Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going through some very crazy times...I just had a daughter a little less than a year ago and we are on and off with the idea of being friends. We love each other but we fight constantly so its hard for us to be together. He slept with someone else and I was really hurt even though I shouldn't have been b/c we're "separated" so I made a big deal about it being about STD's. So out of spite...without him knowing I slept with someone I knew from a previous relationship. He still doesn't know. The dilemma is we both got tested and I had something (nothing life threatening but still nasty) and he didn't. But because we had sex before my test he may have it. SO, should I wait until it is out of my system and tell him we both need to get tested together or should I just outright tell him? I do love him but because he is in another state things get really complicated. I've really screwed up and I just want to start over with him.
2006-09-13 03:17:49 · 16 answers · asked by JusME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
AND WE DID USE PROTECTION (ME AND THE OTHER PERSON) FOR ALL YOU A**HOLES W/ SMART COMMENTS....IT BROKE!
2006-09-13 03:39:32 · update #1
Yes you have to tell him the sooner the better he screwed up too if you'll pardon the expression. Will he forgive you? noone can tell you that but him. My experience is that we tend to fight harder to keep the ones we fight with most. If that makes any sense at all. He nailed someone first is the bottom line so if thats what he gets pissed about f him. I know it sounds like scolding time but where are the condoms in this scenario you are very lucky this is treatable and you don't have to take him on Maury for a paternity test later WRAP IT UP!! Girlfriend....
2006-09-13 03:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to tell him! What are you thinking! He needs to be tested again. Not every test will show a positive result right away. He may have already been infected and it did not show up on the first test, or he may have become infected from you. This is just one reason people need to STOP fu*&ing everyone!!! You need to get a seperate HIV test also. Hopefully he isn't still sleeping with other people. You screwed up, he screwed up now its time to face the music. Too many people are at risk here. You need to let the guy you slept with know too. This is NOT something to play games with. I hope you learn something from this.
2006-09-13 03:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to be called a slut, but two-wrongs don't make it right. I understand that you were separated and all, but it hurt you when you found out about him sleeping with someone else, what makes you think him finding out won't hurt him. If there were no other way of him knowing that you slept with someone else, then i would say let it be. But, because of the std, i would tell him, especially since there is a chance you two will have sex. You would want to know, wouldn't you?
2006-09-13 03:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by luvu!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be able to visit the doctor or clinic that tested you, and ask that they inform your recent partner(s) of the issue on the basis of ANONYMITY. See, that way, he's informed that he MIGHT have something, and he doesn't have to know exactly where it came from. The bright side of this is that if he's still getting it on w/ somebody else, he can't point his finger directly at you. Either way, it is a health issue and he needs to be informed. If he wanted to be fair, he couldn't really jump all over you about having been with someone else, when he did it himself. But life is rarely fair. So think about what the possible outcome would be in any course you choose, and do what you think will be best.
2006-09-13 03:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really love him then tell him. He derserves to know. If your love can withstand that then you should try to find a way to live to gether. As for the fighting thing find a compormise for the both of you. Each of you has to give alittle and take a little to have a good relationship with any one
2006-09-13 03:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, no preaching and so on.? this might want to be exciting lol. In answer for your question, i trust God created the dinosaurs. before the flood, scientists trust that the earth had a "cover" of water contained in the ambience. contained in the Bible (sorry lol) it says that God unfolded the heavens to flood the earth. This bumped off the "cover" making the dinosaurs and different quite some existence varieties extra liable to the solar's rays. This killed them off. Why do i position self belief in God? take a go searching you. This international we stay in is so complicated, it won't be able to easily ensue. Take the human body for instance. Do you fairly imagine that something so brilliant might want to easily ensue? And as for evolution, if we developed from monkeys, then why are there nonetheless monkeys? And the large Bang theory? something had to be there to blow up. So the position did that come from? all of it boils right down to this: If evolution is authentic, then each and every thing got here from something correct? nicely, the position did the first "something" come from? It had to be created. there's a lot extra i might want to assert, in spite of the undeniable fact that it would want to be "preaching" lol. So i will leave it as is for now. yet once you've any questions in any respect, please be at liberty to digital mail me. ~Kat~ P.S. And God loves each and every individual, and encourages us all to do likewise. He under no circumstances inspired us to hate each person. in reality, He informed us to "Love our enemies, and do sturdy to those who persecute you." i'd be truthful and say that not all Christians stick with this idea. yet when Christians hate each person, it really is by employing their personal doing, and has not something to do with God. :)
2016-11-26 21:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an obligation to everyone that you could have givin the STD to. You should also make sure the person you recieved it from knows
Sex is not a game, you are right...maybe next time you should use protection...or not have sex...
2006-09-13 03:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you should both get tested together IF he asks you why you need to Only tell him the truth if it will benefit him NOT just to make you feel better.
"The truth shall set you free," of this relationship.
P.S. Condoms are girl's best friend. (no bullshit)
2006-09-13 03:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jereamy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. First if you love him, you have to tell him. Second, if you want any kind of chance of getting back together with him you have to have an HONEST relationship on BOTH sides.
2006-09-13 03:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! It might be hard but it's the right thing to do. If he does have the STD, he needs to get treated.
2006-09-13 03:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋