im a virgin an jus wanna get it over an done with. It is wrong to want my ex who i love an trust to 'help me out?'
2006-09-13 05:17:33 · 15 answers · asked by roxysmilegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not peer pressure as such im just really scared an its not like we didnt try before we did but it never worked so am worried another guy wont be so caring
2006-09-13 05:23:39 · update #1
im 18 an feel too old to still be a virgin
2006-09-13 05:27:44 · update #2
Geez, why are you so worried about it? It's just sex, get it over with if you really feel that way. Talk to your ex and have him help you out. At least you know it won't be that bad cuz he probably will be a lot gentler and nicer than someone you don't really know or care about. And yes, I think 18 is way too old to still be a virgin! Forget that old school sh*t, it's 2006.
2006-09-13 08:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by lilqtpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait because I had a bf when I was young and him and I split up because my mom didn't like him, he and I had never been together intimately. While him and I was broken up I started seeing this other guy and he got me drunk and I lost it that night. Make a long story short when the love of my life and I had gotten back together a short time later he was broken hearted that I was no longer a virgin and that broke his heart.... I haven't seen him since but not because of that.
Seriously think about how great it would be to give it to ur first true love... it is a great feeling regardless if you are the receiver or the giver.... WAIT.... give it to your husband or someone you plan on spending your life with.
Good luck honey, your gonna do what you want regardless.
2006-09-13 12:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are sure you have found the right guy. Just don't do it so you can say you did. Take an example from my neice she is saving herself until she has found the right guy and even then she is going to wait until she is married. My neice is 21 years old still in college to be a nurse but is held up cause the clinicals she needs is a couple of years behind and she has told all the guys she has gone out with that if they are going with her to just get some there is the front door. Think about this and all the different diseases that is out there. Good luck in your decision.
2006-09-13 12:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by stubbornmom2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get it 'over and done with'? its not something so awful that you have to rush to do just so its out of the way. Dont go to your ex you will regret it, save it for someone special. I understand how you feel, i was the last of my friends to lose mine and they teased me about it but you know looking back i think they were jealous because they had lost theres in some drunken fumbling and they knew i was being fussy about saving mine for someone special. I am glad i waited, it wasnt the best sex by far but it holds special memories for me. I am not with the guy i lost it to but at the time i loved and trusted him, he was so pleased to find out i was his first. Dont be in such a hurry x
P.s then all the more reason to wait for someone special, dont be scared we had to try a couple of times because i was so nervous but it was fine.
2006-09-13 12:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U want to loose ur virginity well thats not a problem but u hzve not mentioned ur age and more u know ur x better than anybody else u r asking to. Therefore if your age and mind permits u to do it just go ahead. But if at any moment u find it wrong just stop there without a second thought otherwise u will regret later.
2006-09-13 12:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should just 'get it over and done with', losing your virginity isn't the kind of thing to get over and done with. I don't know your age, but it sounds like mentally you're not ready for it, by that I mean you seem so worried about it.
Trust me, when you find the right partner you'll be glad you waited, it won't be a case of him, 'helping you out', and you'll feel right about it afterwards.
2006-09-13 12:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing ur virginity is a once in a lifetime thing an dyu dont want to lose it to the wrong person. it has to be with a special person and not something someone can help you out with and its also not a burden. just coz everyone is having sex doesnt mean you have to . wait until the right man comes along.dont rush
2006-09-13 12:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by hieandbye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't look at it as something that you want to get over and done. Take it for someone like me who didn't have a choice to whom it was given to( it was taken). I will never know the pleasure of having my first time with someone who I really cared about and wanted them to share that important time with me. Hold on to it as much as you can. I was almost 18 and if that didn't happen and I would have held on so much longer. Please just don't just give it away. No one ever thinks about it but you are very lucky............
2006-09-13 12:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by trice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will lose your virginity when you are ready. Not before. Don't just give it away, but give it to someone you love and trust and want to share that moment with. When the time is right it will happen. Be patient.
2006-09-13 12:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on till you find and marry soneone who will appreciate and respect you for it. You dont lose it becos all your friends have lost it and you need a leeway for sex. It is the pride of every woman and it is not meant for "someone recruited to help you out"
Virginity is precious, it is not to be thrown away just like that. save it for last
2006-09-13 13:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by mirch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋