem to be just perfect in my book!
cheers
2006-09-13 15:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl friend : why are you so unhappy about what god gave you celebrate the fact that you are a woman, can bear children and most of all love thy self. You are as you are and if someone doesn't like the way you look tell them to change the channel when they find the remote, We as woman come in all shapes and sizes and there is someone for everyone.
2006-09-13 14:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start dating guys who are totally blind, like me. They will never see you naked, never complain how you look, never notice if you're having a bad hair day, have a bad makeup job or any makeup, etc. Besides, they'll never look at other women no matter how beautiful they may be, and won't ever notice if you are looking at other guys!
But a better solution is to learn to accept yourself for who you are, realizing that no one is perfect and that everyone's concept of beauty is different; your boyfriend is happy with you, and that should be good enough. You should learn to seduce him by allowing him to see little flashes of your body. Maybe that will allow you to understand that he thinks you are beautiful and sexy, and that you arouse him; maybe that way you will learn to accept and love your body just the way God made it!
2006-09-13 16:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is just turn out the lights while having sex. then gradulaly light a couple candles and let him see you little by little. each time you have sex will be like him discovering you in a different light (haha), and you becoming more comfortable with your body. you are a woman. and women are beautiful no matter what shape, size, or color they are. Just remember, no ones perfect.
2006-09-13 14:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by -*~KrissyJo~*- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl that is good for having a kid....aight I have 2 kids and I weigh 145 and I am 5'4..........he must love you alot and wants to be with you because he ain't with that other girl anymore it doesn't matter what he was with and how she looked you have a kid by him so no matter what he is not going to not love everything about you.....and plus it ain't like you got jelly rolls hanging out all over you you thick......that's all....unless he complains then you should feel uncomfortable.....
2006-09-13 14:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you walk out of the room walk backwards, because the front always looks better than the back.
2006-09-13 14:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married and give your kid a name. But in answer to your question, you don't have as good a body as a woman without a baby. Accept it.
2006-09-13 14:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋