Do you think its really possible for a guy to change I mean I know they say “once a cheater always a cheater” or “if he lies once he will do it again” but I mean do you think that’s really true or do you think someone could really change if they cared enough about someone ? Or do you think other people can have that affect on people?
2006-09-13 07:16:31 · 33 answers · asked by littlepinklily03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he never cheated on my but he lied to me about something so petty and it made me think if he could lie about that what else could it lead to
2006-09-13 07:32:00 · update #1
A life and death circumstance or hitting rock bottom are the only things that can make a person truly change. My sister gave me the best advice when a boyfriend cheated on me once, "Never go backwards, always move forward." It is easy to take someone back and go with what is familiar, but people very rarely change and history does repeat itself.
2006-09-13 07:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Let me tell you my story. I met this guy in school. He drank, did drugs, hardly ever went to school, was always in jail, and always getting in trouble by someone. Well just being curious, I started to talk to him. He was really fun to talk to, and so I asked him out. We have been dating for a year now, and he doesnt drink, or do drugs. He hasnt been in trouble or in jail since then. And is now getting ready to go to college! So yeah I think that guys can change, if they really love someone. But lying and cheating. I'm not sure if they will change or not, because my ex and I were dating for a year and a 1/2, and within the first 4 months, he cheated with 3 different girls, and lied about it all the time, and promised he'd never do it again, so I trusted him and stayed in the relationship. Then about 5 months later he did it again, and that was it for me! So I guess it just depends on the guy, and how much he cares. Hope this helps you!!!
2006-09-13 07:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say NO. Someone can change for someone but why would you want that? You need to except the person as is because if they do change for you it won't stay that way. I've been there done that. My ex husband would show me that he changed and then 6 months later he was back on his old tricks. So just becareful. Once a cheater normally a cheater. Lier is a lier.
2006-09-13 07:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do change but only because they want to. Others don't have the effect that they might think. It's a dangerous slope to venture to change another person or to sit and wait for them to be different. I advise this standard: relate to people as they are now. Who they have been is a pretty good indication of who they will be in the future. Never commit to a relationship unless you are willing to be with that person as they are today and that they would always be this way. That way you're not disappointed. Personal growth happens over life but when someone starts out with such low standards of character as lying and cheating, you can't take their word for it that they won't do it again. You can only go by what they do, not what they say. Good luck!
2006-09-13 07:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they change. They just have to meet the right person for them to change you can not make them change they have to want to change. I used to be a cheater until i meet my husband we dated for 6 years solid in highschool and got married after and we been married for 5 years and i never once lied or cheated on him ever.
2006-09-13 07:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I have ever found to change a man, is while he is still in diapers.
Once a cheater, the probability is very high that he will continue.
2006-09-13 07:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were dating, he used to cheat with his ex-girlfriend and lie to me about his whereabouts. Apparently he was having some indecision between us. But when he finally picked (me) all cheating stopped. We've been married fifteen years and I've never found any evidence of him cheating at all. We have a good marriage and I love him a lot. I guess he did change....however, there's a down side.
Forgiving is the easy part. Forgetting is much more difficult.
He proved to me 15 years ago that he is an excellent liar and capable of amazing feats of dishonesty, and immoral behavior. He was capable of being very sexy and romantic with me-- even though he just got out of bed with her an hour ago. It still freaks me out after all of these years.
Maybe you should just find someone else. Or you'll have to deal with it for the rest of your life.
2006-09-13 07:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i wish i could tell u what u want to hear but I can't. I have been in two different relationships that I thought that they would change but don't. Liars r liars, Its ur call, if u truly believe that he will change then give him another shot.(which I wouldn't recommend) But its ur life, ur the one in the relationship, u know him. R u wiiling to go back to it, its a risk that I choose to take because I really cared for those pass relationships. Good luck and think about it.
2006-09-13 07:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person i think, and the willingness to actually change. I know i've made mistakes from which i have learned and i haven't done them again... but other things that i have tried to change about myself and haven't been very successful, 'cause it's hard to kick the habit. I think it is possible for a guy to realize his mistake and be good from that day forward, but it's not very common.
2006-09-13 07:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe with age that a man can change. Also if a man has a experience of a true love relationship that a wife has cheated on, and can feel the feelings of pain, that it will help to change him.
2006-09-13 07:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋