1.When I first met him he lied about having a kid(he doesnt have any kids),Having a big brother who was killed(he's an only child).
2.He told me about girl he had a crush on that he didn't date cuz HER MOMA gave him oral sex.
3.He's always asking me to tell him some dirt about me 'cuz he thinks im 2 good 2 be true.
4.He alway told me about girls telling him how good of a man he is,and he wont date them cuz they are hookin'(sleepin with guys 4 cash)
5.He lied about a girl having his name tatooed on her neck.
6)(read other question)I think he lied about a recent std issue we had).
Alot of these lies he told me i let them slip, and just 4got about them.
HOW DO I KNOW THESE ARE LIES...
He just got murdered and I aksed his mom and she said he had no brother and no kids, other just seems like a lie.
Even tho he is dead,I still wanna figure out his motives and why?
He had stoped sellin drugs and started going 2 church,he said I am the reason he changehis life,he was murder year ago
2006-09-13 06:33:59 · 21 answers · asked by karamel_kandi6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also we had a big age difference, about 10 years
2006-09-13 06:37:35 · update #1
Some people lie to make themselves sound more important, more impressive possibly to build respect amongst peers.
About the brother who was killed and having a kid...well those things are verifiable so not sure why he would have lied about them.
If he stopped dealing drugs and began going to church, maybe he met someone (YOU) who changed his life for the better. Maybe he looked into a future with you and didn't see how his shady past would work with it. Sorry for your loss...
2006-09-13 06:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was a compulsive liar. There doesn't necessarily have to be a reason. He probably started out telling small lies at one point in his life and the more he found he could get away with it the bigger the lie became. He may have even started believing some of those lies so he wouldn't slip up; therefore perpetuating the lie would have to become true in his mind. Did he ever use a lie to manipulate your way of thinking i.e. tell you some sad story to MAKE you feel bad for him? Perhaps the older brother one? If he kept up the lying he more than likely learned to use lying as a crutch and a tool to get what he wanted.
Sorry to hear about both the lying and his death. I will pray things get better for you. Glad to hear you were helping him turn his life around. You must have touched him in a profound way to get him to go to church.
Hope you have a great day!!!
2006-09-13 06:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obsessing over an ex that died over a year ago. That is not healthy. You are seeking answers for questions that he was really the only one that knew the answers for and now he is gone and the answers are too. I would suggest you write him a letter. I know this sounds silly but it has brought closure for many people in the past and may for you too. Write him a letter, ask him the questions you have, ask him why he lied to you so much, go into detail about how you feel about him and what has happen and what took place. Cry and be honest in your letter and just get it out. Go to his place of rest (where he was burried) and read the letter to him, then taer it up in little peices and burry it somewhere close to his barrial without disturbing anything or anyone else around him. Your answers may be answered little by little by those who knew him and that you will run into from time to time, and maybe they won't. But at least you can say you took some alone time with him, and believe me....... he will hear every word. Death is not actually death, its another form of living. And he is living, just on another realm of life......... not this one. BLessed be.
2006-09-13 06:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's Simple he wanted u 2 Believe his every word and to make himself out 2 be a very good man at that but lies do catch up with you sooner or later. Maybe he was lying 2 U about the drugs as well & was selling them but yet trying to be a better man by going to church.It's been a year take one day at a time get on with your life I'm sure he wouldn't want U 2 Grief at all life is to short.God Bless You..Good Luck
2006-09-13 06:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you picked a guy that's lied to you because he was on drugs and probably ashamed of who he was. Then he was murdered because he was probably in the wrong mix with people and you want to try to figure out why he lied? I'm guessing that you're looking for some sort of closure that you're not going to get here. I suggest talking to someone you trust that can counsel you to move past this tragedy and get you healthy again. No one will ever know why or if he lied but you do know that he's no longer here and you need to move on.
2006-09-13 06:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me begin by sharing with you that I try to personally see the "good" in people. This does'nt mean walking around with shutters over your eyes and not using good judgement.
Believe it or not, everyone to some degree wants to be the "good guy" and your deceased boyfriend may have turned away from his wayward lifestyle and genuinely began living his life differently.
Your opinion of his lifestyle was obviously important to him and he told you things that you and others may have questioned. But more importantly, you need to move on and remember the pleasant memories that you have of this young man. He is gone and the only thing you have are the memories...Why not choose to remember him as he was...a good friend
2006-09-13 06:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Roosevelt D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man who mayed stories up from being in the Navy Seals to needing $15,000.00 for an emergency for his dad,he lied about everything and his lies got me mixed up sometimes,it is not you he was lieing to,it was an illness some people have and they start beleiving their own lies coz that is all they know how to do!some people are just so easily beleived coz they have lied most their lives to everyone!God Bless!
2006-09-13 06:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could you still investigate someones death when everything you knew about him was a lie?? If my friends lied to me more than twice I'd forget about them right away. I know this sounds selfish but, he lied to you about a freakin STD!!! THAT YOU COULD'VE GOTTEN!!!!! are you crazy?? And just because he was going to church doesn't mean that he stopped selling drugs, that could've been a lie too. I'd seriously move on with your life, cause in the end it's all going to be heartbreak.
2006-09-13 06:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know exactly what u want o know but these days people live lies and they keep lying to cover up thier lies and u were just an unfortunate victim of one of them
they want to be something they are not thats all
move on with ur life and verify the truth b4 u get into a new relationship
2006-09-13 06:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by maku d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex that lied to me for a lot of things....I ended up having a baby with him.....Well he died a few years ago and you know what I am and the baby is better off without him....Liars will never change and they will never care about anyone but themselves...You can and will find someone better then him...You have to higher your standards though....DONT SAY YOU CANT DO BETTER CAUSE YOU CAN.....I DID!!!!!
2006-09-13 06:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by DONT WORRY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋