I have been the "other man" to a married gal for 22years.
I met her when she was 30...she is 52 now.
As far as I know - her husband has been clueless the whole time.
We have a pure physical relationship, as crude as that sounds.
The past year or so - our sex has taken a major turn for the worse. We used to be like a machine - for an hour or two we could just have incredible frenzied sex.
Now, after about 1/2 hour - she wants to stop.
I want her to FEEL that good like she has been for years - but - Its not happeneing for her for some reason now.
She says the guilt is catching up to her - but after 22 years, I cant believe that.
She says her husband has been more horny than ever, so that takes away from us, too, according to her.
I just wonder - if turning 50 did something to chage her sex drive.
How can I get her to enjoy it more?
Any other women hit a sexual rut - what did they do to bounce out of it?
How can I get this "older" woman horny again??
2006-09-13 06:44:01 · 8 answers · asked by daves_1348 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
PLEASE dont bash me for the affair - its part of my life - as wrong as it is.
Thanks.
2006-09-13 06:45:35 · update #1
so what you used her for so long let it go or use your hand
2006-09-13 06:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do lost their ability to do so as the grow older, Although I have known that women gets more horny so you say as they grow older, while the man's desires fades through the years.
Yes, the feeling of guilt is also a strong neutralizer even for men.
I guess you have had your time with her.. 22 years at that, let go of her.
Can't you find a woman for yourself. Maybe its time you do,, 22 years of being happy with her is something you have to love to remember the rest of your life.
But there is nothing permanent in life,, you have to let go, loose sometimes,,
Be happy with the thought of those 22 years then give her up if you must.
There are plenty of younger single women out there who can just out do what she did to you.
Good luck
2006-09-13 07:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationship aside, she may be going through menopause and will be better when her hormones settle down. She could also be going through a mid life crisis and be feeling guilty. You're best bet is to talk to her.
2006-09-13 06:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she could have hit menopause.....thats wen her hormones get low and her sexual appetite kind of decreases....use viagra and see if it works...but hey u hav to accomodate the changes...dont keep ur expectations too high...she may come arnd...u guys may start havin great sex again hopefully...but it may never be like before...so deal with it.....
2006-09-13 06:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by sah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest therapy but yall ain't married.
2006-09-13 06:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's bored with you after that long. Don't sleep with her for a while.
2006-09-13 06:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by James L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats wrong...you need to stay away from her.
2006-09-13 06:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use viagra.
sometimes its not her its the situation, the mood.
2006-09-13 06:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by stonehenge17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋