My husband does not want more children. I am now pregnant, I took 2 tests, both positive. I am affraid to tell him, fearing that he is going to be upset. I know he is happy where we are, and with all the expenses we've aquired he'll be stressed.
How should I tell him.?
I was thinking just telling him my period is late and seeing where he stands, and after we purchase the test together, he'll be more comferted and not so angry if he knows I didn't keep this a secret.
I caculated my due date, it is on his birthday. Maybe I should teel him that way. I dont know.
2006-09-13 01:44:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you should be honest with him.
2006-09-13 01:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hun! I can only imagine the stress your feeling right now.
Being so worried about what he is going to say or do, I think your idea of gently leading him to that outcome would be best. Once you plant the notion that your late, his brain is going to start working, he'll be stressing out a little. yes...but at least he will be prepared for the result. Then make it known that your scared too and would like some support going to the store to buy a test just to see. And then go from there. I think once he finds out that his new baby will be expected to arrive on his birthday, he we warm up to the whole thing fairly quickly!! That's an awesome b-day present!! So who wouldn't be happy?? ;-)
You know, I've always told my friends that there's never a good time to have a baby. Alot of people are strapped financially these days, but you know what....you make it work. We weren't financially ready for our first, but somehow we made it through. Our second was a complete surprise and couldn't have come at a worse time (financially speaking) but we made it work. My kids are fed, clothed, they have a home, are deeply loved and cherished. And they are happy. Their needs come first.
So, Chin up. Things will work out just fine. Congratulations and Good Luck!!!
2006-09-13 02:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats his baby. If he didn't want anymore children, he should have gotten fixed. This is not your fault. DOn't feel guilty about it. He popped his load, which made the baby! So, therefore, just tell him however you feel comfortable. If you want to tell him your late and go get the pregnancy test together, more power to you!! If he gets angry, hes a punk. I could understand him being a little freaked out or confused or a little upset. But he has no reason to get angry. You also need to get on the ball of telling him too, because you need to get that prenatal care. Good Luck!!
2006-09-13 04:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by hello_heather_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you already know where he stand.(he doesn't want any more). Seems to me there might be other things going on there in your marriage. Your is wife, and you shouldn't be afraid of your husband, if you know what I mean. That's not good. maby the real problem isn't children, maby it's finances. If you had a million dollars, than would another child be a problem? If not, work on the real deal in your marriage.
As for the situation at hand, You will let him know, one way or another. It would be nice if it came from you and not a swollen belly. Its not totally your fault anyway. Remember, it did take too. So what ever went wrong, it still took the both of you. Let him know, ASAP. If you need more advice let me know vaceragreen@yahoo.com
Good Luck.
2006-09-13 01:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by vacera g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought my husband was going to FREAK when I discovered that we were OOPS pregnant with baby #3. Our other 2 were 7 & 5 and we were done. He was actually happy, surprised but happy all the same. I think I was more upset than he was. Just be honest it should be fine. Our 3rd son was born 8/2/06 and I wouldn't send him back for anything!
2006-09-13 02:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth. Let him know that your late and that you have done a test. But to be quite honest he should have been careful as well as you, if you don't want anymore babies you both need to take precautions. Congratulations and the the best of luck
2006-09-13 02:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make a child - you haven't gotten pregnant by yourself. So don't be so afraid of your husband's reaction. Just be honest with him. Who knows, you might be surprised to find out that he is actually happy to have another child though he hadn't want it at first.
Congratulations for your pregnancy! Remember that no matter how hard it may be at times, children always bring joy to a family.
2006-09-13 02:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Elize 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not get pregnant by yourself, so he should not be angry. Tell him your maybe pregnant, your period is late...If he is upset, them point out to him that he can get a vasectomy done and or wear a condom.Its is not just your responsibility. By the way, they have develop a patch for birth control. This may be something you can check out for later. Its easier than a condom and don't have to bother about swallowing any nasty pills and most times you just forget its there, but it gets the job done!
2006-09-13 01:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by La Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea tell him your late then go get a test together. Then you will act surprised. But how would that make you feel? Getting pregnant takes 2. God puts nothing on you that you can not bear.
2006-09-13 02:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by spice2621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest i don't think that he has the right to be upset with u because it takes to to tango he had sex like u did knowing that without protection u can fall pregnant. So just tell him that ur late and u took to test and your pregnant
2006-09-13 01:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him about everything. Maybe get something nice for dinner and tell him. He really can't be mad at you; it's not your fault. It takes two to make a baby, even if you used forms of contraception. Even if he is upset, you are not to blame if you come clean with him.
2006-09-13 01:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Cirrus81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋