is it ok to still be friends with ur best friend's ex, if you were friends before they even went out, or met. and ur best friend is the one who broke it off for someone else. would that be overstepping the unwritten rule of frienship?
2006-09-13 03:36:12 · 11 answers · asked by ordinary jane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
also there is no romantic interest in the ex
2006-09-13 03:52:34 · update #1
just because your friend broke it off with them doesn't mean that you are not allowed to be friends with them. it isn't up to you who is coupled with each other, for some reason it didn't work out with them and it should hold no effect on you. It may cause tension if they are in the same area together just because you are friends with both, and thats your responsibility to make sure that you make both of your friends comfortable. Don't ignore one just because of another. thats the worst thing you can do. If there are questions just be straight forward and say i'm friends with you both and i wont have it any other way, if you can't undestand that then we need to talk. all of your friends don't need to get along, you just need to make sure and reinforce your friendship upon them so they know that you still care and love them as friends, and that you'll be there for them as a friend would. i'm sure you'll be fine..
2006-09-13 04:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for 1 it shouldn't matter if she broke it off w/him for someone else.. ur loyalty lies to ur best friend, so don't get to cozy w/the ex because then it'll be like betraying ur friend.. the last thing u wanna do is be stuck in the middle of anything.. ur gonna have to keep ur mouth shut bout lots of things as well.. it'll probably make ur friend uncomfortable cause i'm sure she's not gonna want u volunteering her business to him and w/him vice versa..
i say be hi and bye friends and that's it.. dont be on the phone, hanging out together or nothing cause it might turn into something else and ur friend might not like it..
remember, ur loyalty is to ur friend not her ex...
2006-09-13 10:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see where it would be a problem, but u have to remember that your best friend was your best friend before the ex came in the picture so to be on the safe side i would ask the best friend just to see how they feel about the situation.
2006-09-13 10:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you was freinds with the ex first, then there shouldn't be a problem with still being friends,I just would let them both know you don't want to be in the middle of what went on between them to,so don't ask you anything about the other,
2006-09-13 10:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by mytifine_01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you look at it. Since there's no romantic feelings involved, I think that it would be okay. Keep in mind that you guys are friends and you don't want to get caught up in their break up.
2006-09-13 11:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-relationship friendships are fair game. But your loyalty to your best friend prohibits dating unless you have the bestfriend's permission.
2006-09-13 10:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is prefectly fine because you are also a friend to this friend before your freind and to be a best friend you need to stick by his side. be a good freind to your freind and be friend with the ex not because she is not talking to him.
2006-09-13 10:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jamaican Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think its ok to be friends... as long as you dont spend every min with them...
2006-09-13 10:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lipstick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's cool. i mean. whatever...basically, if the friend gets mad...that's their insecurity.
2006-09-13 10:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by automaticaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nop
2006-09-13 10:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋