2006-09-13 07:22:39 · 20 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, be very clear about your intentions-with yourself, and then if you decide to e-mail him, be very clear with him as well.
I e-mailed an ex after about ten years. I knew there was a big possibility he had married a girl he used to date. I just sent a short note saying that I was curious how he was. (We had been amicable for several years after we broke up.) I told him I thought perhaps he may have gotten married and that's why he had dropped the communication line. I said what I had accomplished in my life. I hoped he was doing really well and that if he didn't respond, I would not get my feelings hurt, I'd just know he was probably married. I wished him the best.
The guy was really a good friend to me and I missed our communication. He never did write me back. I was disappointed,but I think he probably did get married and the girl knew about me. She had asked him in the past to stop taking to me. A wife or a girlfriend has a right to do that. The thing is, what did I accomplish? Really nothing but some disappointment for myself. I was actually just curious how he was, but I think I realized after that I shouldn't have done it. I was fairly sure he was married, and if he wasn't, I didn't want him as a boyfriend anyway. The truth is, I was just lonely at the time and wanting to talk. He was always safe to talk to. Take what you can from my experience.
It's not wrong to do it or not do it. If you have something to communicate, by all means, say what you must. Just remember that e-mail is in writing, can be intercepted, and can also be misinterpreted. So if you choose to do it, be very clear what your intentions are, and expect nothing. There's always a reason a man stops talking to a woman. It's usually that he didn't want to marry her. Why start it up again? If your intentions are actually to rekindle a past romance, then the communication still has to be just a hello, with no expectation. You're allowed one note for closure. But if he never responds, it's OVER. And you probably shouldn't be trying to even be friends with him.
There are other people to be friends with.
I hope this helps you.
2006-09-13 07:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure but he might have a gf, he might be married and he will most definitely think you've been thinking about him for the past 7 yrs. If your ok with all that then go right ahead but I wouldn't.
2006-09-13 14:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but umm maybe you need to say that. kinda confusing if you dont put that into context. he may be a great guy but if you just send him an email out of the blue he thinks things might be on again.
2006-09-13 14:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might be wondering the same thing, i saw a similar question asking how to find an old friend after 7 years... email him... it might turn out very good...
2006-09-13 14:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by chstarponchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not! What do you have to lose? You might eventually see each other, usually via internet email sessions, many people have found long lost relatives...Go for it!
2006-09-13 14:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Roosevelt D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it over Myspace or E-mail? It depends how you guys broke up. If you or him cheated on one another then NO!! But if it was a good relationship that broke up mellow then maybe.
2006-09-13 14:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure but don't expect a response, are you sure you just want to say hi?
2006-09-13 14:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sheena is dumb
why are u going to say why arent u over him
go girl call him and just say hi and see what he is doing
go for it dont get nervous
2006-09-13 14:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sure they might be really happy to hear from you.
2006-09-13 14:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure
2006-09-13 14:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋