he finds it difficult to say he is sorry when he is at fault and does not ever sdmit to his shortcomings
2006-09-13 04:10:22 · 10 answers · asked by DORIS A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I won't put up with a man like that. That means no matter what happens you are always going to be blame for it. Get out while you can.
2006-09-13 04:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by JUSTME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 24 years with a man who has this very same issue, in retrospect I would say that it is not worth it. Its not just that I wanna hear him say it, it goes deeper to the point of can he look honestly at his shortcomings, acknowledge them and work on them. You can never change something you wont admit. You might spend your life in frustration with a stubborn person who will never change.
How bad does it bother you? What about the stuff you think are his faults that he wont apologize for? How bad do those traits bother you?
2006-09-13 11:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by answers999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess a lot of it depends on what exactly he needs to be sorry for and what exactly constitutes a deal breaker for you. are we talking leaving the toilet seat up or cheating?
my mother's not one for apoligizing either. my parents have been married for thirty eight years now. the reason why it works is my father knows that on the big stuff that really matters, mom would never do anything that's worthy of apoligizing (ie, she'd never cheat, she'd never empty the bank accounts, she'd never get wrapped up in an addiction, ect.). the small stuff, he allows to flow off his back because he knows how much he loves her in spite of it.
frequently people who are unwilling to admit to their faults have poor self esteme and use the lack of apoligizing or admitting their faults as a cover for their poor sense of self. what was your man's background as a child and in relationships before you? was he hurt badly over and over? it may be nothing more than a defense mechanism that will fade with time as he grows more comfortable and trusting with you. it may, however, be something more patholigical and needing psychiatric treatment in order to resolve.
unfortunately, i can't offer much in the way of straight forward advice. i can't assume that the situation is so simple as your short question makes it seem. you've got to look at the situation completely and objectively as possible and decide for yourself.
2006-09-13 11:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by dedamona1331 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a shortcoming of most people, we're defensive by nature. Are YOU OK with it ?
2006-09-13 11:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by GratefulDad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying sorry is fundamental in a relationship.
2006-09-13 11:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there's alot of men out there like that. Good luck
2006-09-13 11:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he say he is sorry if he doesn't think he did anything wrong?
2006-09-13 11:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by dwh12345 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he do something to say that he is sorry,like some chore that he has put off?
2006-09-13 11:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! Everyone is wrong at some point and time. Even him.
2006-09-13 11:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mizz Peni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is never having to say you're sorry. {:')~
2006-09-13 11:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋