see i was taken away from my mom when i was 13 years old and put in a froster home and i have a brother and sister who was also put in a froster home we were split up and now that i have found my sister and brother iam older then them and they are young and still havent been adopted yet. I keep in contact with my real mom all the time and my sister and brother who are in frostercare. they keep telling me they want to come home with my mom but she cant get them her self. my mom is doing very well but she signed away her rights a long time ago i was woundering would i be able to adopt them and give them to my mother because thats where they want to be if i adopt them what is the law will they be legally mine and if i need help will the state help me out a little bit
2006-09-13 01:58:33 · 16 answers · asked by tweety 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Your mom lost custody for some good reason - why on earth would you gvie two small children back to an unfit parent? She had her chance and blew it.
2006-09-13 03:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adoption is solely a matter of statute -- in the USA of state law. In most states, one can freely adopt, and adoption of infant relatives is encouraged.
Once a child is in care, the social services agencies are in control and they have to be convinced it's in the best interests of the child. (Of course getting the child off their rolls reduces their workload; but still the adoptive parents have to be approved.)
There an amusing anecdote about this: in England a teenage girl 's baby was adopted by her mother, the baby's grandmother. The girl married a few years later and had children with her husband. A few years after that, the grandmother died and the girl's biological mother took her into her home as a foster child. She applied for fostering allowances and the social services agency refused on the grounds it was her biological child.
She sued and won. Adoption breaks the legal bond of parentage: in law this was not her daughter but her sister!
2006-09-13 02:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not adopt; as an adult sibling you can seek legal custody. Any state will require that you have the means, and maturity to act as a guardian together with the ability to maintain a suitable long term residence; and have a care plan, including schooling, after school care; means of transport; and access to medical care. If it is your intent to actually have them cared for by your mother who has already given up custody, you can be reasonably certain that guardianship will be denied.
2006-09-13 02:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what's the law. My guess is that if you're 18, they will let you adopt them.
But, before you adopt them, make sure you will be able to handle it. That could be really tough financially (probably the government would help) and emotionally (because of change). (I'm not trying to discourage you)
You said you are thinking of adopting them, then "giving" them to your mom. I don't think it would be wise to "give" them to her, cuz I'm sure there's a reason why she doesn't have them now.
It might be nice to let them spend time with their mother, sometimes, though.
Best of wishes! I hope you can do whatever will be the best for your brother and sister.
2006-09-13 02:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥honey♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely seek legal advice. My first thought would be no, you wouldn't be able to give them to your mother. Depending on your situation and able to provide for 2 children, you may or may not be able to adopt them. As for state help, I would guess that it depends on which state you are in and their laws. Good Luck with everything.
2006-09-13 02:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by dolphinlove_20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need the help- of a very good barrister and be involved with the social services. Your mum has given up her rights to them and so i don't think that they will allow you give them back to your mum if you got custody. if you get custody and i hope you do you may get help from the state but one thing at a time. Good luck. God bless.
2006-09-13 02:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andrew answered correctly on this. Every state is completely different on that area and a lawyer is the only way to proceed with such a complicated situation.
Best wishes.
2006-09-13 02:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple in my church adopted her sister and brother, so I know its possible, HOWEVER, I would suggest that you talk to a lawer, or to your local child protective services about how you could take them in as foster children first, I believe that was the process for them.
2006-09-13 02:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by cyunos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out nolo.com to find out the laws in your state. Generally, you need a father who is willing to step in and play the role of father in order to adopt a child. Due to the circumstances in this case, it may not apply.
2006-09-13 02:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe what you want is 'legal guardianship' of your siblings. (Adpoting them would make YOU their MOTHER) Call your social worker and / or family court commissioner. They can answer your questions for free. Laws vary from state to state, but tend to lean towards the families.
2006-09-13 02:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Cherie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋