If your sexual orientation was (in other people's minds non-accepting) different, did you ever feel depressed, still do or got out of that funk? What made you decide that you accepting yourself was right?
2006-09-13 07:01:20 · 15 answers · asked by justincausejustintime 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It took some time. I had to get out of the bottom of the bottle first.
I spent about a year or so in the AA rooms.
Finally one day it just kind of came very clear to me....
I needed to accept who and what I was or simply be a miserable, drunken human being that would eventually die an early death from alcohol poisoning.
2006-09-13 07:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by dont_you_hate_it_when 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting. I was just scared for a long time that I would no longer be loved by the people I love so much, because I was gay. As I started getting older I realized that I had to be me. I was missing so much out of life being scared to be who I really am. The funny thing is when I came out everybody was fine with it...most already knew and were just waiting for me to come to terms with it. I have to admit that life has actually been easier and much more fulfilling since I came out. I found love, and have a family now. Life has been really good. I think coming out is really an important part of life. Being closeted can really be unhealthy...it's not easy to live a lie. "The truth will set you free" is soooooo true. But the truth has to start with yourself.
2006-09-13 18:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I had been depressed for years, my life went down hill I became anti-social and thought of suicide. Then It came to a point where I had to decide rather I would live openly gay or die. So, I came out as GAY and every since then I've been much happier. Not only did I have to accept myself as Gay but I had to accept my damage past and thats what I kind of have trouble accepting. I'm learning too, I have friends and family who have been supportive and helping me coop and move on.
2006-09-13 16:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did and I'm a much happier person for it.
I tried for years to appeal the the supposed "social norm" and found it made me miserable and depressed. I knew I was "different" but had a really hard time admitting I was gay.
It took me years to get over the fear of knowing and accepting myself, but once I did everything changed. For the better!!!
I am a happily partnered, mother of a teenage son with an amazingly supportive family and network of friends. I have truly been blessed for living my life without lies or fear.
2006-09-13 15:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be wrong of me, but it took the love and support of my husband for me to accept that I am bisexual. Everyone else close to me -- if l even let them know -- up until this point in my life, did not approve and had no problem telling me so! I saw nothing wrong with the way I was but it is hard going against the mainstream, no? But my husband said he loved me and supported who and what I am. It makes an enormous difference to have affirmation from someone who is so close to you and knows you so well. I wish the same for people of all orientations.
2006-09-13 14:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I ended up on medication (in the days before "pop a Prozac") for a year or so. It took the recognition that I was still me - just that I was learning more about me - to make me content with the fact that I was Bi.
I ended up being grateful for all the aggravation that had gone on in my head. I know now the extent of my emotional range and how just how great it is simply to be. I might never have come to recognise that, if I hadn't endured it.
2006-09-13 14:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13, I attempted suicide over it. When I was 15-17, I tried to pray it away, and I enjoyed a relationship with a boy. And then a friend and I accidentally came out to each other, and then I met this amazing girl and fell head over heels. That's when I accepted being bi.
2006-09-13 14:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thanks to bible thumpers and other gay bashers it can take years of therapy for us to learn to accept and love ourselves. But that and meeting people of the same orientation you'll end up just fine. If there was a god he'd send these hate mongers to hell for ruining live and causing suicides when they are educated enough to know that people are born this way, but they'd rather use a non-issue to keep those tithes a coming.
Tammi Dee
2006-09-13 15:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Considering I was never "in" I guess I never missed what I never had. I do, however, have friends that became really down on themselves when they came out to themselves. I know it has got to be hard when you realize what you thought to be true really isn't reality. I believe we are born to be exactly who we are and how we use that information is up to us. Believe in yourself and know that you are NOT a mistake. Celebrate yourself every day no matter what others think.
2006-09-13 15:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Hidisar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It'd very hard to accept at first but accepting myself made me finally at peace with myself, made me feel relaxed in my own skin
2006-09-13 16:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by Surviving on love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋