he has been a cheat all of his life and im sure she knows that. i think shes in it for the money because there are no kids involved but everytime were out he is very point blank about what he wants to do with me. i would never ever cheat on my fiance. they are getting married soon, do i risk ruining the wedding or let her find out for herself?
2006-09-13 05:40:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
last time i told her about it, he called me a liar. now its just getting worse i mean, he is a pig. i think since i told her once and she didnt believe me, to just let her go and find out for herself.
2006-09-13 05:42:37 · update #1
oh and one more fact, when i was married she messed with my hubby, so now i feel like this is payback for her, is that wrong?
2006-09-13 05:43:51 · update #2
The bigger question is why are you still friends with this girl?She messed with your husband,which should have been enough for you terminate the friendship.She's not a real friend.You don't owe her anything. What goes around,comes around.
2006-09-13 06:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are in this situation - but rat it out. Don't let your best friend end up hurt especially if you know the truth. You will need proof in this case or else your friend will just accuse you of specualtion and you may lose your friend over it. But you can't let a bad marriage happen when you can stop it before it starts. The last thing you need is to talk to your friend 2 years from now, she's got a kid, may have an STD, and the husband is cheating and maybe look to divorce her. That would suck worse.
2006-09-13 12:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by TexasLSUTiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you let her know because with a man like that, a marriage will soon become a divorce. If she's in it for the money, then perhaps she'll marry him anyhow since there's no real love. If you let her finds out herself, then she might get the feeling of her being used as a tool for pleasure and she would be ashamed to talk to you because you're her friend. On the second thought, if she doesn't trust you, well then it's her lost.
2006-09-13 12:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by themysterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your problems aren't whose cheating on who, it's more your meaning of a "best friend". I think maybe if you found the meaning of what a real friend is, you might realize it's time to move on and find someone who respects herself and then her friendships. Your "best friend" seems to have real problems, and it's interferring in your life and it doesn't sound like she has enough respect for you. I'd let it all go and move on with your own life. Your relationship with your fiance will probably be safer that way.
2006-09-13 13:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her hes a loser and why
she may get upset or respect what you have to say, however she may keep him anyways. the fact that he is much older says that she already has some issues so maybe him flirting with you she will over look as well. Be prepared.
as far as payback. yes, that is always wrong. if you feel to tempted to pay her back then stay your distance for your own sake. it isnt worth it. especially if you two remained friends after all that bs drama.
2006-09-13 12:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why is this girl still your friend if she was messing with your hubby??? What comes around goes around! I would just let her marry him and find out for herself. Especially if she doesn't believe you when you try you tell her.
2006-09-13 12:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HHHmmm interesting she messed with ur hubby well revenge is a dish best served cold but in this case you should tell her cause its prob annoying just being around the guy u know. So get him out of both ur lives and seem like the bigger person
2006-09-13 12:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damm, you need to find yourself a new friend. I would not be friends with someone who messed with my girlfriend. YOu have a low self esteem.
She is in for the money, he is in for a hot young girl. This happens everyday. He will cheat on her and in a few years when she will realize her beauty and happiness are gone, it will be too late.
She is digging her own grave. Let her
2006-09-13 12:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better let your girl know waz up i'm sure she wants to be married 1 time only and you would be doing her a hudge favor by telling her,omg, i just saw your added details you two shouldn't be friends ,friends don't do that to each other,i think you need to redefine friendship and move on ,leave her alone
2006-09-13 12:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her be specific; give proof if possible. Be prepared to lose your friend. Let her know you will always be there for her. Be available when she needs a soft place to land and believe me she will eventually.
2006-09-13 12:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋