What is your perception of someone who is divorced?

Question

Be it he/she divorced the partner or the partner who seeks the divorce.

Frank opinion please. Thank you.

Answer 1

I am not personally for divorce, although i do agree that in some situations its a necessity.. problem is people get divorced for stupid reasons.. if someone sneezes wrong they go get a divorce.. Divorce has been made to socially acceptable, and instead of trying people run at the first sign of trouble instead of trying to make it work.. Only time i look at people badly for divorce, is when they cheated on their spouse.. and thats the reason they got divorced. or when there are children involved.. and the parent thats not the custodial parent drifts off from the kids and only puts their children as a priority when its convient for them..

Answer 2

I think this is a very valid question...
Many of us have perceptions about this.
I wouldn't really call it passing judgements on them.
I think if someone divorces it's because they were in a really bad relationship and sometimes 1 or both of them were unwilling to learn and grow together.

I can see why someone would get divorced if they were being abused mentally or physically,but I think so often people rush out to get divorced because their partner changes...it's part of life for us to change and grow..That's why you have to be willing to change and grow with your partner not against them.

Noone said marriage was going to be easy...It takes a lot of work to keep a marriage and family together. I admire people that go through the hard times together and bounce back. I also wanted to mention that some people get frustrated and give up when the other person refuses to change. We're only in charge of ourselves we can nudge that person to change,but don't go into a relationship or marriage expecting someone to make the changes that you want them to.


Someone mentioned that people may have married for the wrong reasons. I think this requires the person to continue living in the past. Maybe you did marry the person for the wrong reasons,but all you can do now is make that marriage work and don't get caught up in the reason you got married in the first place.

Here's a few sayings that I enjoy:

It's not about finding the right person it's about creating the right relationship. (together, ofcourse)

It's not about how much love you have in the beginning It's about how much love you build til the end.

So many people get caught up in the stuff that doesn't really matter and they let that be the excuses on why the relationship didn't work out.

Answer 3

I don't have a particular perception. Divorce is so common nowadays that to say someone is "divorced" is to almost say they are normal. Amongst people my age (over 30) it's more unusual to find someone who had never been married. I myself had been divorced twice, and getting married for the 3rd time. I'm not biased against divorced people, if this is what you're asking - but I do like to know some of the history of the person I'm interested in dating, so I might ask at some point about the circumstances of the divorce.

Answer 4

To me a divorcee is just another person regardless they divorced with their partner or their partner with them. It is a matter of mindset. We have to accept this as a fact. No doubt most of us will look at them in a different manner but I feel that they didn't do anything wrong, so we should treat them as our friends or relatives. A lot of them I found that most of us will gossip behind those divorcee claiming how bad is the person before we establish the fact on why he/she divorce.
I always feel that we should give them a chance to start a new life after their divorce.

Answer 5

There is the legal divorce which isn't official until the court orders it and then there is Mental divorce which of course is final when you feel it is over without any resolutions. Either way it sometimes happens when people just can't live together. I believe that everyone that files for divorce should have to go through counseling sessions before they are allowed to just split.

Answer 6

My brother has been married and divorced three times. I know when some people hear that they automatically think what is wrong with him. I was there to witness all three marriages and divorces and I can honestly say that even though no one is easy to live with, including my brother, you can't stay married to someone who wants out. Which is what happened all three times. First wife: Got pregnant, kicked him out three different times before he finally left Second wife: Told him while he was on the road (LD Trucker), that she wanted a divorce and had cleaned out the bank accounts Third wife: Walked out last Easter..........

My point is nobody is perfect. Everyone has baggage ~ don't judge someone on the past because that is exactly what it is ~ the past.

Answer 7

In this day and age with the divorce rate over 50%, it's hard to find people who haven't been through divorce. I don't think there is anything negative attached to divorce anymore. Most people are very understanding. My wife and I were both married before. We are just glad we found each other.

Answer 8

Incapable of making sound descions in any aspect of life, immature, someone of little character, not a good choice to be friends with and someone that I would not be able to rely on or trust.

No divorce is a complete surprise. People close their eyes to the truth and think that everything is going to be fine (heads in the sand).

People need to be very aware in the dating and engagement process that means being mature and not using emotions to guide your desicions.

This is my frank opinion.

Answer 9

A divorced person is a single person again. He or she has the liberty again to stay single or enters into another relationship.

I don't think anyone has the right to pass any judgement on any divorcee lest the person is outright sinless! ("He who is without sin among you, let him throw the first stone at her." John 8:7)

A failed marriage should not determine the future of a person.

Answer 10

You should never be judgmental. There are many people that fought to keep their marriages together to know avail. There are those who have been emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually abused and had no other option but to seek a divorce to stay alive. Never be judgmental.