im sure there are plenty of women who feel the way i do . I think about women too much, although i love being with men and have had normal relationships, i cant stop thinking about women and fantasise about women. I get turned on so much when i see 2 women getting it on. I stare at women's breasts and legs whenever i can and i accept the fact that i am bisexual but i want to settle with a man how will this effect my long term relationships? or will it fade. yours answers are greatly appreciated
2006-09-13 04:37:24 · 11 answers · asked by dino 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, it doesn't fade, it gets stronger. It is not fair to get into a relationship with a male unless you tell him about your attraction to women. Chances are you are not bi, but lesbian. Bi people are extremely rare.
2006-09-13 04:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have these great lesbian dreams about my best friend. At 1st I thought something was wrong but then I asked my doctor and she said it is totally normal. I told my friend and we still laugh about it to this day...I have fantasized about women before (the main girl in Outkast's video "I Like The Way She Moves) she has a awsome body. It helped my sex life at times but I wouldn't think I was bi or gay.
I think you have to come to understand who you are and be comfortable with your sexuality no matter what turns you on...Be open to new things and if you love & trust your man enough let him know and maybe you can open new doors to your relationship. Maybe a good porn movie could get you both going...
Talk to a counselor if you are not sure, doesn't hurt to get some professional help...
2006-09-13 06:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation looks potentially difficult. On Kinsey's scale of orientation, it sounds as though you are solidly in the middle. However, your orientation and your attraction to other men and women has nothing to do with your ability to commit to a monogamous relationship. Quite simply, if you commit to someone, you will still have desire for other people, but you have promised to not ACT on that desire. The question then is, How much value does keeping your word have for you? Is personal integrity and honour meaningful to you? Your bisexuality is NOT what will cause you to break your word to a life-partner. It will be your inability to hold yourself to any promises you have made even when they have become inconvenient or uncomfortable.
Final word: bisexuality is NEVER an acceptable excuse to cheat on someone. If you are a good person with self-respect and personal integrity, then you will not violate your commitment. Desire, assuming we are in good health and spirits, is a never-ending temptation, but anyone with any strength of will resists those desires that are not in one's best interests.
2006-09-13 04:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, it seems to me that you have an infatuation with women that stands out above your attraction to men. If you are truly bisexual and feel this way about women...(there are many beautiful ones out there) then why is it that you are wanting to settle down with a man? You may have a chance to live in a "normal" situation (or what society) considers to be normal ..if you go with your feelings about women. Truly, I see that either way you go, you will always be curious about the side you didn't go with...if you stay with a man, then your infatuation with women will never be fulfilled and if you do settle down with a woman, your attraction to men will still exist and you may regret your decision, so either way you have to decide someday. Good luck.
2006-09-13 04:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. I'm married & it seems me and my husband are alike in many ways. We both stair at hot chicks when they walk by! He doesn't have to worry about being fussed at about it by me because I'm doing the same thing. Plus he totally thinks it's hot that I'm thinking the same thing he is! You'll be just fine. Just be totally honest with who ever it is your with. Don't hide anything. If your honest from the start they know what they are getting, and there will be no surprises later.
2006-09-13 04:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are bisexual, before you marry a man. be honest and tell him!! No secrets is the key to success! If he still marries you, Great!! But at least he'll know!
2006-09-13 05:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by alfonso 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way.
I get so turned on by teacher's when they are so friendly.But i know it's wrong and i tried and prayed and i am still struggling with it.
What to do.I want to marry have children but men don't do i thing for me.
2006-09-13 05:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think almost every woman feels this at times in her life...not sure why? I think all sexual type thoughts and feelings fade a bit as you get older.....
2006-09-13 04:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temptations abound, gay or straight. Don't commit to anyone if you don't think you can be true to them.
2006-09-13 04:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most guys will like it at frist. then later will dump you. unless you don't get on him for looking to.
2006-09-13 04:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋