we have been dating 3 months. i want to marry this man.its the first and only time i have ever had those feelings.
yeah go me
whats your story?
2006-09-13 04:11:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I met my husband at the end of October, got engaged the 2nd week in December and got married the beginning of May. We've been together 6 years and married 5 1/2 years. Only you know how you feel. If you've thought of everything and you dont feel that there is any good reason for you not to marry then Marry him!!! You only live once.
2006-09-13 04:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by spacey51101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met him in February and moved in with him and 2 male roomies 2 weeks later. We had some rough times but stuck it out. In July we moved to Houston by ourselves. We have split up once for 6 months 2 years ago so we could both grow up and learn about ourselves (i was 19 and he was 25 when we met) and see if we truly loved each other. We got back together and moved into a house and been together ever since. It has been 5 and 1/2 years and still not married though. I think that when we are ready we'll know. But if you know now after 3 months, then go for it. The absolute worst thing that could happen is a divorce, and those happen everyday. Good Luck to you. Ignore those people that say it is too soon. I have seen people who were together for 10 years then got marrie and were married for 20 then decide to get a divorce. Nobody knows what the future holds!
2006-09-13 04:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time frame I don't think really has anything to do with dictating how your marriage will go. My grandparents have been married for 50 yrs and they got engaged on their second date and married two weeks later. Marriage isn't necessarally how much time was put into it prior to the union but how much effort is put into it after. Marriage is never easy, not even for people who have grown up together and think they know everything about a person. I was with my husband for 2 yrs before we got married, I've known him since we were 13. And our marriage isn't the greatest right now. You don't have to have a good marriage to give advice do you? Isn't it always easier to help others than it is to help yourself? lol. If you love him and you are ready and he is too I'd say go for it. If the feeling is mutual then go for it. As long as you hold your vowes sacred and plan to stick it through who cares how long you were together prior. I've known people who courted for 3 or 4 yrs and only staid married for a year. It is all in the quality not the quanity. Good luck and I am happy for you.
Yes a lust phase is possible. But here's how I look at it. If you have been in a lot of past relationships that have ended you will start to recognize the lust phase. If you know this is different than it probably is. That is how you will know, when the lights all go off and the trumpets blow all yelling at you telling you that this man is different. If you have experience in lost love, then you will know the difference between love and lust.
2006-09-13 04:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I dated a man for 10 years before we set the date and started planning our wedding; 5 mos. before the wedding, after my dress was bought, I found out he was sleeping with my maid of honer which was my best friend & co-worker... So moral of the story never is too long or too short! I dumped him, he still insisted we get married but I wouldn't have that!
Mean while I was proposed to 5 other times after that and turned them all down... They all only got one year of my time or less - I just figured that I had already wasted so much time that from then on if I did not know where the relationship was going within a year then it was time to move on... I was either happy or I wasn't, if I had to question them then I was again wasting time...
I have since married, we lived together for a 1 year & 5 days before we were married difference was that he was honest about everything!!!! He was not trying to be someone he wasn't he also made me feel that the love he and I shared was way stronger then the love of 10 years or any other that I had ever had!!!! 3 mos. I would say is too soon but only you know! At 3 mos. you haven't even seen his manly cycle, you know men have cycles too don't you? Also in 3 mos. he could be trying to be someone he isn't but you wouldn't even know b/c that is not enough time to get to know somweone you want to spend the rest of your life with! Marriage is for the honest, mature and very well communicative... ... ... It is supposed to last a life time with knowing someone for 3 mos. is not near enough time to get to know someone! It could end in disaster and there are a lot of freaks and muderers out there... Give it some more time please! This is risky!!!
2006-09-13 04:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. I met my husband and dated him when I was 13. He moved away for 3 years, in which that time I dodn't even know if he was every coming back or dead or alive. Then we ran into each other one day and dated on and off for another year. We were back together about 2 weeks when we decided to just get married. we have now been married 2 years.
My parents KNEW eachother, not even dated but just KNEW each other 6 weeks and got married, they have been married 31 years. SO anythings possible...GOOD LUCK and follow your heart
2006-09-13 04:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I got engaged 3 months into dating, so I can safely say that if he is the right man it will work out.
I suggest that he make the moves towards marriage, not you. For some strange reason guys need to do the chasing or they don't feel like there is a real commitment.
2006-09-13 04:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years
2006-09-13 04:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by bfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first husband we dated for nearly 2 years. With my second husband we dated for 9 months, and that was way too short. You are in the "first flush of love" this is a honeymoon period where everything seems perfect, give it time, if he is the right person the feeling will grow stronger. If he is not then you will have saved yourself a lot of pain and money, divorce is expensive.
2006-09-13 04:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dated 2 years before we got married. I still don't know everything there is to know about my husband. I think that 3 months is a little too soon. Get to know each other. I mean if it's meant to be then it will be. Why rush into marriage? It is a big commitment and many who rush in don't last. If you love this man and he loves you waiting won't matter to either one of you!
2006-09-13 04:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Met my husband when i finished high school, dated for 8years before we got married.
would have loved to marry him immediately but we were far too young. i was 16 and he was 17 when we met.
we finally got married when i finished college. We only waited for the right time. If the right time was 8years when we met we would have gotten married.
The time spent on courtship does not really matter. As long as the feeling is mutual and you both feel it is the right time to take things to the next level.
Love has no time frame. The feeling of true love is everlasting.
If you think and believe it is the right time for the both of you, what are you waiting for?
2006-09-13 04:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by minny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋