Would you be horrified if your 25 year old daughter was dating a 55 year old man?
2006-09-13 06:49:19 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I see the way this is asked that you are the 25 year old daughter and you are the one dating a man 55. So does your father know? And you are old enough to make your own decisions if you are not in your parents house. I would suggest you to really think it over, what about children, what about life long partner? But I can tell you this if you have already fallen in love with this guy, you should have stopped in then, I would not say at that point to be concerned. But I do not think something with that age gap is easy. Good Luck and I do understand why you would not be looking for a man your own age.
2006-09-13 06:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by kirsten215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if horrified is the right word, but I would be very concerned. I am 50 and my daughter is 18. If I fast forward 7 years, I would have to look at the situation. At 25, my daughter would no longer be a child and therefor I would hope she would be able to make a rational decision about her relationships.
In addition, I would have to look at and meet the guy. As we (men) get older, we obviously mature. Our thought process is much better than a guy in their 20's or 30's and we tend to cherish relationships more. If this were the case when I met the 55 year old, I might feel more comfortable about it.
The last issue is definitely the age difference. If they are talking marriage, what about children. As I mentioned, I am 50 raising young children is not very appealing to me at this stage of my life.
I hope this helps.
2006-09-13 08:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Henry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was, omg!!!! then i thought about it for a moment, and yes i still would be horrified, trouble is she is 25, and it would be hard to tell a 25 year old to stop dating this guy, you could voice all the opinions you wont, but will she listen,, so what is this guy like?i would wont to know, gut feelings would tell you, is he a dirty old man, or a normal sort of guy? that is such a hard one, if it was the other way around, he would be call a Toy Boy, and a few other things mm. but yes i would be horrified....
2006-09-14 08:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 10 and I would be horrified if she was dating at all. I am mixed on your dillema though. I am 38 and the lady I am involved with is 22. I Not quite the same difference in age but a similiar situation. I guess I would have to be internally concerned, but my biggest concern would be my daughter's happiness. If they are good together and make each other happy then be as supportive as you can. Go out and get a bottle of champagne now and put it away. You can pop it privately on the day they break up, or if you outlive him. heh.
2006-09-13 06:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by c.arsenault 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ten years ago, absolutely, probably even 5 years ago,but if she's 25 she's old enough to make her own mind up.
Unless he's not a decent sort.
Try it another way.
Would you be horrified if you fell in love with a girl of 25 years?
(Granted, yes because you love your wife, but you get the point?)
2006-09-13 06:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Hairyloon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My eldest girl is 23 and I always try to be as supportive as I can ( you just gotta do that for them, don't you?). But I also try to point out things that are potentially "risky", like a big age difference, inter-racial involvement (I don't have a problem with that, but the a-holes in society as a whole might). She tends to take what I say on board becuase I don't TELL her what to do, I just tell her what I've experienced over the years. And I guess I'm a little bit jealous in a way 'cos she's my little girl - how do you explain that to anyone who's not a daughter's father? And yeah, she borrows money off me - welcome to parenthood ;)
At 25, she's as grown up as she's ever going to be - just make sure she's got you in her life when she needs you.
2006-09-13 07:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a daughter and I can tell you right now my dad would kick his ***!
Seen what happened when my sister went out with a 27 year old at the age of 19!
He's not normally a violent man but I shudder to think!
2006-09-13 06:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bothered yes.
But, I would not really worry about it. Right now she is getting treated better by him versus any other guy around her age or 10 years older.
Think about it this way, do you really what some crazy testosterone fueled 26 -29 yr old, making her blow him or take it @nally 3 -5 X per day or
nice restaurants, vacations, shopping and sex 1 - 2 times per week.
dating is not marriage.
2006-09-13 09:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absooulutly, when i was 25 i got together with this 45 year old. we got along fine, but after4 yrs. then marraige that man took over my whole idenity. he never did anything with me. nothing was ever in my name. he would never give me a dime. i worked for my money. no matter how you look at it i believe that it is a disaster waiting to hahppen. all the things that he did at 25 he forgets about, and wants you to act like your 15 yrs. older than you are and it does not work. talk some since into her before she gets her heart broken.
2006-09-13 06:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by boo boo bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband says once they get past 25 age doesn't matter. As mother I have to say I think 55 would be about same maturity level but she would have to think about kids and things, but I think generally an older bloke treats a woman much better than a bloke the same age.
2006-09-13 06:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋