My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He knows how difficult this is for me, especially during the few days following a visit together. He asks me what he can do to help when I'm so down. So today he's got some meeting he's going to. I asked him if he could just call me for a minute during a break or lunch or something. He wouldn't do it. He said he'd try, but he might not have a chance. Hello....they are going to give breaks/lunch in an 8 hour time period. Why can't he just say ok because we both know he will get a break. I'm not asking for some long conversation, just a quick hey how are you?
Is that asking too much...especially when he wants me to tell him things he can do to help me feel better?
2006-09-13 03:26:29 · 13 answers · asked by Squeegy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should give him a break. I mean, he's working. Whether he's on a 5 minute break or hour long lunch, don't expect him to tend to his personal life during work hours. Sometimes it's a little draining. Even if you are only asking for a quick "hey", let him call you after work.
2006-09-13 03:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being too hard on him over this little issue. Sometimes I have all day meetings.....sure you get breaks, and prolly a good long lunch, but you know how these meetings are (or maybe you don't), at lunch everyone expects you go out to eat as a group, and during the breaks you barely have time to get a cup of coffee and take a leak.....
Why don't you just ask him to call you after work?
2006-09-13 10:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..this made me think. I think the best person to answer this is YOU. I believe you do know what to do however, you are being hesitant. At times its better to have a good talk and make things clear. I personally believe if someone cares for me then definitely he would have time to ask how am i and what am i doing? more so if we are not at the same place.
Your boyfriend attitude does sound weird to me. Are you sure he loves you and this is not a case of out-of-sight-out-of-mind or every-place-i-have-one. I may be wrong too.
Take care dear and check the ground reality.
On second thoughts may be that day he was really caught in some very important work. Once or twice if this happens its fine however if this continues more than two times, you got to think.
2006-09-13 10:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by luvlel l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, long distance relationships NEVER work. Second, short little conversations are always awkward with a mate. Third, everytime I am asked to call for 5 seconds to just say hello, she always makes me feel bad when I actually try to get off the phone after a minute.
2006-09-13 10:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, with our wide array of communication possibilities, we also have to learn how to limit our "communication".
You could text or ym him now and then, but try to limit calls.
It is good that you want to say hello, but its best to use calls so that you can talk at the end of each others day. Anyway, you should be willing to wake up earlier/stay up later just so you can talk to your boyfriend.
You can e-mail him, maybe send an e-card. But it is also good to send in the ageless snail-mail, so that he has something he can hold on to.
Anyway, i hope you two will have be faithful to each other. ^_^
2006-09-13 10:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by The 35th of the Order 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haven't you thought that he might not like talking to you for such a brief time? There are ppl who don't lke to call and just speak a few words and hang up, but then again, he might not want to call you alltogether. This is a matter you should discuss with him.
2006-09-13 10:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not asking too much. it should not be a problem with him calling you for a minute on his break. I could be wrong but are you sure he is going to a meeting today? Or is he with another woman?
2006-09-13 10:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no that isn't asking to much hun. perhaps he is just busy and if he rings you on his break he will get too sidetracked into talking to you and not end up having anything to eat as you both love each other so much .
2006-09-13 10:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it's too much to ask, and if it makes it easier for you then he should be happy to do it for you. It also could be that it's harder for him, maybe talking to you makes him miss you more.
2006-09-13 10:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by michigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. i was in a long distant relationship. it didnt work, yours probly wont either.
2006-09-13 10:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by rogdogg187 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋