A friend of mine is plaining to get married, but can not aford the expences that his soon-to-be wife what's. I stated that maybe they should have a cheaper union and at 10yrs have big blowout do-over. this is so they don't start off with a large amout of debt. What is ypur oppion?
2006-09-13 02:56:27 · 19 answers · asked by calvcanto 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is such a common mistake... especially (BUT NOT ONLY)among younger couples... and they get so wrapped up in the moment and just didnt take the time to stop and think about the future and actually paying off this event.
If the bridzilla has it in her head that she wants a big affair, it is possible that not your or even the groom to be can sway her decision.
Should you offer your suggestion, absolutely - maybe they hadn't thought of trying that.... do it politely, and only once... if they choose to take you suggestion you can be happy you were able to help and be sure not to rub it in.... BUT if they say thanks-but-no thanks.... leave it at that, and know you were a good friend for trying to help!
Best of luck =) you are being a good friend, and it is nice of you to think of them.
2006-09-13 02:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The size of the wedding has nothing to do with your future happiness as a couple. We had a small wedding with just family and it was very nice. Too many people put everything into the big wedding then are dissapointed when real life sets in. I say save the money and have a great honeymoon or use it to get a great place to live and start your life together.
2006-09-13 10:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well every woman wants a big wedding but if you can't afford it no sense in going into the marriage in debt. The wedding can be simple because the most important thing is the love. Love conquers all and if the love is true and irreplaceable then it can be in a living room and be the greatest event ever because it would still be something wonderful just by being joined with the love of your life.
2006-09-13 10:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that a size of the wedding is only as important as its participants are making it out to be. Perhaps, for your friend's bride, it's worth going into debt for - no one else can make this determination but the couple. My personal opinion - a big wedding is a HUGE waste of money, AND totally stressful to boot. My fiancé and I had a choice of having a fairly traditional wedding, or going on a nice 10-day Caribbean cruise for 1/2 the cost of the wedding. Well, DUH, we went on the cruise! It was great, we had a balcony in our cabin, 24-hour-a-day room service, outstanding gourmet food, snorkeling, sightseeing, Swedish massage, have I mentioned gourmet food? - for 10 days straight; I mean, c'mon, how can you beat it by dumping twice as much $$ into a few hours of feeding and entertaining 60 people? The wedding we planned is very small and casual, but this is exactly the way we both wanted it.
P.S. In my previous marriage, the choice was to have a "bang" wedding, or to buy me a car... I chose a car, and we eloped in Vegas... Well, I still drive this car 10 years later, this was one of the wisest investments I've ever made! LOL
The point is, the couple should do whatever makes them happy. I never felt like I was "settling", because I never wanted to have a big wedding anyway.
2006-09-13 10:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think a person's wedding should fit the lifestyle of the couple. If you are a couple who earns and spends a lot of money, then you can afford a big to do. Otherwise, I think it's stupid, unwise, irresponsible. There are enough obstacles to overcome in those first few years without adding significant debt. I agree with you, if in ten years they have the means to have a bash, people will still love a good party.
2006-09-13 10:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never have a big wedding. I didn't have 1 the first time or nor I the second rime. I think it's just for people to show off for others because who wants to stress that much for 1 day. It's a reason for two people to join together and exprerss their love for eachother. I love my fiance and I am happy to marry him in front of my fireplace at my parents and be done with it.
2006-09-13 10:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see what you are saying but i feel how she feels. im about to get married to and yes you can have a big one later but its not the same. you really only get married once so i would go for the big one right off the bat but if they really dont have the money they can plan a beautiful wedding that isnt expencive or wait and save money for another year then walk down the ailse, they have to decide what is more important to them. but it is nice of u to help
2006-09-13 10:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big wedding is not important... happy marriges have nothing to do with the place of marriage. People can get married on a deserted island (with a preacher there) and still live happily ever after.
2006-09-13 10:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of couples now are opting for a small intimate ceremony whne they get married and then choose torenew their vows later that way they can still have the big ceremony, just without entering a marriage in debt.
2006-09-13 10:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by injureddancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the wedding, go to a justice of the peace, and use the money you would have spent on a big wedding to put as a down payment on a house to live in.
2006-09-13 10:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋