now that i know i am pregnant i am so happy!! this baby is my first child,.. me and the babys father,.. we are so happy,...But we are scared to tell my parents,.. because me and my boyfriend live together and my parents said to us,.. it's fine that we live together just dont come home and tell us you guys are pregnant,... how should we tell my parents? and when should i tell them because i found out on monday i was for sure pregnant,.. i was going to tell them yesterday but my dad is in the hosptial,... so help please...
2006-09-13 04:47:38 · 46 answers · asked by Rachel R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ouch! sit them down, with your bf and tell them... assure them that everything will be fine; and let them know how important their support is!
2006-09-13 04:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by jeanne g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until the end of the first trimester for 2 reasons: 1) lots can happen in the first 12 weeks and 2) it's an important developmental time for the fetus and you should keep your stress to a minimum.
Other than that, I would pull each of your parents aside when they are having a GOOD DAY, and very casually say, "I have some really happy news, I'm expecting a baby." Judge how they take it and don't expect too much from them right off the bat. I wouldn't get into a long conversation about it. You can say something like "I love you and I really want you to be involved in the pregnancy and with the new baby." But that's it. The longer you both talk about it, the bigger the chance someone will anger the other person.
Good luck and congratulations.
2006-09-13 04:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, congratulations.
Second, choose your time wisely. I would hold the news until after your father is pretty well recovered (assuming his condition is neither life threatening nor a chronic condition).
Third, be prepared for a storm of Katrina proportions. As a parent, I know I'd probably go ballistic if one of my boys and his girlfriend announced that they were expecting a new addition--and that would be my first reaction, because I truly feel that waiting till after a couple is married to start a family gives the baby the best possible start. That said, I would then just accept the situation as it is and begin preparing for the arrival of my grandchild.
Again, speaking as a parent, I'm sure that they'll come around in time--even if it isn't until after the little one arrives. There's just something about babies that can often win over the most disapproving parent.
I wish you well, an uneventful pregnancy, a healthy baby, and a less explosive reaction from your mother and father than it seems you're expecting.
2006-09-13 04:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they're going to find out anyway, so there's little reason to hide it much longer. A lot of times parents say "I'm not ready to be a grandparent yet" but aren't really aren't that serious. Oh course no one wants to wake up thinking their old and grandkids remind them of just that.
At this point your desire for a child is a little more important than your parent's wishes against. After all it is your kid. Break it gently to them; maybe wait for your father to come from the hospital. Either way, make sure to convince them that what you've done is the right thing and that there are no regrets.
The reason why most parents fear their kids getting pregnant is because they don't think they're ready for the responsibility.
2006-09-13 04:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Scooter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had the same kind of situation. I am probably alot older than you though. I don't know why I did not want to tell my mom (or anyone else for that matter) because we are very close....so my boyfriend ended up telling her and I was already 6 1/2 months along and my parents were VERY HAPPY!! So, they just might surprise you!! I would take everyone's advice and wait until after 12 weeks though. Congrats and best wishes!
2006-09-13 05:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, lets see. You are old enough to live with your boy fiend, have sex and get pregnant.
It's time to step up to the plate and have the guts to tell your parents (when your Dad gets out the the hospital) that your pregnant. Stand on your own two feet, (because the boyfriend won't stay around) Get a job because for the next 20 years you will be working like a dog to support this child.
Get more education while your pregnant so you will have something to fall back on when he leaves and you have to support yourself and the baby, toddler, preschooler, elementary schooler, middle schooler, high schooler. The job will be yours and a long hard job.
GOOD LUCK, PARENTING IS GREAT AT ITS BEST AND A CHALLENGE AT ITS WORST.
2006-09-13 04:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your scenario is just like mine i would spend the night down my bf house and his parents was fine with it but was like no "funny business" when we found out i was pregnant i told my parents they was gonna be grandma and grandpa from now on and his the same we shared tears but and then was excited oh my gosh i think it was the next day me and his mom went shopping and bought so much stuff. But once you get passed that part because it is the scary part everything will end fine we are all happy and expecting the little fella in the middle of Oct. Good Luck and Congrats
2006-09-13 05:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by britt3m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice when you tell your parents, it may be easier to just get it done with, many people wait until they are 3 months pregnant just to make sure there are no complications...don't worry most likely there will be none.
You and your boyfriend should have a plan on how you will raise the baby, financially, when you go to your parents, they will probably ask. good luck with it...
They may be mad at first but after one look at their new grandchild they will forget all about being mad.
Blessed Be!
2006-09-13 04:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad's in the hospital, this is the perfect time to let them know the great news. At times of crisis when you are faced with your own mortality, you re-evaluate what is and is not important. I'm pretty sure your dad, and mom will realize what a good thing this is.
The very fact they said "Don't come home and tell us your pregnant." indicates they half expected this day would come anyway.
Congratulations to you and your boyfriend.
2006-09-13 05:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bran McMuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they do have a right to know but i would wait for the right time as u said your father is in hospital im sure they will be happy for u and when u have told and they are not happy then at lest u tried but not worry im sure the come around to the idea that the have having a gran daughter of grad son .hope this has helped good luck xxxx
2006-09-13 05:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by taiba e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18 yrs of age then they can not dictate when you can and can not get pregnant. If you and your B/F are happy then that's all that should matter! If your parents don't like it then to bad for them! Being a grandparent and having a grand baby to love and spoil should be special to them! A Friend of mine went and got little jars of baby food and Little baby bottle's and put them in small brown paper bags to give her parents to announce the news. Let them know it is a happy moment for you and that you would like fore them to understand your feelings!! Congratulations!
2006-09-13 05:12:12 · answer #11 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋