2006-09-13 01:53:53 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've recently started seeing a lovely guy, but he told me that he's wife rather not have him around, however he' s kids are lovely. Do I jump into this situation and sort out the x-wife or stand aside and let them sort out their, well, x-family matters?
2006-09-13 01:56:56 · update #1
Well, you can have a little slap ... >x< ... there you go. Didn't mean to hurt. Just take care!
2006-09-13 01:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the "slappers", it is nice to know that regardless of your situation there are still some nice women out there, good for you.
I would not get involved with the mother/wife though, you could end up alienating the children in the process.
Stand by your man, give him strength to fight his own battles. Regardless of our bravado we all need a strong woman if we are to become the best we can.
2006-09-13 02:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by slug dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NOOO, I did the same thing only he has 3 kids.. Ends up he is my soul mate. I wouldn't want to live without him. Hold on you are in for a bumpy ride.. especially if you have kids too I'm hoping the x-wife will disappear some day. Your not silly your just in love. Good luck
2006-09-13 02:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by gurlstylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. Is the "falling" mutual? Do you have kids? If so, how do the combined kids get along. If not, do you want kids? Do you want kids of your own? If yes, you may want to find out if he wants MORE kids. Do you really LIKE his kids? Is the monster x-wife local? Is she really monstrous, or just behaving a bit badly? How recent was their split? Even honest, well-meaning people have a tendency to exaggerate their ex's flaws, and even the most monstrous tend to become less so over time.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 02:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u crazy lol ur in a tuff situation damned if u do damned if ya dont i would run as fast as i could no matter how nice the guy is cause if he is still involved with his x-wife u will always be second best always take it from someone who has been there done that -find urself a nice single man with no past committments
2006-09-13 02:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Miss M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he's divorced and got 2 kids ... no big deal there ... his ex-wife is his problem and you're better off not getting involved
So what's your problem again? ... Oh you just want a slap!
*slap* - Feel better now?
Just enjoy what you have with your man and his kids - hopefully they don't see you as a replacement for their mother?
2006-09-13 02:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap
2006-09-13 01:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only silly if ur not in it 4 the commitment and u dont both want the same thing 4get the x if he respects u more but where the children r involved u have 2 remember its not fair on them if ur not in it 4 the long haul
2006-09-13 01:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by dee r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men with kids/ex wifes r not to be messed with. if the ex wife clicks her fingers no matter how much he says he hates her he will go running. iw ont go with anyone who has an ex in the background let alone kids and looney ex wife. itr all predicts trouble and only u will be hurt
2006-09-13 03:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by i hate you all 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is dead n buried then go ahead get stuck in. But do realise that a lot of x partner's do like to get involved and may cause some trouble.
2006-09-13 02:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there - done that...wish someone had slapped me!
4 years of hell - he's still dancing to the ex-wife's tune and I'm history.
2006-09-13 01:59:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋