Her mom my former partner has been cheating on me all the time,even at one time talks about her mesing around with guys met my family. But I still tried to hold on her and the kid, because I love my kid and thats the onlychild I have. But for her not understanding that she felt she was smart and still continued messing around. So I dicided to just keep a cold shoulder not caring about she does or say. Realizing that she's lost grounds she started using the kid against me by allowing her to do things that she was not allowed to do. Potraying me as a bad dad who's strict. She one day took the kid and left the house with out informing me about where they were for about three weeks. After I found them I tried to talk to her to bring the kid back but she refused as she's got useless people like her who are advicing her and want to live a free life where no one will control. And now I find out that the kid is completely out of controle. What can I do in this case?
2006-09-13 03:30:37 · 15 answers · asked by hahol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would strongly suggest to seek a lawyer to get rights to your daughter.. or child custody if you feel the mother isn't providing the home she is needing, as well as stability.
Sorry you are going through this.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-13 03:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the State you live in Possession is 9/10th of the law if you went to her and asked to take the kid for ice cream and never brought the child back she would have no choice but to file with the court for custody and from what you say I feel she will not go that route willingly because she needs money. (you must be listed on the birth cert. as the father for this to be legal.Now I would converse with an attorney and see what it would cost for you to get temp custody pending a divorce if you are married if not just file for temp custody. she will have to fight legally. Good Luck with it and FYI being strict is not being abusive it shows you care enough to lay down the law. Good Job.
2006-09-13 10:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by squekie0874 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight to get joint custody , if u cant get residential custody then ask for joint.. let the judge know ur willing to do anything to have ur child.. tell the judge that u love your daughter and u're willing to do anything to be with her as much as possible.. even suggest u'll pay child support during the 6 months that u have ur child.. take a parenting course.. show the judge that u have day cares babysitters, schools whatever u child may need set up and ready to go.. Show pictures of where u live, have a room set up for her, ect.. SHOW EVERYTHING IN UR POWER TO A JUDGE that ur completely Stable, more stable then the mother, and that its not about money u dont care about money u care about your daughter.. RECORD AND DOCUMENT EVERYTHING that ur x is doing or not doing for ur daughter.. take pictures of anything that would make her look like an unfit mother..if u can record her on like an answering machine of her saying something inappropriate.. keep it.. she knows she's being recorded and the judge will hear it.. FIGHT AND DONT STOP FIGHTING.. even if u lose DONT QUIT.. my father got custody of me and my 2 siblings and my dad is the greatest man to walk this earth.. i cant imagine my life with out him and although i love my mom , i know we would of ended up pregnant teens, druggies, high school drop outs ect if she had custody of us.. SO DONT QUIT.. DO ALL U CAN.. ur daughter needs u..
2006-09-13 10:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you married? Im not sure by your question. If you are declared the father (if not married), then you have rights. If you can prove that she is not taking care of your daughter and letting her run wild, then the courts can give you custody. Sounds like you have a case in your favor...they usually tend to go with what is in the best interest of the child. Ive dealt with something similar...good luck to you.
2006-09-13 10:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by nindag30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say your child's age but if you fear that she in endangered then call child protective services, you'll be do all of you a favor if you do. your wife has obviously just went wild and you don't want your child in the midst of that and let's face it your wife shouldn't have her involved. just keep being there for your child, they are smart and eventhough they are enjoying this new found freedom they will see if for what it is and eventually come around. really have the authorities remove the child if necessary and have the court order you custody as it sure does seem like your wife is not fit to be a mother, especially right now. good luck.
2006-09-13 10:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your daughter was born did you acknowledge her legally? If so, even if you and the mother are seperated, you still have paternal rights.
You should seek legal counsel on how to enforce these rights.
Good luck!
2006-09-13 10:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Courage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a good English class.
2006-09-13 10:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you need to be visiting the court house and getting your child before she messed up the childs life. You sound respectable go to court and get them before its to late.
2006-09-13 10:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, man, I don't really know what you can do exactly, have you tried talking to an attorney to even figure out what your rights might be? Sounds like it can turn pretty nasty with her. Good luck.
2006-09-13 10:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to your ex and tell her how important your daughter is to you and how much you love her.maybe sugest counsling or get a close friend involved to help talk to her. let her know that you want to be in your daughters life even if she wants other men in hers.. i lost my father 4 years ago but i only spoke to him once when i was like 5 or 6 so PLEASE don't stop trying!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 10:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋