Sometimes when I ask my fiance' a question, and he doesn't like the question, he ignores me or just doesn't answer the question. I feel very disrespected. Like a little kid that someone feels doesn't deserve an answer to their question.
2006-09-13 04:51:45 · 16 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You marry a person because you accept them as they are, not the way you want them to be. Are you willing to live with this 'character flaw' for the rest of your life?
2006-09-13 05:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling you have, because my boyfriend has attention deficit disorder and ignores a lot of the things I say to him. Not because he's not interested, but because he is thinking about something else and he can't concentrate on the question at hand. It could be possible that your fiance also has ADD....it is very common
2006-09-13 04:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by ehcgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk with him about ignoring you sometimes when there is a good moment, like when he feels good. Let him know how you feel about it and give him some suggestions of compromises. If he is ignoring you without caring about your feelings, its might be his character, try to compromise, live with it, or make a change so you feel better. It should be possible to communicate about these matters, you might need counseling with him, but this is a touchy subject for most guys. My opinion, try to work out a solution between you two, if you feel like frustrated in your engagement, imagine how its going to be in you marriage.
2006-09-13 05:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him? Maybe you need to open up to him and let him know how you fill when he does that to you. If you don't put a stop to it know that he is only your Fiance. Imagine how he is going to be when he's your husband. You need to solve the problem now before it gets worst. Maybe you need to ignore him when he is talking to you. So he could have a little taste of his own medicine.
2006-09-13 04:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships never work this way, what you think.
You got to have lot of patience, relaxed and cool head and learn to ignore day to day little things in life which are of not so much importance, just come and go.
Not responding sometimes mean leave me alone at this time or I am not in a mood to engage in a conversation. Ask him when he is talking.
Or you might try not responding to one of his questions just to teach him what it feels. Relax.
2006-09-13 05:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by JIM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men tend to do that. We don't mean any disrespect. If it's a really important question that requires an answer, put both your hands on his shoulders and make him look you in the eye. I promise it works.
2006-09-13 04:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that too. Maybe he considers the question to be argumentative and doesn't want to argue. But at least he could say, "I don't want to argue with you so I won't answer that question." It's probablly a habit learned while he was growing up. Maybe that's how things were in his home.
2006-09-13 04:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you talk with him about this? That would be the most help for you, explain how you feel and see if you can get him to understand the problem.
2006-09-13 04:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. Relationships is about treating each other with respect, so if he treats you like that, you treat him the same way, and tell him i will treat you just how you is treat me. I always is do that to my bf.
2006-09-13 04:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with him about respect issues. If he doesn't respect you now, he won't respect you during your marriage. If things don't change fast, I would reconsider your future with this man.
2006-09-13 04:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋