My husband isn't ready for a baby, so naturally, I'm going to wait until he feels better. He thinks it might be two years out (I'm 20, so I suppose I can wait).
But I can't stop thinking about it, either. What can I do to make this wait easier? Books, classes, focus groups, anything?
Who can relate to an 'urge' to get pregnant. My husband doesn't understand it. I guess it's just a 'woman thing'.
2006-09-13 05:13:24 · 9 answers · asked by Tea_Girl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I already have two dogs...they're great, but a baby is so much more important!!! Thanks for the dog tip though ;)
2006-09-13 05:30:14 · update #1
Thanks for the school tips too, I'll be graduating from college next year.
2006-09-13 06:13:46 · update #2
take classes . go work out. develope great eating habits. try new things teach yourself how to paint or crochet. you're only 20 years old.i was 22 when i got pregnant with 1st child. my advice is pretty sound for a young woman. do what you want to do for a few more years. get a savings account started for when you finally are ready. because all that $ will come in handy!!!!! after a child comes you won't have alot of time or $ for the things you do now. get a career started, go to school, PLAN for the eventual arrival of a child
2006-09-13 05:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by bama g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage in January and I wanted to try again immediately, after losing my son I felt like I needed a baby to give that love too. We have three daughters and my husband was so adamant about waiting. I found that every pregnant woman I saw I envied, and every baby I wanted to hold. I love my daughters to no end, but your love changes as they grow, and I had been ready to love my son as an infant so I still had that there. What I did was talked to him about it, I told him why I thought I was ready and we talked through it. I also just told myself that if it was meant to happen even if I was on birth control then it would. Don't stop thinking about, but try to put yourself in his shoes. I'm not much older than you, but you still have time :) Enjoy your time with your husband and just talk about it from time to time. We just started TTC this month and I think we've succeeded. To help the time pass don't put yourslef in classes or support groups because all that will do is be a constant reminder of what's not happening in the right here right now. Good luck to you and your husband and you'll make, the right time will be here before you know it!
2006-09-13 05:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my boyfriend (now Fiancee) for 5 1/2 years, before he was finally ready ttc. Everyone around me was preggo, it was very hard to be patient. We ended up getting a dog, and that helped a lot! I am a proud parent of my dog :) He is almost 2 years, and now like I said we are ttc. It kept my mind off wanting a baby for the 2 years we had him, and if you can't have any pets find some kind of hobby that could keep your mind off of it... you are still very young yet, so enjoy your time being married and child free. Do all the vacations now, and do anything imaginable before you settle down with children : ) good luck to you!
2006-09-13 05:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by vc24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a middle-aged person with 2 kids I can assure you there is no hurry! Do yourself a favor and live a little FIRST! If you have any plans of EVER going to college - do it now. If you have a little money, travel NOW. See movies and plays NOW. Go dancing NOW. If you want to learn to snorkel, scuba, bungee jump, cook, do karate, or whatever - do it NOW.
Trust me. Kids are great, but once they come you won't have much time or money for personal entertainment and its a LONG 20-25 years per kid before they are out of your hair.
Most people with kids would tell you that 20 is WAY to young. Live a little first!
You might even be a better Mom when the time comes if you have taken 5-10 years to find out who you are, saved some money and stockpiled some interesting world experiences to tell your kids about!
2006-09-13 05:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
UGH! i know exactly how you feel and i only have 2 weeks left until TTC. MAYBE! see, my husband keeps CHANGING his mind. one minute its November then its next year then..........its irritating! but we have recently came to an agreement that after this BC pack is up - then we'll throw out the pills. i guess we'll take it from there but i cant get babies off my brain! i go on websites, i watch TV shows, anything that has to do with babies, I'm there. i wish i could control it, and unlike you I'm 29! but regardless of age, i know how hard it is to wait when you re ready! good luck to you :)
2006-09-13 05:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand. my bf is waiting till we get our own place which i agree is smart and the right thing to do. it drives me nuts waiting though. everywhere i go i see cute babies and happy parents. i feel so sad when i walk past the baby aisle and see all the cute stuff i wish i was buying for my baby! u just have to be patient. sometimes if i feel like i want to think about it i just sit and think of names i like and how i would do my baby's room. i just tell myself that by waiting for my baby and not rushing into things and i am doing something good for my baby. i can say i will bring him/her into a world where he has a place to rest his head and two parents who love eachother n love him and want the best for him. that makes me feel better. and it gives me the motivation i need to wait a lil longer. good luck!
2006-09-13 05:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by playboyprincess6904 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get your mind off of it. It's going to drive you crazy.
I can relate to an urge to get pregnant. It took us 15 years! If your husband doesn't understand it's because he doesn't want children. A man can want children just as bad as a woman. You need to ask him if he really believes he's going to want kids someday & if he's not you may need to find someone who does if your desire to have a family is that strong.
2006-09-13 05:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to get a pet. A dog really helped me when i wanted a kid. It teaches you responsibility of another being. Plus they are expensive and needy and fun and they have to be fed and bathed etc. Seriously. get a pet. I just found that a dog helped me not want a kid.
2006-09-13 05:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate... You have to just do things that would make you be a better parent when you are ready.
2006-09-13 05:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋