my best friend whom i have known since way back early in high school owes me $150. i know him very well, we hang out every weekend and talk everyday and still do. we both come from wealthy families so $150 is not really a big deal, but i want him to pay me back to show me some respect and that i am not being used for my money. he owed me that much about almost a year ago and i havent said anything. i let him borrow something he wanted and he ended up wanting to keep it, said he'll pay me for it, but never did. i dont work so i dont make money, i go to college. he works full time and spends his whole paycheck every weekend he gets it. i know he can afford to pay me back, but i am afraid that if i ask, he will get mad and it will cause problems for our friendship. the thing is, we always borrow money (cash) from each other, but we end up paying each other back some other way besides cash, like paying for something. how can i get even? or get him to pay back?
2006-09-13 04:44:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmmmmmmm
hmmmmmmmmm money is really something will hurt friendship
even love will be hurt....
MONEY IS SH1T!!!!!
I HATE MONEY.
MONEY IS THAT GOD DAM BIG PROBLEM
just let him keep it ok?
if he wanted to ask for money again say no.
wel... be cuz of my friend i waste about $1000 with my friends
and now we no longers are friends. be cuz to me. money is nothing. so i waste all the money so that we could have more funs
i am stupid am i?
2006-09-13 04:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is tricky. I know what you mean you don't want to cause a problem but the fact is that you have paid him back when you brow money so he should pay you back. you said it's not a big deal but it is because when someone tells you they'll pay you back and they don't that means they are using you because they know you won't ask for it back right away, and the fact that it's been a year tells me that I don't think he intends to pay you back that breaks a friendship rule and then browing something and want's to keep it and pay you and hasn't yet tells me he's taking advatage of you because you do come from a wealthy background and if he comes from the same type of background why can't he just go out and by it himself in stead of taking yours? you just need to tell him that it's time for him to pay you back and that you don't think you'll be able to borrow him anymore money until he can prove to me more responsable on paying you back. and the samething with borrowing your stuff. I know you don't want to sound mean but it will show him that he can't take advantage of you anymore and he may respect you more for doing that.
2006-09-13 04:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he still wants the item, because if not, you know someone who wants to buy it off you and you need the money. If he doesn't offer the item or the cash, I would suggest that you are more associates than friends. Their is always the chance he may have forgotten all about owing you, or maybe he did not take the deal on the item seriously. One way or another, you should either retrieve your property or the money.
2006-09-13 04:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you told us. You feel like, by not paying you back when he says he will, he's disrespecting you and your friendship. It also makes you not trust him when he says he's going to do something, but doesn't. He shouldn't be borrowing stuff and keeping it. And he shouldn't be telling you he'll pay you, if he's not going to! A year is plenty of time for someone to pay someone else back!!! I'd give him a few months, 6 months most.
2006-09-13 04:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by verony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you guys are used to it, ask him to pay for something for you. Just tel him you need him to do it as a favor, hell even tell him to get you a 150 dollar money order or something. I don't know, I dont know how you rich people operate cause where I'm from, $150 is a lot! Enough for someone to pay back especially!
Hmmm, it must be nice (to be able to blow off $150)!
2006-09-13 04:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go hang out with him the day he gets paid ask if you can tag along while he gets his check cashed
and say hey man about that money you owe me Im kinda broke
and offer to buy him a drink or something when he hands over the cash
2006-09-13 04:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need it and you are as good of friends as you say, then just tell him. Say something like "Hey dude, remember when you borrowed that ____? Whatever happened to the cash you promised for it?" If you put it in a non confrontational way it'll probably be fine. He has probably forgotten about it by now!
2006-09-13 04:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by JAYMIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you loaned him the money you should have made some agreement as to the time frame to repay. Sorry my friend but you lost your 150 bucks. He isn't going to pay you back...and besides if you are wealthy, what do you care? I understand the respect thing but you didn't set any boundaries.......
2006-09-13 04:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him for it,if he says no or he doesn't owe you anything after you prove to him that he does,let it go.Look at it this way,It cost you 150.00 to find out that he's not the friend you thought he was.Your life lesson for today : The best way to keep friends is to never lend money,never lie about having it just say no.If need be them them why.A true friend will never ask for YOUR money.
2006-09-13 04:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him your a little short of cash and would it be possible for him to give you some of the money he borrowed. im sure if he is your friend he will understand.
2006-09-13 04:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋