how do i get him to understand?

Question

Im 5 weeks pregnant and beginning to feel very emotional and tired, along with all other symptoms. I've been told i should not lift anything heavy or exert myself too much during this period and rest when i need to. However, Im sure my partner thinks Im im playing on this a bit and exagerating it. as a consequence i'm feeling guilty and still trying to do all the things I did before. He is a very loving partner in all other ways but how can I make him understand I need a bit more help?

had miscarriage 3 years ago so extra paranoid this time around

Answer 1

I too am 5 weeks going on 6 weeks. It is a very emotional time as your body is preparing and nurturing this life. It takes a lot out of you both emotionally and physically. You are only speculating regarding what your husband is feeling now I am guessing. Give him a book to read as I did with my husband to make him understand what women are going through. He should not place high expectations on you as before. You are now having his child!

Here is a great website to send your hubby.

http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy/expectingdads/index

This is the book I bought my husband to read to better understand your wife and pregnancy. He will love it!

http://www.powerbooksearch.com/booksearch0789205386.html

Answer 2

i dont know if men will ever understand how yucky you feel when you are pregnant i had 4 kids the first 3 were just a little over a year apart so it was like being pregnant for 3 years lol it was tough the best you can do is rest when you need to and take your mate to the doctor with you let him hear what the doc has to say and the heart beat it makes it a little more real to them so far he sees you as you have always been but hearing that little heart beat seems to flip a switch and they start to understand that there is another person inside there.good luck

Answer 3

We're only pregnant for so long, milk it! You are carrying a human in you and if people can't understand the strain emotionally as well as physically then screw em. We moved when I was 5 months pregnant with my son, I wanted to help but nobody would let me because of my "condition" then I realised this was the first move in my life that I didn't have to do anything. Propably the last as well. Hell yeah, I sat back and enjoyed. That's what you need to do is just sit back and relax because once the baby is born people aren't gonna do for you what they'll do for you now!

Answer 4

Men typically think that pregnancy is a breeze during the first few months. In thier eyes women have been having children for centuries with no real issues, so why should you have any issues. The easiest way to explain to him that you need more help is to explain what is happening to your body. In the first 3 months of pregnancy all of the vital organs of your child are formed, the heart, lungs, brain central nervous system,.etc., and your body is using all of its strength, and energy to help form your child. Even though he may not realize that the simplest tasks now tire you , let him know by not taking really good care of yourself and your body right now, could in all actuallity, put your child in harm. Good luck and congrats on your child.

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel. My husband was exactly the same way at first. It's not that he doesn't care, its just it hasn't set in his head yet that he is going to be a daddy. Start by asking him how he feels, and start showing him things about babies...I used the book What to Expect when You're Expecting. That book explains just about everything about pregnancy. Also make sure he is going with you to the doctor! It's just as much his baby too, and he needs to be there experiencing everything you do! Good Luck hun!

Answer 6

u cant! he's goin to have to see it on his own. i continue to do things through out my pregnancy. ur pregnant not handicap. im the person that doesnt like sympathy for something that isnt that serious. women get pregnant all the time and continue to do all the things they use to do, especially when they have other kids. until the doctor says ur cervix is dilating and ur contractions are close or ur bleeding, keep living ur life! and guys dont see pregnancy as a big deal unless ur at risk or the baby's at risk, which neither of u are. now u can try to convince him to be a little sensitive to ur feelings cause of the hormanal changes but guys are slow on the uh haaa factor of putting 2 and 2 together!

Answer 7

I actually had my doctor write a note...Laugh at that..but it worked. I was on bed rest for a week and he did EVERYTHING because having a healthy baby is well worth it!!

Dear so and so,
Please excuse your partner from doing any heavy lifting..Please not even vacumning around the house. Give her a week of complete bed rest..in about 9 months..she'll be back to normal. Thanks..
SIgned~ Your doctor

Answer 8

BE CAREFULL the first 4 months are really dangerous because you can misscarige very easy, dont lift anything, take him to your doctor with you or go to some websites and show him

Answer 9

get Dr. spock's baby and child care 6 th edition book from the library the first chapter is about trusting your self you know more than you think the 8th part of the chapter is the supportive father and much more you will use it at least for the first year of your childs life let him read part you high lite

Answer 10

Call and talk to your doctor and tell him/her the situation then, have your partner go to a doctors visit with you. Maybe hearing it from your doctor will make him understand. Good luck!!!