my love left me. how can i get a new start plz help me it's hurting from last 5 months i am not able to sleep

Answer 1

been there.. what helped me was to keep busy and surround myself with people. i joined habitat for humanity and banged away at houses on the weekends that i didn't have anything planned. that was therapeutic and made me tired enough to be able to get to sleep easier, and it also seemed to help being with new people. so maybe you could do something like that, join an organization, or get into a sport that interests you.. who knows you might even meet someone there.

give it some more time, you'll get through this.

and even if you really really want to, avoid contacting your ex.. it will just keep the wounds open and delay your healing..

Answer 2

Time ,Time, Time that's about all that can help, that and finding someone else. Just remember how happy you were when you first met your X, just look forward to having those type of wonderful feelings about someone else, it will happen again.

Answer 3

u have to stop dwelling on the past. :( it's hard, but u GOT to.

you have to pick urself up, and start over. Work on YOURSELF instead of thinking of shoulda, woulda, coulda's. make sure that in the NEXT relationship, u are Stronger, Confident, Happy, Healthy, Positive, and can contribute something better to the relationship. build yourself up so that you are Proud of yourself...and in that way, if someone treats u badly, or Leaves you, you realize that HE didn't know a good thing.

but u can't feel that way unless you make sure u continuously work on yourself; on your appearance, ur confidence, ur abilities, ur mind, ur knowledge, ur personality... always strive to make yourself Better; this will help you in ur life, as well as contribute SO MUCH to ur future partner. it is worth doing. the happier u are, the more u can bring to the relationship!!

so, work on urself. work out, exercise, take care of your body. put on makeup, get ur hair done, buy some Flattering clothes.... as u work on your appearance and FEEL better about urself, u can start working on your mind. study more, read more, learn about current events, be able to develop your personality, and ur sense of self, so that u can speak to friends, family, even strangers on many different topics. keep an open mind, and try to not judge others. this will help you get over your sense of disappointment; of failure..... it's OK. you can ALWAYS become better. the future means the Ability to Change..but u have to change something before it changes!!! :)

start becoming confident enough to meet different people , make new friends. Filter out the negative ones, and surround urself w/ Happy, Positive, Good people...and u can choose from those people who may be a "good catch" for you. but remember, u've been working on urself.. so you are Already a "good catch"!! :) all u need is to find that guy who appreciates you, and works hard on himself too. it is worth waiting for, instead of pining over some guy who already showed you he didnt' want you. why do u want someone who didnt' want you?? is that ur idea of a dream guy? =T i want someone who is so CRazy about me, he can't wait to marry me. and if i have to wait, i have to wait. but all that time that passes, i'm gonna keep building myself to be Better, Happier, Stronger, Confident, Attractive... *so that* no one will be able to say i'm not good enough.


good luck, and take care of urself. it's the first step to letting go of the past, and looking forward to the future :)

Answer 4

get over her, she left u, stop thinking about her, u deserve someone better. she lost the chance. may be there is something better waiting for u.good luck.

Answer 5

oh dear! think positive..theres a lot around.talk to your friends, go out of your shell it wont help if you will just be like that. you will get sick my dear.
read this...hope this may help you.

I HAVE THREE SUGGESTIONS FOR RESOLUTIONS TO CHANGE OUR LIVES AND TO MAKE OURSELVES BETTER AND HAPIER PEOPLE. THEY ARE...TO FIND A REAL FRIEND YOU CAN TALK TO, TO KEEP A JOURNAL...AND THIRD TO FIND SOMETIME TO PRAY EACH NIGHT BEFORE YOU GO TO BED.

FIND A FRIEND... A WARM RELATIONSHIP IS NECESSARY TO GIVE PEOPLE THE COURAGE TO FACE AND UNDERSTAND THEIR MISTAKES. KNOWING THAT SOMEONE LOVES US UNCONDITIONALLY ENABLES US TO FACE AND ADMIT OUR DELUSIONS AND OUR STUPIDITIES. WE CAN UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT OURSELVES REALISTICALLY ONLY WHEN SOMEONE OUTSIDE OURSELVES FIRST UNDERSTANDS US AND ACCEPTS US. ITS NICE TO HAVE FRIEND WHO LOVES US AND WHO CAN TELL HOW STUPID WE ARE SOMETIMES.

TALKING THINGS WITH A FRIEND HELPS US DISCOVER OUR MANY MISCONCEPTIONS. WE HAVE TO ORGANIZE A PROBLEM BEFORE WE CAN TALK IT WITH SOMEONE ELSE. VERY OFTEN WHEN WE ARE LEFT TO OURSELVES. WE DO NOT GO THROUGH THIS NECESSARY ORGANIZATIONS OF THE PROBLEM AND ITS RAMIFICATIONS.. THE PROBLEM REMAINS VAGUE AND CONFUSING AND HARD TO SOLVE WHEN WE LOCK IT UP INSIDE OURSELVES.

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEM WITH A FRIEND, WE NOT ONLY HAVE TO ORGANIZE THE PROBLEM, WE ALSO HAVE TO VERBALIZE IT. THE VERBALIZATION OF A PROBLEM IS VERY IMPORTANT, BECAUSE THE WAY WE VERBALIZE A SITUATION OFTEN DETERMINES HOW WE EVALUATE IT. WE THINK IN WORDS, PLAN OUR LIVES IN WORDS, AND TEND TO BE VERY MUCH INFLUENCED BY OUR VERBALIZATIONS. LOT OF TIMES YOU DISCOVER A PERSON'S REAL PROBLEM JUST BY LISTENING TO HOW TO VERBALIZES IT. IF WE ARE INTERPRETING AND VERBALIZING A SITUATION IN A LOPSIDED MANNER, TALKING IT OVER WITH A FRIEND WILL HELP US FIND THE WAY TO BALANCE AND OBJECTIVITY.

KEEPING A JOURNAL... KEEP A JOURNAL. IT PROVIDES AN OUTLET FOR EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION, BUT IT ALSO REQUIRES THE KIND OF ORGANIZATION AND VERBALIZATION THAT TALKING TO A FRIEND HELPS BRING ABOUT. JOURNAL HELPS KEEP SORTING OUT CONFUSION. FOR MANY PEOPLE THE APPEARANCE OF A BLANK SHEET OF PAPER IS LESS THREATENING THAN A HUMAN FACE STARING AT US FOR WORDS. WE ARE LESS INHIBITED WITH A ''PAPER PSYCHIATRIST'' THAN A REAL ONE.

WHEN WE WRITE DOWN THE MAIN PROBLEMS TOGETHER WITH THE SPONTANEOUS EMOTIONAL REACTIONS, WE CAN GO BACK EITHER AT THAT TIME OR A LATER TIME OF QUIET, AND CHECK OUT THE FACTS AND FEELINGS. IF PEOPLE KEEP A JOURNAL,THEY WILL FIND MANY NEW INSIGHTS AND AN IMMEDIATE CHANGE IN THE EMOTIONAL PATTERNS OF THEIR LIVES. JOURNAL WRITING IS VERY GOOD EVERYDAY BUT ESPECIALLY ON THOSE DAYS WHEN EMOTIONS HAVE BEEN EXPLODING ALL OVER THE PLACE. JOURNAL OF COURSE, SHOULD BE KEPT IN PRIVATE. YOU CAN SHARE IT WITH YOUR MOST TRUSTED FRIEND.ITS OK. TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE IN MATTERS LIKE THIS. DIALOGUE HAS A WAY OF ILLUMINATING THE DARK CORNERS OF CONCIOUSNESS AND AWARENESS.

PRAY...TAKE A TIME FOR QUIET REFLECTIONS AND PRAYERS. PRAYING IS JUST LIKE TALKING TO A FRIEND. PRAYING FOR AWHILE AT THE END OF EACH DAY IS ALSO LIKE KEEPING A DIARY AND FAXING IT DIRECTLY TO GOD. TO PRAY IS TO CHANGE AND THAT IS A GOOD GRACE. HOW GOOD IS IT TO GOD TO PROVIDE A PATH FOR US WHEREBY OUR LIVES CAN BE TAKEN TO OVER BY LOVE AND JOY, AND PEACE AND PATIENCE, AND KINDNESS AND GOODNESS AND FAITHFULNESS AND GENTLENESS AND CONTROL. WE DO THAT WHEN WE PRAY!

TAKE NOTE OF ALL THE THE LOVELY THINGS THAT HAPPENED IN A DAY. THE UNEXPECTED TREASURE WE DISCOVERED ALONG THE WAY, THE THINGS THAT MADE US HAPPY AND THE THINGS THAT MADE US SMILE, THE THINGS THAT MADE US FEEL THAT WHAT WE DID WAS WELL WORTHWHILE. TAKE NOTE AND JOT THEM DOWN UPON THE PAGES OF OUR MEMORY. AND WHEN THE DAY HAS ENDED, ADD THEM UP AND YOU WILL SEE THEY OUTNUMBER ALL THE THINGS THAT MADE US WORRIED AND UPSET. TAKE NOTE OF VERY LITTLE THING THAT MADE US COMFORT AND CONTENT, THE SMALL ADVENTURES OF THE DAY THAT WENT TO MAKE THE FUN. MAKE NOTE OF EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING.

I KNOW THAT WE ALL WANT TO BE A BETTER PEOPLE. I KNOW THAT WE ARE SORRY FOR THE MISTAKES AND SINS AND WE WANT GROWTH AND HAPPINESS. WOULDNT BE NICE TO ASK ABOVE TO OPEN THE DOOR? TO GUIDE US TO WIDER HORIZONS AND BRIGHTER COLORS?


and this one...

RELATIONSHIP ARE OFTEN CHARGED WITH PAIN

THE AGONY...

IT TRY US, CONFUSE US, FRIGHTEN US, THREATEN US AND MAKE US WEARY.BUT THEY ALSO UPLIFT UP AND FULFILL US. IT IS THROUGH THE PAIN WE SUFFER IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT WE STRENGHTEN OUR LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER AND GROW AS INDIVIDUALS.

TRUE LOVE IS PIERCING AND TOUGH AND REQUIRES ALL THAT WE HAVE AND THE BEST THAT WE ARE...A RELATIONSHIP IS SOMETHING WE WORK AT, IT IS SOMETHING THAT WE REFLECT ON, VALUE AND SOMETIMES ENDURE OUTRAGEOUS PAIN TO PROTECT OR TO STRENGTHEN. AND IT ALL COMES TO THE FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH THAT THERE ARE NO WORTHWHILE RELATIONSHIPS WITHOUT HASSLES OF COURSE.

THE OLDER AND MORE EXPEREINCED ONES AMONG US KNOW THAT YOU HAVE TO WORK AT A RELATIONSHIPS. THEY DONT COME EASILY- AT LEAST NOT THE REALLY MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS. YOU HAVE TO SPEND TIME ON A RELATIONSHIP. YOU HAVE TO BE PATIENT, YOU HAVE TO BE FORGIVING, YOU CAN'T BE STUBBORN OR TOO PROUD AND YOU CANNOT DELIVER ULTIMATUMS- "DO THIS OR DO THAT OR I WONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE" (silly). YOU HAVE TO BE FLEXIBLE AND WILLING TO MAKE COMPROMISES. YOU CAN'T ALWAYS HAVE WHAT YOU WANT. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT WHAT THE OTHER PERSON WANTS OR NEEDS.

THE ONE WAY TO HAVE A HASSLE FREE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT TO HAVE ANY RELATIONSHIP AT ALL BUT THATS A HORRIBLE AND EVEN MORE PAINFUL ALTERNATIVE. I WOULD RATHER CHOOSE THE HASSLES EVERYTIME, RATHER THAN FACE THE EMPTINESS AND LONELINESS OF HAVING NO FRIENDS, NO ONE TO LOVE, AND NO ONE WHO LOVES ME. THERE IS AN AGONY IN ANY RELATIONSHIP BUT IT IS NOT HALF AS BAD AS THE AGONY OF LONELINESS.

THE TROUBLE IS THAT WHEN WE ENTER INTO DEEP PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP, WE HAVE TO LEAVE THE SECURITY OF OURSELVES. WE HAVE TO GO OUT OF OURSELVES, AND THAT MAKES US VULNERABLE. WE CAN BE REJECTED, WE CAN BE MISUNDERSTOOD, AND WE CAN BE HURT.

THE BIGGEST HASSLE OF RELATIONSHIP HAS TO BE SEPARATION. THE ONE WE LOVE IS NOT ALWAYS THERE WHEN WE WANT THEM OR NEED THEM. THAT CAN BE BECAUSE OF PHYSICAL SEPARATION.(he has meetings, he has to go somewhere else) AND SOMETIMES THE SEPARATION IS ONE OF GREAT GEOGRAPHICAL DISTANCE.

BUT THE SEPARATION CAN ALSO BE PSYCHOLOGICAL.LIKE THAT(he cant understand what i am trying to say) BUT IF WE ARE TO HAVE A DEEP AND WORKING RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE TO BUILD BRIDGES ACROSS THE DIFFERENCES .IN A RELATIONSHIP ,REMEMBER... WE HAVE TO BEND ALL THE TIME BUT WHEN WE BEND..WE HAVE TO RUN THE RISK OF GETTING BACK ACHES.Image

Answer 6

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