Before I got married I lived with my now wife for 2 years -
When we got married I thought this will be no different - my friends told me it would be
It is but on a very subtle level I can't explain it
What I don't get is why the relationship hasn't changed as such but it's formal recognition seems to have an impact
What is the difference and why
Don't get me wrong I am very happy and all that but surprised the relationship seems to have undergone small but noticeable changes
I am just hoping you have seen or been through similar events beacause I can't do better than this for an eplanation of what I am trying to ask
2006-09-13 07:01:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have read all these responses, and for your answer, this is my opinion. Marriage is a union and commitment two people make together out of respect for each other that they are one now in a bond that will carry them through out their marriage. marriage gives security to each other in several area's in the marriage. it's legal, verses living together/ walking away so quickly. The change. I feel you are trying to explain is do you grow into a deeper level of love and bonding? YES It takes on a whole new meaning, your love for each other is blossoming and everyone is going to see the change. I'm not even sure if I gave you what answer you were looking for. I've been married for 13 yrs. it's blissful.
2006-09-13 08:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is your official license to have her as your wife and not just a girl friend, or a partner. Marriage is also your license to have and raise children.
Marriage is legal, living in together is illegal especially here in our country.. It is distasteful to the morals.
But maybe not so in USA and other european country where sex of varied types abounds.
Living in you only have sex..
In marriage you have lovemaking, and that is also where the big difference lies.
Don't get fuss about having change or no change at all, just be what you are, for as long as you love each other, be happy. Very few people are happy, much more satisfied with their married life.
Good luck
2006-09-13 14:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a bunch of sappy responses from some of these people! LOL! Marriage only changes things if the two people married ALLOW it to! Geez............like I see all kinds of people that are married just "floating around" in some surreal bliss just because they got married! LOL! LOL!!!!!
Most married people have too much debt, kids they can't afford and wish they were someplace else. And a LOT of married people would happily walk away if it were not for legalities and MONEY!
And no, I am not married. And mostly for reasons based on things like the crap I read here! LOL!
I will keep my live in boyfriend, thank you.
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2006-09-13 14:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage announces to the world that you guys are exclusively with each other.
There is a subtle change in so far as you are now starting to build a relationship with each other that won't be matched by any future one.
If you play your cards right, then after a few years you won't know what life is like without them; nor would you want to know.
After 12 years of marriage, I know I have something in my wife that I will never find anywhere else, and there is a security and trepidation in that.
Best of luck.
2006-09-13 14:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by JaMoke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a symbolic event. Nothing is suppose to really change. If it did, then you should be a little worried. Marriage means different things to different couples - some do it for their religion, others for purely legal or financial reasons, some for family recognition and approval, some just for the fancy white dress, glitzy jewelry and big party...
PS - the guy who talked about the house and the kids is right on the money!
2006-09-13 14:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The difference between marriage living together is that when you are married, it's "official" You no longer have the easy option of just bailing if you aren't happy. And with marriage, breaking up costs a whole lot more.
2006-09-13 14:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage can change a relationship, sort of like a lock and key. In a live in situation you can always walk out and leave but in a marriage a whole process would have to occur (divorce). think of it like a doorway. when your in a live in situation the door closes, but you can always open it right? however, in a marriage the door locks and it can be very difficult to find the key. lol
so there is your answer, in a live in situation the door closes, in a marriage the door locks.
but it doesnt have to sound negative, think of all the fun things you can do in marriage you cannot do in a live in situation. in a marriage the two of you belong to each other, in a live in you two are rented! lmao
2006-09-13 14:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called MORALS. I think alot of people that have lived together, I've done it too, feel guilty because we know it's wrong and are on guard. Also marriage is SUPPOSED to be forever & you think once your married, you can get away with anything because you can't just break up. WRONG. Good luck!
2006-09-13 14:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by starsabuv27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage does change your relationship. It matures and cements it. Grow with it and always keep the door of communication open. Keep your self open to new ideas and new ways to be together and learn together. Been doing it for over 30 years and still growing together.
2006-09-13 14:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage makes it official. You let your guard down a little and you also aren't afraid to say things that you might not have said before you got married because you aren't afraid that the person will leave.
Things really change when you buy a house.
And when you have kids, they REALLY change.
2006-09-13 14:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋