She was abused at home. Reported it to Fam. Services which did nothing because she will be 18 in a few months. There aren't any relatives to take her in. She has been working to support her mother and sleeping in parking lots on school nights because she is too tired to go home.She had hair that went to her but that she cut in order to prevent her mom from using it as a weapon. She is frequently bruised. She often doesn't eat 3 meals a day unless she is at my home. She is a beautiful girl as well as intelligent. Do we leave her to continue in that life or let her move in?
2006-09-13 03:38:32 · 27 answers · asked by AVA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow thats a hard one. first off if she grew up in that environment she will most likely need some chaos in her life so if your home is safe and calm it most likely wont be if she moves in. But if you set limits and make sure you have boundaries that you set up before hand then you can make it work. first off where would she sleep? how long can she stay? what about college? lots of things to think about but if you say if you stay here seperate room and at least night classes that you pay for or something like that. dont set a live here for free cycle but yeah sounds like you really want to help just be careful.
2006-09-13 03:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her in. She is a human in need after all. Tell your son however, that you won't kick her out if they break up. Make sure he understands that you are doing this out of the goodness of your heart and not so he can have a live in girlfriend so her living there won't change based on her relationship. have her keep her job, but go to part time. take 1/2 the money she makes and put it in the bankfor when she graduates and either decides she wants to go to collage or get her own place.
Your heart is kind for taking her in. humans can be judged on how they treat other humans. Your reward will come in knowing you saved a girl from abuse and possibly homelessness later. Let us know what you decide please.
Chanda
2006-09-13 03:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove yourself from your position as a mother and your son as her boyfriend and look at it from afar. In the end, she's a human being that is at her wits end, and has been for some time.
I say take her in. Keep in mind that things won't be easy in the beginning, though. Remember that everything would be new to her. Her concept of 'love' may be something far different than what you and your family share.
Oh, and don't let your son and her sleep in the same room. That will only breed trouble.
2006-09-13 10:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer a mom at recent, so this is largely theoretical (yet then it may be for every person no longer in this occasion). i could initially be indignant, disillusioned and irritating (extra so the extra youthful my newborn, i.e. extremely irritating in the event that they have been 13, purely somewhat irritating in the event that they have been 17/18). yet i could additionally make it sparkling that I nevertheless enjoyed them, and that i could be there for them in spite of they desperate to do. If meaning I stress them to the health center for an abortion, help them fill interior the varieties for adoption or help them beautify a nursery, so be it. they're my newborn and that i visit love them no remember what, whether i think of they have carried out some thing silly or i do no longer believe their decision.
2016-11-07 05:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by sikorski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot, let her move in. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't set some guildlines for her and your son. And make sure you watch them close. If they are both close to being 18 it's not so bad. But sometimes parents do need to save kids from themselves, when it comes to hormones and all. Wish my parents had save me from myself. lol! But this girl needs help. I've needed help in the past and I got it from my friends and not my family. My ex boyfriends mom is still one of my best friends and is like a grandma to my kids. Even though he and I do not talk. Let her know that she has a place to stay long enough to get back on her feet. But yes get her out of that situation if you can.
2006-09-13 03:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... yeah, i would take her in. The only problem is is what would happen if your son and her broke up? Would she still live there? Or is she "the one"? You should ask your son what he thinks. Maybe give her a temporary place to stay until she gets a job or goes to college. Good luck. Just don't let her be abused anymore!
2006-09-13 03:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can help her out in some way, yes you should. Maybe you can make a difference in her life, and show her what family life is. If she and your son do end up together this is your time that you have to not only impact you family lives now, but maybe your grandchildren lives later. Good luck
2006-09-13 03:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by wmkinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can allow her to move in but u have to ask urself certain questions first. u might see that move as one to help the girlfriend but on the other hand there might be some troublesome issues about the girl that could create problems in your home. its always sad to know that someone is being abused by their families but most times we the outsiders never know both sides of the story. i'm not saying that u shouldnt take her in but maybe u should try find out why she is being abused at home/finding herself in trouble.
2006-09-13 04:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her you can let her move in. You said she is a good girl, and you like her, if it's not problem let her in, she will be 18 in a few months and can get her own place if you don't want her there that long.
2006-09-13 03:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by D-Beat Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if she is your son's girlfriend or not .. this is a child in need. I would give her a loving and stable home to live in. Needless to say there would be very strict rules and guidelines that will need to be followed.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-13 03:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋