Lately me and my g/f have seemed to drift away from each other-We love each other,i don't want to leave her or anything like that.We have been together for almost 4 years now,and it's just not the same.
At first we wouldn't want the other out of our sight-but now we don't even bother going somewhere together,it's like whatever.
I don't wanta' be this way-but i don't know what to do.
2006-09-13 04:48:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think after awhile in a relationship the thrill of a new relationship falls away. This is often the time when people break up. This can also be the time where you fall into contentment and become more comfortable and confident with eachother. If you feel as though you need to spend more time together, then plan some things. However, if you feel comfortable just being together without going out or actually doing something, then don't worry. Being together 24/7 isn't always healthy. It doesn't matter who the other person is, eventually you will get annoyed or want some time alone. Atleast thats all from my experience.
2006-09-13 04:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two have outgrown each other.
At the same time, it might just be ya'll are a bit bored.
Do you try new things together? Or maybe ya'll did something when you first got together that you can reuse now, and remind each other how it felt? rekindle...rekindle...
Otherwise, you can do all kinds of things. One day when you both have free time, surprise her and make her dinner and pack it up in a picnic basket, take her to a secluded spot (don't forget the music) and have a private outing together (maybe get intimate).
Write a lot of short love notes and put them all around the house (like inside her panty drawer, in the medicine cabinet, on the bathroom mirror saying "Nope! You just couldn't get any prettier, it's impossible to beat perfection!")
Don't stop there, bring her fresh flowers or maybe buy her one of her favorite books or music CD and listen to it with her.
Every relationship gets stumped once in a while. Don't stress it, bless it.
2006-09-13 11:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try to plan things that you can do together. They don't have to be big lavish expensive outings...just quality time together. I know that I perosnally do a couple of things a week with my b/f. Like atleast 3 nights a week for 30 minutes min. we turn off the t.v. and our cells and have talk time and thats just our time to talk about whatever...if we have a problem or if we just want to talk about silly things. Also atleast once a week we try to cook a meal together. I'll make the side dish he makes the chicken type of deal...and then if you're lucky she can be dessert (smile). We also walk my dog together some evenings...I mean there are tons of things you can do together. Mines are just some ideas of inexpensive ways to get in some quality time and they seem to work well for me...hope this helps and if not I hope some one's answers do help and you fgure out a solution.
2006-09-13 11:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by marbles85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try making "us" time, little things like cuddling while watching favorite TV shows, maybe preparing a picnic or special meal, even reading aloud to each other. Make sure that along with all the "time" you spend together you spend some special "time for us"... discuss it, things you'd enjoy doing with each other, perhaps trips to show the other person something that was special to you in your childhood.. The possibilities are endless just use your imagination.
2006-09-13 12:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to grow as individuals when in a relationship. I think you both need to take some time off from each other. This will bring you more closer and also add freshness to your relations. Also we shud always be in constant touch of our own life to avoid such a situation in the future becoz then we can contribute more towards it. It is like - the more rich you are from inside, the more you will have to give to the other person.
2006-09-13 11:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mooch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Developing different interests is healthy in a relationship. It makes the other seem less needy and more independent. It also gives you something to share with your partner and talk about. So perhaps you need to develop some outside interests and encourage her to do the same.
2006-09-13 11:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its only because the relationship is not new any more u are used to each other now and there's nothing wrong with that u just have to be spontaneous and bring up things for u to to do
good luck
2006-09-13 12:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by lost in love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all I could say is don't give up, make an effort to go out. Ask her to go with u shopping, or any stupid lil thing. Just don't give up, good luck.
2006-09-13 11:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can think of one thing to give your sex life a jump start?but in order foe me to tell you?please contact me?and maybe i can sho
w you what i mean.maybe we can have some fun.while we talk.
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2006-09-14 16:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get to a counselor and get changed back you are not normal and it is against the Bible. U need to seek forgiveness from God. What you are doing is immoral & perverted.
2006-09-13 15:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋