We get along great, it's nice and everything but passion isn't there anymore. I'm not even sure I still love him. Is it normal, will I grow out of it or the end?
2006-09-13 02:21:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just my opinion but when you married him it was for better or for worse, right? What your dealing with is CHANGE! As time goes on people change. It doesn't mean you should end it. My advice would be to put some spice back into your relationship. Don't sit around and wait for him to make any moves, because men don't feel the same way we do about things and he may not realize how bored your getting. Plan for a night out or something. Try going out where there are other people to socialize with because sometimes you need that extra company to keep things alive and interesting. Then try it again with just the two of you and go somewhere romantic. Dress as sexy as you can and take the lead. He should notice and it might shake him up! Thats where passion starts. Its worth a try. Good lick!
2006-09-13 02:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you can sustain the same intensity of feelings ("passion") that you had in the beginning of the relationship – however, some people will disagree, I'm sure. What's "normal" for you may not be "normal" for someone else, and vice versa. There are other things that keep a long-term relationship going, like love, friendship, habit; as passion fades, I think these other aspects become more important.
2006-09-13 02:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's so normal you grow old with the constant routine in your life spice it up a little, take him out on a date and hopefully he'll follow suit. Do things that you would normally only do if your dating like flowers, candy, go to resturants and movies. Or set up a date night right at home surprise him in some lingerie when he gets home from work and he's least expecting it, go back to the days where you were first falling in love with him and try to remember why he was so special. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 02:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by YD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a marriage to last, both parties must work at it. Work at rekindling your passion. Reflect back on what made you passionate over him in the past. What has changed to make you lose that passion?
We tend to let our defences down when we are married and become more familiar with our spouse. Are you now seeing the man without his defences? You have to learn to accept him in his true self and apprecaiate the fact that he's the same person you fell in love with in the first place.
2006-09-13 03:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how long you have been married, but there are times that people fall out of love with thier spouse but they always fall back in love with them because they find that spark again. you have to do things to bring the passion back. what was going on before where there was passion? try doing those same things, go on a date, do something romantic...
2006-09-13 02:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal phase you are going through. It's considered you trying to find your identity as a wife. You begin to forget why you're even there in the first place.
Remember how nervous you felt on the first kiss? Or how warm his hand feels on yours, and how perfect they fit together. Imagine him old, how funny it would be. Remember why you felt butterflies every time you saw him. Remind yourself of those little things he does, that would he die today, you'd miss terribly tomorrow.
2006-09-13 02:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mystress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that ALL marriages go through this kind of phase. If you don't love him or you're not sure if you do...see if he'll go to counseling with you...if he says no..then maybe it's time to say good bye.
Sometimes I forget how my life was BEFORE I met my husband. And then all of a sudden it's like..WOW!! How did I get so lucky....but trust me NOT every day is like that!!
2006-09-13 02:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i went through that and she was going throw a depression after are 1 child . 4 year later her and i we happy and very loving the biggest thing is talk and put your feeling out . ask him on a date do romantic things tougher.. hope this help . and good luck
2006-09-13 02:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
passion it a hard thing to live with out ,try doing different and exciting things together ,do things that you never ever thought you would that will star the fire back
2006-09-13 02:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to come from both sides, not only one of you can work on something. Maybe encourage him to do more fun things (in the bedroom or out) with you. It really needs to come from him too though.
2006-09-13 02:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋