The other day my best friend's boyfriend told me that he wanted me instead of her because I was more mature. They have only been dating for 1 month maybe. He is so cute but I don't want to hurt her. She is so in love with him already and I don't think she would believe me if I told her. Even if she did she would still find a way to be mad at me, so should I go out with him and let her know or should I just give it up. I REALLY NEED HELP, I don't want to loose a best friend over a boy.
2006-09-13 00:41:32 · 29 answers · asked by baby gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to be honest with her about it! If he has said this to you, it is quite possible there are others out there. If you want to protect your friend from being hurt you need to tell her. She may not believe you and get mad, but it will help her to see the kind of guy she is really dating. She will come around and see that you were only trying to save her from being hurt. By all means, do not date him yourself! If he does this to her, what makes you think he won't do it you as well?
2006-09-13 00:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by greenmountains84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do: do not go out with him! When they break up, you are going to need to be there to support her as a friend, imagine how she would feel, getting betrayed by both of you!
The main question is whether you should tell your friend or not. I think you should, if she ever found out at a later stage that you had kept it from her, the friendship would be over. She might subconsciously start taking it out on you, because of jelousy, but just stand by her and be a true friend. Tell the boyfriend that there is no chance for the two of you! Good luck
2006-09-13 07:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by BettyJones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do want to lose a friend or you wouldn't think of going out with him.Has he told her how he feels?why should you be caught in the middle?Don't think you are special because he told you that because a male Will say anything to conquer some fresh meat.Let him tell his girl that he 's no longer interested in her and that he prefers you.Let him take responsibility for what he said and then you will know if he's Worth the trouble. I doubt that he 's man enough to to handle the truth but are you?
2006-09-13 07:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the boyfriend you are not interested in hurting your friend. (And you need to believe this yourself...I get the idea from your question that you're definitely waffling!) And then don't have anything more to do with him. If your friend suggests going out on double dates, just give excuses. You need to prove to this guy (and yourself) that the friendship with your best friend is more important to you than any gf-bf interchange. (A lot of guys would hit on you like this, because they just need to prove to themselves that they can have any girl they want. Do you want to be dumped as soon as you put out, because the guy just wanted to add one more notch to his belt.)
2006-09-13 07:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be treading on forbidden waters when you give up a best friend for your BF boyfriend. This dude is a shallow hal and is immature. Let him set his sights on some other victim other than you. You'll keep your best friend friendship intact and will be their for emotional support when this dude dumps her like yesterdays garbage.
You both must be teens! every day is a drama of the yada yada he/said she/said.
2006-09-13 07:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me once. Tell the GUY as long as she has feelings for him, there is no way you're getting involved. If she dumps him or finds someone else, he's free game. Besides, what is his problem? He might do the same thing to you along the line. He's not trustworthy.
2006-09-13 07:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't wanna lose your bestfriend then you have to give way. besides the guy is not worth it, asking somebody for a date when he already has a girfriend, he might do that same thing to you in the future. so better yet tell the guy to stop asking you coz you're not interested.
2006-09-13 07:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by dede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the boy he must tell your friend that he asked you out he will more then likely chicken out and choose to break up with her, if you do it she will only blame you.
If he is prepared to try and cheat with you imagine what else he gets up to
2006-09-13 07:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh oh this kinda happened to me but... my boyfriend ditched me and asked out my friend a couple week after... but i didnt care all thatmuch cause i was kinda over him anyways.. andi had gotten a new boyfriend too.. ANYWHO..
just tell y our friend about it and well i think you should know what to do cause one of your girl friends is better than any guy you can/will ever meet in your life... so yea..
2006-09-13 07:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. If she chooses not to believe you then whatever happens is on her and your conscience will be clear.
Whether you tell her or not, don't go out with this guy. He shouldn't be rewarded for breaking your friend's heart.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 07:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋