This is not a sexually relationship. i been seeing this guy for a while and i really love him. He told me that he will wait as long as i want for the sex. it doesnt matter to him.
2006-09-13 06:04:56 · 16 answers · asked by dream21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It MATTERS. This is not a healthy relationship at this point in your life. Sexual or not, those six years that separate you at this point in your lives are very important years. You have not grown into the person you will be at 20 years old. I am not saying that you are not mature, but the next six years for you are going to be filled with events and experiences that will change and help you to become the adult that you will be when you are 20. The fact that this MAN is in a relationship with you at 14 years old is a big problem. He has missed a step somewhere in his maturing process and needs to go back and figure it out. I would say call him in 4 years, but I am afraid he is not a healthy person.
2006-09-13 06:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be reasons why you are so attracted to this guy;
1) He is more matured and acts more sensible as compared to your mates.
2) He is more sensitive to your feelings than guys of your age.
3) He seems more knowledgeable on every topic than guys your age.
But dear the age gap is too big considering your age. If you had been twenty and he thirty I wouldn't have bothered because then you would have been an adult. As at now you are still considered as a minor by every country on this planet. And he could be charged for taking undue advantage of a minor even if you kiss.
Now he may not be interested in sex but can you say so in a years' time? Ask him to wait till you are a bit matured before you start dating and see if he can wait that long. Could be his test for all the love he claims to have for you.
2006-09-13 06:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by jes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a tremendous emotional, physical and mental age gap between 14 and 20.
So in my opinion, yes the age difference does matter even if no sex is involved.
Perhaps you should seek out maybe a sixteen year old at the most and you should both be on the same page or approximately.
2006-09-13 06:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Shari S 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ure sooo tooo young for this guy.u should hang out with guys closer to ure age. how long u think he wil wait? a guy of 20 wil not be ok just with a kiss and holding hands..sooner or later ..ull fall in love and will seem for u that U think u want 2 start ure sex life..and yes in ure case age matter..it would be a pitty to finde urself after few months ore after 1 year hart broken..u have planty of time for serious relatiuonships..now at ure age is too much getting involed with a 20 years old guy..i say be carefull
2006-09-13 06:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by dafneeselena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably get the same answers... yes it does matter. You should be out with people your own age. You're in high school (or should be) and he's out of school (or should be)...
...And while he is waiting for the sex is he going out with his "friends"? Are you sure?
2006-09-13 06:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may not be based on sex, but i personally do not see anything you two would have in common. he is able to go places you cannot get into. in the end you will end up feeling left out and more like a child than you did before you went in. i ask you to leave it alone, if you must have him around, just be friends.
2006-09-13 06:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, age matters at your age. a 14 yr old should be dating someone their own age; as should a 20 year old.
2006-09-13 06:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by daisie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet you get the same answers this time. I'll also bet the answer is "YES! It does matter is he is 20 and you are 14."
2006-09-13 06:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a little creepy - a 6 year difference wouldn't matter much if you were both in your twenties but at that age it's not right
2006-09-13 06:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, a fourteen year old is way to young and at your age is considered jail bait. find somebody your own age
2006-09-13 06:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋