i was nice enough to let my friend and her kids along with her husband come live in my house for a while....they have been here 4 days now and its a mad house.....the mom doesnt make her kids mind and she wont help clean...her 3 kids are 12 11 8....i have a 3 year old and they bully my son.....wont let him do anything in his house....the husband is the only one that will help out.......he cleans,cooks and helps when needed....i dont wanna make anyone mad or hurt anyones feelings..but ..i dont know what else to do.....they are actin like its their house and we live with them...what do i do?..........
2006-09-13 07:18:25 · 14 answers · asked by mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why dont you try having a household meeting when everyone is there layout the house rules say due to the number of people here now we have to set some guide lines so everyone is pulling their weight then divide the housework laundry duties and meal time if you cook she cleans and at the top of the list let it be known that your son is very young and is alot smaller then the other children so a hands off rule is now in place and make his room his zone if he doesnt have his own room make your room his zone where they can not go let the husband know you are grateful for his help and just want to make things run a little more smooth as for not making her kids mind remind the kids infront of the parents that they are welcome to be there but house rules are going to be enforced either by their parents or you and your husband and for your own peace of mind take your son and husband out to dinner or to a movie and grt some quiet time i understand how you feel i had my sons girlfriend here and thier 2 children the babies were wonderful when their mom wasnt here but when she was it was a mess so i blew my top after 5 months and told her to get out that the kids were welcome to be here with their dad but she was to disruptive for my household it was bad but i learned to speak up and not wait till i feel backed into a corner good luck
2006-09-13 08:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. You're just going to have to sit down and make some rules. Ask them what kind of help they are looking for. Roommates? get some rent from them. Help while job hunting? Set hours and either way, say this is how things are in my house........ good luck. I eventually had to get them to leave though.
2006-09-13 14:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well although you want to be nice about it, it is going to be hard because she is your friend. you need to talk to her about it and tell her the rules of the home I know she is a guest but if she is going to be like that then she can do it with someone else. oh yeah and with her kids being a bully to your son OMG how can you allow her kids to treat him like that!!! you really need to tell her the way it is and if she is not cool with it then she needs to leave. There is no other way to put it
2006-09-13 14:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky you're not him!! If she's a friend. tell her straight up and do it NOW!! Otherwise, this will only get worse. If she doesn't like it, then you'll know what kind of a friend she really is. She sounds like a leech. Does she work a job? If she doesn't, you really have to put the law down PRONTO!!!!
2006-09-13 14:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a fool to let another family move in with you. It will be tough to get them out. Grow a backbone and tell them to leave.
2006-09-13 14:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are sorry but this isn't going to work out and ask them to find other arangements. Give them a week to find them. And if this woman is a real friend she will understand. good luck
2006-09-13 14:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one it is your house and set down your foot and set up either some guidelines and if they don't like that then tell them you are sorry but you will have to leave and fine your own place. do not let them run over you that is not right either.
2006-09-13 14:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its high time u stopped being all nicey nice and took matters into ur hand....things have run wild..how cud u have let it happen for this long?try to put a stop IMMEDIATELY...tell them this isnt workin out..give them a dead line and ask them to clear out by then......this is your house..u have the right...its not a matter of being nice anymore...they r takin advantage of u and ur house and ur kind nature..(maybe they dnt realize it)...u have to make them see it....otherwise it could be all ur fault.....its your responsibility......think abt it
2006-09-13 14:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by sah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick them out. Tell them they have a certain day to be out. Forget about keeping them as friends, now you know what they are all about.
2006-09-13 14:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help them get a new place or ask them to leave.
2006-09-13 14:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋