what should i do? please help?

Question

i have done a peganacy test it said positive im only 18 im still at college so i dont have a job witch means no money how am i supposed to bring up a baby should i keep it or not please help me i realy dont know what to do

Answer 1

No one really knows except you; you've just got to weigh up all the options... It's not just a baby, it's a whole new person who will be there for the rest of your life. Go to your doctor to confirm the test; they will be able to refer you to an expert to discuss what you can do. Also, tell people; friends and family who will be able to help you through it whatever you decide. Good luck x

Answer 2

Are you ready to be a mom? If you decided to keep the baby would the father be around to help? Have you told your parents? If you wanted to keep the baby you could go through college until the baby is born and then take some time off, and go back when the baby is 6 months to a year old. Could your parents help? (if your not living at home, could you move back and just work partime in the evenings and still go to school during the day)?
I'm not going to tell you what you should or shouldn't do but i won't lie to you, raising kids is tough (I have 3). I also know that if you decide to give it up there are tons of willing families waiting to adopt, sometimes you can choose the parents. If you choose to abort the baby, you have to talk to a doc, you might be too far long to choose that option, plus it needs to be done by a doc anyway, otherwise you run major risks and complications, including not being able to conceive anymore children.
You need to do what is best for you and your situation.
Good luck

Answer 3

Ok, Agreed no one can make this decison for you.
Speak with the father, if you dont know who he is .. then figure it out.
I was 17 when I got preg and 18 when I had my first. I was in college and working and still did both till I was unable to, I married the father of my child and he is now 2 years old, I considered all the options, I went with what was best for me, I knew that if I gave up this chance God had granted me there may never be another one. If you believe, everything happens for a reason.. Then you know in your heart you wont give the baby up. Raising a child is a handful, yes its even harder when your a single parent and trying to do it. But it can be done.. many many many women do it and then there is some men who are raising there child(ren) by them selves also. If you decide you dont want the baby, dont get an abortion because you will eventually regret it and there is so many out there that want a child and arent able to have it, and with this option at least you will still be able to have contact with the child and everything. Life does not end because you have a child, It begins with them. Trust me, you think you have a good life now... wait until that baby looks at you with all the trust and love in the world .. it can break your heart at how innocent they are..

oh and getting a job isnt hard.. there always hiring in many places..

I wish you luck
May God be with you

Answer 4

I know this must be a difficult time. I'm 22 and didn't want the pregnancy either. I grew to love the baby though. Yes school is very important but the truth is that YOU CAN DO BOTH no matter what anyone else says. You can be a mother and a student. Depending on what state you live in they will help you. In california they have WIC (gives you food for the child) then theres HUD (gets you into housing and pays a great deal of the cost) then theres MANY programs that will pay for your babysitting needs. Please don't throw this baby away. I used to be pro choice until I went to an internet site that showed what they really do when you have one. this is your decision But please don't take the easy way out just because your life will be easier. My cousin had an abortion and has never forgiven herself. Good luck with your decision.


and for the people saying......"you should have done this"......or "well should have thought about that" She wasn't asking what she should have done, she's asking what to do now. She's not asking you guys to criticize her, she's asking you to help her. Obviously you couldnt give her the support she needs so why leave a comment?

Answer 5

Where is the father of the child in all this ?? is it a long term relationship or a one night stand??? do you love the father?? without at least knowing the answers to some of these questions it is difficult to advise you.
You have a life to lead, you are young, it sounds like you have a future planned, how will this baby fit into that ??.
On the other hand life is precious, could you live with yourself if you terminate this pregnancy??????
Also there is risk involved to your future well being if you terminate, as there are with births.
If you have a family to support you then I would say keep the baby, somehow you will work your way through this and with their support college is still a possibility.
Talk to your family if you can, and the father, find out where you stand for support, then go from there.
It will not be easy for you either way, and I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

First of all you need to calm down to think clearly. You need to talk to your BF is both your responsibility. If you don't have a boyfriend try to find support in a close friend. No one here can tell you what to do, if you were a grown up to have sex you have to make this dicision on your own. If you do want to keep it but the problem is the money toalk to your parents, find a part time job, so that you can give that kid a chance. Adptions is always a way to go, and even some couples will be more than happy to pay for your medical expenses, you could go to an adoption center and find out. Of course there's always abortion, but that's hard, it's only up to you. I hope God helps you make the best decision, do what your heart tells you. Good luck

Answer 7

I just became a new mom myself almost 4 weeks ago, and I am going to be honest with you. Taking care of a newborn is the hardest thing that me and my husband has ever done! We don't know how either of us could do this if we were on our own. We are also in our 30's. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I want you to realize how hard it is for a married couple who both have jobs to take care of a newborn. We don't get any sleep. I cry all the time and feel so removed from the rest of the world. I worry constantly if I'm doing a good job. Please be aware of this when making this choice. Also, we had a hard time getting pregnant and was thisclose to adopting, so if you chose to give up your baby please consider adoption. I'm by no means one of those people that protest or even hate people that have abortions (every woman has the right to make her own choice) but since I know what it is like to desperately want a baby, I think adoption is a rewarding option. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

You need to do what best for you. try going to see your local mid wife or health visitor they will be able to give some advice, if you can't talk to any family. Are you still with the father? Even if your not he needs to know as it's his baby too. Just rememeber to stay strong and think for the future, if you really dont think you will be able to give this baby the unbrigning you really want to then you already know the answer, however if you want to spend your life in a council flat and getting benifits then you know what to do. But remember just because you have a baby doesn't mean you can't have a life, job and money and a nice house!!

Answer 9

I suggest that you talk to the father and tell him what's going on. It's a decision that you are going to have to make together. You are young, so there is no rush to have a baby and as you say, you are not in the best poistion at this point in time to actually have a baby. Speak to someone at your college - an advisor of some sort who will be able to give you information you might find helpful. You are certainly not alone, so make the most of the people you have around you to help you cope.

Answer 10

well, this is quite the perdicament. you should have used a little more of this worry that you have now when you decided to sleep with the guy.
it is only september, and you are only 18... so that would mean that this is your freshamn year, and mommy and daddy are not going to be happy.
you should definately talk to the father, he may want to have some say in what happens to his child, however, the ultimate say is up to you.
i am pro-life, and i will not tell you to get an abortion, or tell you that it is right. i do not believe in it. i think that if you are pregnunt, weither you want to be or not, it is what happend, and you need to respect that.
you made a decision to have sex with some guy, your first semester into your freshman year. when you made that decision, you welcomed this baby into your life. if you dont think that you are ready for this baby, chances are that you werent ready to have sex.
if you just got pregnunt, then the baby will be born in may or june, and that gives you enough time to at least finish this semester.
if you want to give the baby up for adoption, then start looking into that now. if you decide that is what you want, then have the doctors take the baby imediatly after birth to the social worker that is dealing with your case, if you see the baby, chances are that you will want to keep it.
if you think that maybe you should keep it, then get a job now (you will need one anyway to pay for the doctors visits) and start saving up. any money that you dont need to spend, you shouldnt.
you do need to talk to your mom though, either way. and the babies father. if you are nervous or sacred to talk to your mom, call your best friend, and have her come with you for a weekend trip, and tell your mom. she might be mad, but she will get over it, and in the end, she will side with whatever you decide.
i hope that this is some help to you, and that you just listen to your heart, and make the decision that is best for you, and then baby.
p.s. congrats.