My little bro is a Muslim and wants to marry me off to a relative of his wife's.Bad idea?

Question

My brother converted a few years ago. He later married a woman from Morrocco. She is Muslim. Since I have made some bad choices in picking partners, my sister-in-law wants to play cupid by matching me up with a cousin or brother of hers. She wants me to think about it in depth since it would be a major life style change. Except for things I see on tv, I really don't know much about the Muslim way of life in America. Or their views on marriage. So, am I reducing myself to mere desperation by even thinking of such a thing? Or is this a valid option for those of us who want to be married but can't seem to find a good life partner in our own backyard? Look, some men go to great lengths to obtain a Russian or Asian bride. So what difference would this make? Don't worry...I haven't seriously considered this as an option, per se. I am merely wanting everyone's opinion. So, please humor me and give me some good advice or opinions. But don't be mean or critical about it. Thanks!

Answer 1

Check it out, why not... everyone has friends and family who try to hook them up here and there, whether it involves religion or not. If your bro is truly happy in his marriage and new religion, you should at least think about it - you are not committed, but why not meet the guy.

These days people go online for matchmaking purposes all the time. There's something old-fashioned and charming about matchmaking.

This has nothing to do with buying a Russian or Asian bride.

You are NOT desperate to just consider it. Go for it, and good luck!

Answer 2

You are not carving the rest of your life in stone just by accepting a matchmaker's proposal. If you choose to court this new guy, then cool. If you are uncomfortable with the situation, then don't do it. If you want to learn more before you jump in, try talking to the little bro and his wife about what it is to be muslim. I imagine you trust them and they could reveal a waelth of knowledge about the religion to you.

As for being desperate, no way. Not everyone meets people in the same way. I met my soon-to-be wife on the internet, but many people would shun that and talk about how dangerous that is. You, in this situation at least, have people you trust trying to hook you up with someone they think would be good for you. I say go for it. If you don't like it, walk away from it and find something else.

Good Luck,
--Steele

Answer 3

You seem like an intelligent, sensible woman. Perhaps instead of resorting to being matched with someone based on something as precarious and shallow as a religion, you might instead start examining why you've made the 'bad choices' you've made, and start choosing more wisely from now on. Those men you mention who go to great lengths to obtain Russian or Asian brides are usually desperate and at their wits end or want someone that they can easily dominate. You don't need to be reduced to that. Instead, widen your circle of friends and expand your horizons.

Answer 4

I think it would be very important to learn about the Muslim religion before you made a decision, since it sounds like her relatives are also Muslim. If it's a lifestyle change you feel that you can accept, then why not tell your sister-in-law that you would like to meet her brother/cousin/other male family member. From what I understand, although arranged marriages are considered normal in the Muslim religion, there are often opportunities provided by the families for couples to get to know one another before a firm commitment is made, and since we are talking about the family of your sister-in-law, I would think there would be ample opportunity to meet the men and see what you feel about them. So, just as you would in entering another relationship, think about it, learn about it...and then make an inormed decision.

Answer 5

This is not an option

Answer 6

Check it out, you don't have to commit to anything.

Answer 7

do what u feel the like