I am married 26 yrs.faithful and tolerated a spouse than has been in rehab 5 times.The lawyer tells me I will have to provide her with the lifestyle she is accustomed to.This substance abuse is considered a disease and she can not be thrown out.i will have to subsidize her a place to live,ins.plan,alimony(2 sons-14 and 21)
2006-09-13 07:14:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get custody of your son. That will take most of the financial strain (ie. writing cheques) away. You'll get a lot more credit in court if you have the economic responsibility to house and care for your son. Depending on whether or not your spouse works, you may still have to provide alimony. However, if you get custody, sue her for child support.
If your lawyer tells you that you'll have to provide her in the lifestyle she's become accustom, hire a different lawyer.
2006-09-13 07:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by grandbendbeachboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you given her an ultimatum?
Yes she can be thrown out. I've known many an alanon that have given their spouses the boot. Frankly, the lawyer is wrong.
Don't enable her sorry butt anymore.
I've been in recovery for 20 years. the ONLY way and alcoholic will get recovery if every means of visible support disappears..
Then maybe they will change.
Take your son's and leave. Leave her with a couple liters of Vodka and an AA Big Book,Ask her to make a choice, sobriety and family or booze.Tell her you and the boys will not return until she has a year of sobriety under her belt.
2006-09-13 07:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new lawyer. If she is an addict, you should be getting the kids and she will have to pay you child support. There is no way an addict should get the kids in this situation, even an ex-addict. You've proven yourself, fight for your rights as a father!
2006-09-13 07:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, most of us now do take a beating. Might just be easier for you to leave the country -- I'm serious. These druggies are something else, and their attorneys bleed us dry with a trocar!!!!! The whole thing is a crock
2006-09-13 07:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's life kicking yeah in the butt once again!I don't know how you could get out of it but the 21 yr old shouldn't need to be supported!
2006-09-13 07:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married for better or worse. Hang in there until the last kid is out of the house. I am sure you both have issues to work on.
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-09-13 07:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That totally sucks for you. I think she needs to get a job and clean her act up. Take the kids. Fight for custody. If she is an addict you can use it against her.
2006-09-13 07:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, women win in divorce's. In your case, the woman in question is a drug addict, which makes it worse for you, since drug addicts are greedy. I'd advise you to get prepared; she's going to fry you!
2006-09-13 14:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by jassee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be okay. Your just in a world of you know what right now!
2006-09-13 07:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its tough my friend but thats what happens, why dont you give her a $1000 dollars and hope she overdoses with a massive hit or something..
2006-09-13 07:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋