Just broke up with my boyfriend last night.....
2006-09-13 05:42:37 · 19 answers · asked by Cheesy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ouch! This is always rough. My whole-hearted sympathies. I truly wish there were some magical words that could make the hurt go away, immediately.
If the break up is for sure, it'll take a while for you to get back to being "you" after three years. Heck, it's hard after one year! It's going to take some time.
After you're finished screaming and punching a pillow.......
Start thinking about what you like to do and, if you have friends who are only yours, hang out with them. If not, get involved, or back involved, in activities you like and make a new friend or two through them. You also need to spend some time alone, thinking for yourself, thinking about your particular needs and wants so you can re-learn who you are.
It's important between relationships to take the time get centered again. This way, you will know yourself better and you will be able to consider whether or not the next, possible relationship will work and, with this knowledge, there will be a better chance of the next relationship lasting longer...maybe even a lifetime!
Best of everything to you.
2006-09-13 06:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Seneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you just went through a breakup. Three years is a long time and I'd like to tell you that you can just go to bed and wake up the next morning and be over it, but that would be a lie. I also wish I could give you a straight answer, but there is no one answer to this.
The rule of thumb is that it takes twice as long as the time you were with someone to get over them. Since you were together for three years, it will take six. However, recovery time is different for different people. It also depends on the emotional quality of your relationship. How you go about getting over it is up to you. If ranting and raving will help, do it. If mourning, crying and drowning your sorrows in a bowl of ice cream will help, do that. If getting involved in new activies will help, you go girl! If getting together with another guy is what you need, go ahead. (A word of caution: If you opt for the rebound, be very careful and make sure no one gets hurt!)
Good luck to you and remember: everyone in the world has gone through a breakup. They're hard, but they help prepare you for Mr. Right.
2006-09-13 12:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. The best thing for me was to keep busy hang out with people who love you and support you. Take up something you have always wanted to do. Spend some time on yourself. It is OK to be sad and cry, especially at night was the hardest for me. Eventually you will find your sense of freedom and everyday that passes you will feel the pain less remind your self why you broke up with the jerk too. Good luck
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2006-09-13 12:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by daack7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my 31/2 yrs relationship ended I sat down looked at what it was like and decided I didn't really love him for the right reasons anyways. But I did spend alot of time with my true friends and I got over him fast.
2006-09-13 12:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by bfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Feel the feelings.
2. Resolve to learn from the experience.
3. Plan to let a few days go by before getting involved again.
4. Have a special friend talk to you and give you support in your decision.
Good luck and god bless.
2006-09-13 12:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a relationship that goes 3 hours into the night, and make yourself very happy. Good luck at healing that heart.
2006-09-13 12:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by rickdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. I'm afraid there is no safe pill on the market to cure that.
So it may cost you a bit of time. I always tried to ease it by taking some time for myself, try to relax and pamper myself a bit, like buying some luxury clothes or something else I wanted for a long time.
2006-09-13 12:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be tough at first, because its fresh in your mind, but you should go out with friends meet different people not necessarliy go out with anyone just yet, but learn how to enjoy yourself again, and why not flirt, and give yourself satisfaction of knowing your still attractive to other men, it's a great boost to self esteem.
2006-09-13 12:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got over the relationship when you broke up with him. I would get right back in the saddle.
2006-09-13 12:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tom C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "Its Called a Breakup Because its Broken". Its the funniest book ever! Breaking up is the hardest thing ever I know. Take it one day at a time and read this book. I promise it will help. Good luck.
P.S. Dont call him.
2006-09-13 12:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋