boyfriend lost his father recently and is taking it pretty hard. Doesn't let me help him cope with it and I don't know what to do to ease his pain.
2006-09-13 03:45:14 · 18 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be around and let them talk.
2006-09-13 03:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let that person know how much u care about them and tell them that u understand how they feel and that u r there to help in any way that u can. listen from personal experience its going to take a very long time for him to cope with this especially if they were close, my grandma passed away when i was 18 and I'm 26 now and still not over it , I can hear certain songs and tear up at the drop of a hat. just be patient............ death is hard to deal with and healing should not be pushed when someone is hurting.
2006-09-13 03:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, how sweet of you to want to be there and do the right thing for him. It is hard to lose someone, and people cope with death differently. Just be there if he needs to talk and please remind him that his father is in a much better place. If he was close to his father remind him of all of the good times they had together to get him to smile. Also remind him to be grateful for the time they did have together. You really can't do much of anything else. Just be supportive and let him grieve as long as he needs too. It is different for each person.
Good luck and God Bless
2006-09-13 03:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for his loss.
Just listen to him and wait for him to sort through.
Keep yourself available to listen and let him talk.
Also, be prepared to leave him be. He may not be the kind to talk
about things. Dont force him to talk.
It just may be a comfort to know that you are there.
Back up a bit at first. Let him know that you are there if he needs you.
Men have different ways of dealing with things than women.
Dont force you way upon him.
I hope this makes sense.=)
2006-09-13 03:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing but be available and listen. That is a blow to his whole being and he may never be the same person because of it. Women always want to fix things, which is nobel however, you can not do anything in this situation. His pain is his own, and you are ultimately powerless.
2006-09-13 03:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is different ways of healing which people go thro,some preffer crying loud,some will preffer a quete time and some will preffer having a friend to walk with them on there difficult times ,if your boyfriend preffer to do it himself rather than have support from you then let him do that but tell him thats the way of life,we are living things which are subject to die at one time,im sorry about his dad take heart
2006-09-13 03:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by salma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be a hard time for him he lost a very close friend(his father). It takes time to heal all wounds. This is his grieving time, he is going to be in pain because he lost someone that he looks up too. Right now he is just going through a rough time. I am in a similiar situation right now my ex just died recently and we had a daughter together. Me an her is going through grieving time but I have to hold my head up high and realize that my baby father is happy, he is with God in Heaven and he isn't suffering at all and I know that he is happy and he wants us to be happy to cause he is happy with God. Let him know that his father is in a better place and God have called him home. He should rejoice that his father is with the Heavenly Father. A better place called Heaven. His father is happy right now and I do believe his father wants him to be happy for him. His father will be there with him in spirit. I know my baby father is watching over his daughter everyday. I am going to continue to tell her of her father and how great he is. I know her father will be proud for me to continue to tell her about him. They will be missed but they have gone to the real home. I am truly sorry about his loss and I really know how he is feeling but it is ok for him to cry. What I do to cope with this is I talk to her father even though I know I will not get a response but that what helps me to know he will always have a place in my heart and will be missed. I know he is with us in spirit. Right now he may not want you to help but in his heart he appreciates your help. He will tell you Thanks but right now this is his grieving time and he doesn't know what to do right now but cry.
2006-09-13 04:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best would be if you just live him alone, but let him know that you are always there for him and that he has your full support. Unfortunately there is not much else you can do
2006-09-13 03:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Callisto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing you can do is just to leave him alone. Guys aren't the best at sharing their emotions with others. Just let him know that you are there for him if he wants you to be.
2006-09-13 03:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sincerecly sorry for you and boy friend , just be there for him when needed. it usually takes a good amount of tears . to let mom or dad go i know i lost mine 1975and 1996 sometimes it takes six months to a year to let them pass . even now writing this to you refreshes one memory on what one is missing .good thing, its like G-D: there always their .
2006-09-13 04:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he will not accept your help then stand back and let him deal with it. Everyone handles grief differently. What works for you might not work for him. Just be there when he is ready for your support.
2006-09-13 03:49:25 · answer #11 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋