I am not being cheated on. I am the single one that is being persued. He married for his kids. Made some bad decisions, and is now in a bad marriage.
Does this say anything about his character? Will he always be a cheater, even if he is in a happy relationship? Or is he only doing this because he is unhappy?
2006-09-13 06:01:09 · 39 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell him to resolve his relationship before he starts another. It says very much about his character. He started something he needs to finish. Unless you wanna get in the middle of that.
2006-09-13 06:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by mattymomostl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that "once a cheater, always a cheater", If he is going to cheat on his wife, the woman he said his vows to, then if you get with him he will cheat on you after a while. he says he is staying "for the kids" but personally in my opinion ( and I only know what you have said) he wants the happy stable married life, but also wants someone on the side. I would tell him if you are so unhappy, get a divorce, then... we'll talk. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-13 06:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Justin's Wife of 10 Years!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had cheated before after i found out that my husband had an affair...an affair is an emotional state of mind. I cheated for sex and told him about it. He didnt get angry and i knew he din love me anymore. I got in and out of couple of "flings" after that of which they never last more than 2mths and i am tired of trying to fill the emptiness of the knowledge of not being loved as a wife. I've filed for divorce.
U'll never get a serious relationship from anyone who is (or still is) married. If it's a short term relationship (fling) you're looking for then you know for sure that he will leave you alone and return to his family when you call it quits. If he's staying in the marriage for his kids (depending on cultures again) but i think he's just chicken and waiting for his wife to call it quits (my husband is one such person). I guess he wont always be a cheater if he was in a happy relationship. Why would anyone like to stir sh*t?
If you want to attempt this relationship, guard yourself...you may be with a guy who will NEVER leave his wife. Are you prepared for that if you should develop real feelings for him?
2006-09-13 06:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what I think about cheaters. Cheaters are indecisive people who can't make decisions...big decisions. I think not being to make big decisions in ones own life is a major character flaw. Not all decisions are easy. He should decide if he wants to go or stay in his marriage and if he stays then he stays and he does not stray. Not being able to make the decision will stunt his emotional well being as well as affect the well being of everyone else involved.
2006-09-13 07:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your saying is that this guy is married and is cheating on his wife with you? Girl get out of the relationship NOW. This guy will do it to you too if he's not yet. He might be unhappy yeah, but he is probably using you to meet his needs. He will always be a cheater. GET OUT!!!!!
2006-09-13 06:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by kookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree once a cheater is always a cheater. I have been there, done that and I am still thinking about doing it again. I do not hate a person if he/she cheats, because it is not right for a person to be a hypocrite.
I hope that everyman is not the same as me
2006-09-13 14:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unhappy he should get out and staying married for the kids is the worst thing you can do! They pick up on things and know when their parents aren't happy! If he wants to do what's best for his kids he needs to get out and start a new life, a happy one! The kids would be better off having two households with happy parents, than one where there is conflict. It's not fair for him or his family! He needs to be divorced before he and you start anything, that's just the right thing to do. Cheating is never justified!
2006-09-13 06:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEver believe ANYTHING a married man says about his wife, he will tell you anything to make you feel sorry for him, if yoou are on the market, find someone who is unattached. And yes he will always be a cheater, if he is willing to cheat on the woman who brought his children into the world, who won't he cheat on? You must have heard this many time before and that is because it is the truth. Be wise.
2006-09-13 06:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by DivaByNature,B*tchByChoice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a very similar situation. It is very hard. I met my boyfriend right after the tragic loss of my baby brother in Iraq. He was there for me, supported me, helped me through, but he is married. He is unhappy, but is afraid to leave because of the home and the financial situation. I am getting very tired of waiting, it's been over a year....Things seem great when we're alone, and I know he loves me, it's not his wife I worry about it's his money....that is what he doesn't want to leave. His alimony would be high, he has visited lawyers, but seems to be too afraid to upset the status quo. I didn't want this, but he pursued me relentlessly for several months, and with all the crap in my life, he was finally a bright spot, I think he is ready to do it, but only time will tell, please be careful...Good Luck!!! You're gonna need it.
2006-09-13 07:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety nobody gets married just for the kids. This man is a cheater and always will be. Don't join him in the gutter he lives in. It will cause you nothing but heartache. I guarantee you his wife thinks they have a great marriage because he is still telling her she is the only woman for him and how much he loves her. He is a user and a loser.
2006-09-13 06:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay far far far far far far far away from this man. he needs to be a real man and if he is unhappy then he needs to take care of the situation himself, and not try to make himself feel better by getting some on the side. all men who cheat will tell the other woman that they are in a bad marriage... they know that a good woman wouldnt betray another woman unless they thought the wife was some horrible wife. Please, as a woman, think about this and stay away from married men!!!!!
2006-09-13 06:07:45 · answer #11 · answered by whaaatthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋