My son use to be a loving little boy and very affectinate. I Love him so much. Now that he is 12 he is pulling away and I feel he doesnt' need me as much. Is this common? How do u deal with this?
2006-09-13 03:25:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's called maturation. He really doesn't need you to do as much for him as he did when he was younger. He's also probably at the stage where his first sexual feeling are starting. Sitting in your lap and letting you cover him with kisses probably feels strange and uncomfortable. It is common and you shouldn't take it personally. You need to find the place between letting go and providing the guidance he needs. It's not going to go away. In fact, it will become more pronounced. If you try to keep treating him like a child, he may start hiding things from you, rebel, or become angry and difficult. Let him know you love him, and are there for him, but that you understand his growing up. Let him know that he can make certain decisions for himself, but you are the parent and will always have the last word until he reaches adulthood. He'll appreciate you for that and be more likely to accept your parental advice and guidance as he moves into his teens and beyond.
2006-09-13 03:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by ***&&*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly common. And it becomes more pronounced as the years pass. Once he is in his twenties he'll start to devlop a stronger adult relationship with you.
You deal with it the same way you deal with everything else. Let go of your own desires, and provide him with what he needs for this stage. This stage requires training on how to be independant and learning how to be a good man.
2006-09-13 10:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so normal. how do I deal with my boys growing up I get involved with their activities and things they do. I play video games with them and watch the movies they do. I read the same books as them. I play runescape too(an online role playing game) this gives us plenty of things other than school that we can talk about. It keeps me directly involved in their lives in so many ways that other parents arent and I am now one of the "coolest" moms there are. They also come to me randomly for hugs and I am always happy to give it to them:). I love doing the things that they like to do. Their interests change so much as they grow up so I just try to keep up with them as much as I can.
It is hard to watch your little boys grow up into young me Inst it?
2006-09-13 13:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called puberty. It's very common. He is getting more independent. You learn to deal with it..they all have to grow up.
2006-09-13 11:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. He is growing up and starting to assert his independence . All children have to go through this in order to become healthy well adjusted adults. You will have to adjust and work on giving him more independence at home.
2006-09-13 10:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by S G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah Kids will change and grow away from their parents but they still love and need them, just in a different way. I'm 14 and i used to cuddle mum but as i grew older i changed i go to her when i have problems and things and when i'm upset i still like cuddles your little boy will still need you but you have to let him grow up and be independant. I can imagine it's hard but he will love you more for it. good luck!
xXx Charlie xXx
2006-09-13 14:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my! my son is now 14 and i can remember when he was 12 he wouldn't want to go anywhere with his mommy, but he's over that now. just remind him of how much you love him - it's very important that he hears it often - whether he likes it or not!!! bottom line=he'll get over it. :)
2006-09-13 13:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's growing up so he's becoming more independent. Give him some space but still have some sort of a relasionship with him.
2006-09-13 12:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by kara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey well i think it is very normall thoughout adolesence children pull away from there perents and go bk when they get older its the way off life
2006-09-13 13:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He always come to u when he is having a problem. It is common its just a fase
2006-09-13 10:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by janessa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋