After being with my boyfriend for 3 years we broke up as he was a jerk. He got back together with his ex-girlfriend! Shortly after i met my now fiancee. When my ex found out about this he started harassing me calling me all the time, stalking me in a way being a complete jerk and calling me all the names under the sun. I tried to go to the police but he threatened to do my fiancee with assault as he had grabed him by the coller in an argument a few weeks earlyer. My ex then desided to take me to court for all the presents and money and holidays he had payed for while we had been together. i ended up having to pay him £1000 for lap-top i had already given back to him but he had decided to sell at a loss of a £100 (or so he said)
2006-09-13 07:05:31 · 18 answers · asked by Jennifer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we went to the police and they warned him to stay away, but he took no notice. i have changed all my numbers, emails, etc.. and have also moved. But my ex is still friends with my brother who lives near me and uses him as an excuse to hang around.
2006-09-13 08:55:12 · update #1
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2006-09-13 07:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by fstopf4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to get a restraining order for your ex. The "assault" threat could always go under "self-defence." It seems like you would be safer having your ex out of your life, with possible jail time if he comes near you, than to have him keep harrassing you. Revenge does not seem right, as you might end up with your ex threatening you for robbery, assault, etc.
2006-09-13 07:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by TomServo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalkers are dangerous. Don't think about revenge. Forget it and move on. Have the Court issue a Temporary Restraining Order to keep him away. You and your fiancee should invest in a big dog, pepper spray and self defense classes.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 07:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
videotape him when he stops by to harass you. keep a log of the calls and file a report. Evidence is hard to ignore. If that does not work talk to his girlfriend and show her the evidence. Females do not like their man wasting time on other women when the boyfriend could be spending time with them. If she is unsympathetic then tell her you will make up with him bc if he is putting that much energy into harassing you then he is jealous and wants your attention and the girlfriend will not want that to happen. In his case, reacting without thinking usually comes back to haunt you.
2006-09-13 07:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by ElegantSweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...it looks like you dont live in the US, so I dont know but I would personally get a restraining order and than move out of the country. He has no right to do that to you, especially sue you for the all gifts that he bought that is just BS!!
2006-09-13 07:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god! what an arsehole! time 4 the dirty tricks department methinks! go to the police & get a restraining order against him for starters, then tell all his mates what a small dick he had or how he failed to satisfy u in the bedroom department. men hate it when u attack there libido etc. paint stripper on the car is another fave (not that im condoning these sort of actions u realise)
2006-09-13 07:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to citizens advise, tell them everything and ask them what to do about the threats to your current boyfriend. You should have really reported the threats to the police before he decided to take you to court as now it could just seem like tit-for-tat. You can only try. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 07:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. he's a real prick who deserves punishment big time. Do the worst you can think of - ppl like him are bad news.
i dont know why, but im thinking about a tab of acid into his food!
let him deal with that trip, it might open his mind up and make him question why he is a prick. Did you know, LSD was a therapy in the late 60's , . I know its unethical, but teach that little whiner a lesson! and tell this to your fiance, he might laugh!
2006-09-13 07:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Gareth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting revenge is probably not the wisest thing to do...I think perhaps calling the police and making a report would be in your best interest. He sounds like nut and stay away from him!
2006-09-13 07:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why look for revenge? you already have it in a way, your life now is good, you are engaged to someone else, have you ever thought why he started harassing you the minute you got with someone else? he was hurt and angry, so you hurt him he got back at you, let it rest now, get on with your life, good luck !!!!
2006-09-13 07:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋