i had a stillborn and i still hurt nad greive from it
has any other woman go threw the same experience and will i heal or think about it all the time?
2006-09-13 05:42:08 · 16 answers · asked by ~$#xyMammA~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am very, very sorry about your news. It will always be on your mind and it will get better someday. There is nothing I could say to ease your pain and if I could, I would. So sorry.
2006-09-13 07:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by daisy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I want to say I'm really sorry for your pain, and God be with you. I wish I can be there for you, do something special for you.
I had not a stillborn, but I did lose a child in my first trimester, not even getting a chance to know the gender or the appearance of the baby.
I have an older sister who died of stillbirth.
You never fully get passed the grieving. But, as time goes, you do do some healing and move on with life. But you will never forget your sweet angel, and your little angel is watching over you, and living in the most special place in your heart.
I shall pray for you, and I wish the best for you.
I really want to help you and comfort you; I just don't know what else to say. I'm sure you would've made a GREAT mom!
Make sure you make time to take care of yourself, and treat yourself with your favorite indulges. This may not make the grieving go away, but it does help to have that special time for yourself.
I'm REALLY glad to see this question because I really needed a break from thinking about my own problems. But I HATE that this has happened to you.
I'm going to see right quick if I can try to make you laugh a little: Did I tell you I saw some boogeymen last Saturday night? Yeah, they were some men dancing on the dance floor at a dance club.
Take Care
2006-09-13 13:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother's first baby was born stillborn. I can't imagine carrying a child for 9 months and preparing to bring them home but can't. I am so sorry for you loss. My mother is 51 now and she still thinks of her daughter. It was hard but she ended up with 2 other daughters she is thankful for today.
It will take time to heal and you will never really completely be over it. Maybe you could write your thoughts in a journal. This might help get some of it off your mind. And remember that when God shuts a door he opens another one.
God Bless
2006-09-13 13:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had a still born.. but it was premature and the result of abuse from my husband.
I still greive at times for her, although I love the 4 children I have now dearly.
A mother can never forget and no other children can ever replace the child or children she has lost.
You will heal, but there will be times in your life you will think of the child you lost. Its human nature and the nature of a mother. It cant be helped.
My mom thinks I have forgotten, but I cant afford to bring up the past everyday, if I did I'd cry all the time and I need to move on I have other children to consider now.
I have a website here on yahoo you can check it out if you want, and I have one on myspace.. There some things I have written about myself and about my lost child. Maybe it will help you out.. heres the addresses to them.
http://www.myspace.com/shalamarrue
http://360.yahoo.com/dayna_addison
2006-09-13 12:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dear one, it will take time to recover and work through your grief. Losing a child is something you never really get over, you just learn to live with the loss.
My first child was stillborn back in 1958. From time to time I still think of that little baby boy and wonder what he would be like had he lived. Yes, at times there are tears. I know that some day I will be with him in Heaven though!
2006-09-13 12:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your stillborn. I had one in 97 and he was FULL TERM. Hun there are somethings you can NEVER forget. ALL you can do is ask god to help give you the straight to go on with life. I thought life was over for me when I held mine ex... I WILL NEVER FORGET HIM. There is nothing anyone nor my self that can say to help you. Prayer is the BEST thing it took me 6 years to finally come to my right mind and realize that god chose him. They are the special ones. BEST WISHES
2006-09-13 14:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for you that is really sad eventually you will get numb to the pain. My uncle's ex-girlfriend had a daughter(we all lived together) she died from sids when she was 3 months or so (I was there) She just fell asleep and didnt wake up.She was really beautiful her name was Anjanay. I think about her sometimes but I have to believe she is surely in a better place.
2006-09-13 12:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, my heart goes out to you..secondly, my daughters loss of one of our twin baby boys is coming up on Sept..21st..She deals with not only a loss, but a birth celebration as well..recently and this may help you she had a portrait drawn up by an artist of both boys as if they were asleep..(she did this so as to give it to the surving twin at a later date)..this portrait commemorates his existence as being part of a family..(same as portraits of grand and great grand parents etc..)..The birthdate is kept to celebrate the surviving twins birth and the funeral date is in commemoration of the loss of the other..Counselling, family and friends will help you through..forgetting is not an option, but a gentle reminder, commemorating the event will be etched in your heart forever..I wish I could put you in touch with my daughter..
2006-09-13 13:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt for a while..but it will fade. You might want to get yourself some girevance counselling...most hospitals offer it as a free service. It really helps to talk about it.
2006-09-13 14:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget your child, but the pain will ease with time.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish you all the best for future.
2006-09-13 12:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋