i keep getting strong sexual urges for women i dream of havin sex with female friends and colleges. I am in a happy relationship with boyfriend of 3yrs
2006-09-13 00:46:45 · 46 answers · asked by angel eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
angel eyes - i've been through exactly what u're going through. honestly though, you either are or you are not. don't do something because some or other scientist says if you dream about women then you're trying to stifle your inner being or repress yourself in an unnatural way.
No other animal in the animal kingdom makes a natural selection of same sex partners, why, cause that in itself is unnatural. it counteracts the chain of in life's ecosystem.
If you're happy with your b/f then dont hurt him by ditching him because you suspect you have urges for women...thats just lust. i've dreamt since teenage years that i'm having sex with my same sex peers, when i told them they were disgusted, we laughed it off though...
i'm unhappily married, i love having female friends, but i also want kids, and i dont want to confuse any future kids of mine with unnatural bollocks.
oh well, thats just my opinion (but if u do fancy a shage lemme know har har).
2006-09-13 00:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you can choose your sexuality hun.
You obviously have these urges but have you acted on them?
Most women have fantasies of sleeping with women, but that doesn't make you gay hun, you obviously appreciate womens bodies and have strong urges but if your in a loving relationship then i believe that this is probably just a fantasy for you.
Talk to your boyfriend about it, he might understand and perhaps just speaking about it will help you to understand why you feel this way.
2006-09-13 00:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by sonia h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're bi. Or maybe the reason you dream about girls is that you are curious which is not a bad thing, many women are like this. The question is are you in love with your boyfriend? If yes then you should stay with him, however, if you are not & feel more for women then maybe you should give them a try. As i said you may no actually be gay but bi-sexual
2006-09-13 00:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Girl O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must try to kiss a girl that you really like but just make sure she's not a homophobic and see - if you feel it's not right then you shouldn't turn gay but if it was a life changing experience you should turn gay I turned gay 6 years ago and I am still gay and in a relationship going for 7 years.
2006-09-13 01:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Karen D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to get those feelings, it depends on the degree. You seem happy with your man; if you don't know for sure that you are gay then you are not. You just have those feelings and perhaps are a bit curious too. try figuring yourself out before you make a terrible mistake.
2006-09-13 01:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try it out and see how you feel.It could be that you are bi or just curious...but it could also mean that you're gay.Either way,you have to figure it out.Are you happy sexually in your current relationship?Are you comletely fullfilled with your guy or are you just used to him?You must answer these questions to yourself and make the next step..Good luck!
2006-09-13 00:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to bust the bubble here, but you see, this generation is lost, as in totally! You must always return to the Big Picture...that is, the original design... God created man, he created woman from man...He called them Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve or Eve and Ashly! So, by returning to the big picture, you'll see that you are designed for a man, everything about you is beautifully crafted to fit with a man, not with a woman. But as we all know, the deceiver came and the believed the lie instead of the truth... in Romans 1:18 it is written: " The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities- his eternal power and divine nature- have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without any excuse. For although the knew God, the neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles. Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served created things rather than the Creator- who is forever praised. Amen."
You see, the world does not know the Truth, that's why Jesus got crucified...you could easily turn to be gay, but is it what God created you for...does eternity not ring a bell...ding dong...what you do now will echo in eternity...it's never too late to turn to God. God hates sin, but loves the sinner...nobody is better than anyone, for we all have sinned and we are only saved by grace, by the blood of Jesus, not by anything we have done! Grace! Mercy! Forgiveness! Love!
2006-09-13 01:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, just be with both I always believe that a person should always try and please oneself. your relationship for 3yrs should mean something to you so don't go and throw it all away, Have three-some if he is not up for it get a lesbo frend and have her spend alot of time with you a home so as soon as he is away so for it until you come to some conclusion
2006-09-13 00:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why turn gay.dreams dont mean anything.everyone dreams.but that dont mean there what there dreams show.maybe your thinking of that person and would like to see what its like to be with one.but if that does,nt work out then what.is your boyfirend going to take you back after that.you need to look at everything and what your about to loss before you jump in to something that you cant get out of.and if that women likes you in that way also.good luck.
2006-09-13 00:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not gay so "turning gay" isn't possible - it's all to do with hormones and stuff
You're probably bisexual or just curious ... if you ask your boyfriend if you could have sex with a woman, I bet he'd jump at it - as long as he could watch and then join in ... just ask him what he thinks!
2006-09-13 02:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋